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    I would just let it go. People seem to be paranoid that their little boys aren't big enough and their little girls are too big.

    She's obviously got some issues, and you outing her isn't going to change that.

    Just let it go. If you cannot handle her lies anymore the only real question is, "Do you still want her for a friend?"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexi View Post
    She told me on FRIDAY that her son is 19 lbs. (He is 11 months old). TODAY she said he was 23 lbs. So I said, "Are you sure, or did you weigh him recently?" And she says, "Wellll...I weighed him and he was 21 at the docs" (which was like a month ago). LIES!!!!!
    ^^"There are lies, damned lies and statistics."
    - Mark Twain

    Sorry, Lexi, I couldn't resist!

    Seriously, whether they're buzzing, naturally forgetful or plain old contradictory, someone who speaks without considering what they've told me previously can trivialize the quality of our exchanges. When a friend distorts and/or misrepresents minor details unnecessarily, it can even feel as though they're devaluing our relationship.

    Just my , though...

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    I know people like this - they lie about everything. They will say one thing and than 5 minutes later, condradict themselves. I seriously don't think they can help it and I just kind of go with it. It annoys me too but I know if I said anything, it would just make them uncomfortable or in denial and upset and wouldn't change anything in the long run.

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    I knew a guy who would tell you most sincerely totally different stories about the same thing, often during the same conversation. Turned out he was bipolar.

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    I had a friend like that my second year of college. I naively didn't realize it until very late in the year. Once I found out, that was just it for me. Non-stop lies don't work in a friend.
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    omg, why is it so huge?!! lol lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by seraya View Post
    I have a very very close friend who is a pathological liar. She lies about serious issues and she lies about silly trivial small pointless stuff... and it will bother me for days on end. It makes the relationship awkward because you KNOW she is lying, and at times SHE knows that YOU know that she is lying lol.
    Yup me too, a stripper I used to work with. I fucking hated that girl. I got so annoyed and I started pointing out every time she made a new lie up how it contradicted another story she had told me, and it was so bizarre and entertaining to watch her desperate backpedaling. She was the worst fucking liar too. If you're gonna do it at least have some skills. And like you said Seraya, at times she KNEW there was no way I was believing what she was saying and yet she kept up. She lived right near me too so we carpooled to AC a lot, but I put an end to that eventually....

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    I have a friend like this too, she is the sweetest and most awesome girl but she lies constantly. For this exact reason I try to keep a little distance between us. She has siblings, I know this for a fact and one time somebody asked her in front of me if she was an only child and she said yes.

    Animals are my friends, and I don't eat my friends.
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    I have been friends with a girl since the 7th grade. We are close and I know she is a pathalogical liar. But since I know when she is lying and looking for attention, I just shrug it off. I guess I have just grown to accept her the way she is....but sometimes, it is just frusterating.

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    some people are like this (my best friend) - although it doesn't piss me off as I take it that he is a bullshitter and it is what he likes to do.

    Sometimes I need a break from it though so I can understand why it pisses you off from time to time because I feel the same.
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    I, personally, can't be friends with pathological lars. My close relationships have to be based on truth before all else.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ahmeerah View Post
    I, personally, can't be friends with pathological lars. My close relationships have to be based on truth before all else.
    I think this works for dating relationships

    but with friends, I know a lot of people that are liars/bullshitters but I can still count on them if I need them. they just like to tell stories because they feel the need to impress.

    Honesty is key though for other relationships but friends I can look past it as long as it is harmless bullshit.
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    ^^bullshitting is OK. Pathologically lying - not for me. I can be social with them, but they won't be my friends.

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    Quote Originally Posted by youngBUTbanking View Post
    but with friends, I know a lot of people that are liars/bullshitters but I can still count on them if I need them. they just like to tell stories because they feel the need to impress.
    thats pretty much how I feel about it....

    One of my best friends is like this. She makes up the most outrageous shit, but that doesn't change the fact shes a nice person. I know she would be there for me no matter what, even if she is a little weird. She only says that stuff because she is uncomfortable with herself and thinks people will not accept her. I accept her no matter what, and I wish i could tell her "yo, you don't have to impress ME"..... but I know that it makes her feel better to think I believe her crazy stories

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    I would make it a joke that you noticed the lie and see how she handles it... For instance say:

    "Damn girl you got to lay off the weed! Last week you told me he weighed 19lbs! Youre short term memory is going to shit!"

    (even if she doesn't smoke pot, lol. It's a way of bringing up the fact that you know without accusing her of being intentionally deceitful)
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    Perhaps you stopped spending money on her. Strippers need money to operate. They are like coin operated juke-boxes of love.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zinaida View Post
    If you're gonna do it at least have some skills
    Haha for real! Like what is the point in lying if you KNOW that it is not even believable

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    And like you said Seraya, at times she KNEW there was no way I was believing what she was saying and yet she kept up. She lived right near me too so we carpooled to AC a lot, but I put an end to that eventually....
    Yup I know it is so awkward isn't it. But in my situation she is one of my closest friends we have been friends since we were 7 and I love her dearly.

    We had a huge discussion about this though and she admits that she has a problem. Since then she has calmed down a lot with the lying but she still feels the need to lie about dumb minor shit (lol) at times.


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