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    I went back to work tonight after about three weeks off and by the time I left I had gotten into it with two different customers and a dancer. That's not like me at all, but the combination of rude, broke motherfuckers and trashy lowlife dancers became too much for me to handle.

    I just can't do it anymore. I don't know how I'll make ends meet, but there has to be something I can do that doesn't involve strip clubs and my body. I'm going to figure up my monthly expenses, see how much I'd need to bring in as a minimum, and start a job search.

    I always thought I'd plan out the end of my dancing days, but I guess it planned for me. I'm so distraught and pissed about all of this.

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    Oh LORD I am right there with ya. I always think a little time off will make things better, but then I go back and it's the same drama, same assholes, same low money.

    I had a shitty week last week, my most profitable night was $100. Alot of stress, drama, and draining customers. +

    I am on day 4 of "a week off"......we'll see how it goes. Even though it's proven to not help at all in the past, I still always go back with a positive attitude, a smile and a good mood. I am such a fool, I swear.

    I want a "real job" so bad, I don't care if I am working at Target or Wal-Mart........ "something that doesn't involve strip clubs and my body"

    Like you said, "combination of rude, broke motherfuckers and trashy lowlife dancers"....too much for me to handle as well.

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    I'm in the same situation right now. I just recently took 2 weeks off in hopes that it would make things a bit better....and it did, but not as much as I would like. I personally feel trapped, and don't feel like anything positive is coming from me dancing anymore. I'll be honest, I drink to get through the night and then come morning I'm kicking myself b/c I feel so shitty. But it's like what else are you suppose to do? How else do you handle the girls who talk crap about you when you're right there, the cheap customers...etc?

    This is why I decided about a month ago that I will be going back to school in the fall. It will get me into a better place and I feel like I'll be able to grow up more, and hopefully get even farther away from the drama and crap.

    I also think that I will primarily switch to day shifts. It's less money opportunities, but my sanity is way more important.

    I hope you are able to find something that works for you. Good luck!

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    Default Re: I just can't do it anymore

    awe ag. i do hope everything works out for you.

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    I hope it works out too.
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    my husband and I talked tonight. I can't do this job anymore either. I'm finally willing to work anywhere, even if it is less money and days off. I'm tired of the rollercoaster that dancing can be. I'm sick of the silly, sick, rude, nasty customers. I'm sick of the "lowlife dancers", the drugs openly displayed and casual use of them when we can all be brought down by them by one visit of vice to the club.

    Mostly though I think I am just tired and burned out.
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    i think thats why after 6 years im not burnt out. i take a lot of week breaks, one week a month usually straight. maybe if you could incorporate that after a longer break from dancing you wont burn out so fast.

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    I hope everything works out for you, Andygirl.

    I can relate... I'm just trying to pay off a few bills and save up some money before I get too bitter to do this anymore as well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    i think thats why after 6 years im not burnt out. i take a lot of week breaks, one week a month usually straight. maybe if you could incorporate that after a longer break from dancing you wont burn out so fast.
    I've danced for the greater part of 13 years, I wouldn't call this burning out fast. It's more like "finally done," than anything else.

    The suck thing is I have my right hand in a cast for at least two more weeks. I don't think I can do any other work for awhile. But I can't imagine walking back into that club either.

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    i can imagine why that would make work hard to deal with also. 13 years, yeah i can deff see how you would be ready to be done....maybe push it out for another month if you can while searching for another job.

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    Relating, yeah. I definitely want to be done with dancing for a while at least. I.breath.in is right, there are ways to control the stress and burnout, and if I ever get back into dancing I'll try to do more. But I worked myself too hard over the past couple of years and didn't do anything to replenish, and now I am just done.

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    That is how I felt. I eventually got to a point where even my best friend said dancing didn't seem to make me happy anymore. I stopped choosing to dance and got stuck in it.

    Now I have an office job I love. I make half of what I used to, but the paycheck structure is so much better for my financial management that I now have a ROTH IRA and SIMPLE IRA, tons of money in savings, the ability to spend time with my friends and significant others on my terms, and a real ten year plan.

    I've thought about dancing like one night a week or so to keep in shape and make extra money, but the lack of sleep and the loud music, I really couldn't do it now.

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    that's scary to me, because even though i've only been dancing for 2 years, i dont want to wake up one day and say "ok, i cant do this anymore." luckily i should have a few years left in me...

    i hope you find something you do enjoy

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    Default Re: I just can't do it anymore

    not to threadjack, but i think we should have a sticky "how to transition out of dancing and get a job smoothly" thread...

    or maybe there is one?

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    I can soooo relate,I have been out of the club for a year and a half,thinking of going back and trying to get atleast a few more months out of it,money has been so tight.I was lucky enough to have a couple of my regulars giving me money for the last year.One has cut me off totally and the other I only see about once a month if that and he's good for a few hundred,it helps alot but I think he's about to cut me off too.My husband and I can barley pay our bills,our cars are paid for but falling apart mine is in the shop now and l need 1,000 to get it fixed.We took our savings and bought a scooter for me to use and to help with gas,hubby wrecked it on the 4th day after we bought it.Now he's hurt,bikes f'd and I'm out a grand!As for not caring where you work as long as your out that was what I thought too but I now work at a store similar to target (ross) and I only make 6.50 an hr. and I am working my butt off-big boobies are killing my back.I so regret implants now!I am miserable.I really miss alot of things about dancing but cheap asses and slutty dancers isn't one of them.I think finding a "decent" club is EVERYTHING! I know now I have to get my butt a degree in something to ever be able to make more money.Being the easter bunny was a low of low jobs to me.A big reality check.It paid 10 and hr.I worked 59 hrs. each week(3) for 450 bucks. One decent night of stripping.

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    you know im right there with you. Ive been done for over a year now and keep trying to hang on..unsucessfully.... I have to go back tonight after more than a month off and Im scared shitless. I am just not looking foward to it. Gotta remind myself I only have a few more weeks till Im done for ever...

    Good luck with whatever you do...I know exaclty how you feel. Done is done. When it hits you...

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    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    not to threadjack, but i think we should have a sticky "how to transition out of dancing and get a job smoothly" thread...

    or maybe there is one?
    That's an awesome idea! A sticky, or maybe an article.

    I think it IS important to realize that not everybody can dance for decades. My transition out of dancing (temporary or not) isn't without it's bumps, but it's going to be OK. I'm really glad I saved some money, and got some other ventures going that can help support me. I had plenty of warning, though. I realized months ago that I was getting to my sell-by date...
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    The times I've quit it's been sudden. I never had a plan (always thought I would) but when I just had enough (and it sounds like you have) you just leave. Sometimes I think that's for the best. Just to go. Of course I've always ended up back. But you aren't alone in that when you quit it is sudden. It's kinda like having a kid, no matter how much you prepare you never are prepared enough.

    Breaks are a necessary evil in this industry. So is switching clubs if you can. Breaking away, being the new girl again and no one knowing your business can make a huge difference.

    I hope you find something that at least takes the pressure off for awhile. I know what it's like to be at your wits end and literally loath work.
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    Ive worked 8 yrs now with only a 1yr long break. I did phone sex for most of that year. I felt great when I returned. But I aggree with taking a week off each month it gives me something to ook forward to.

    But I fully support any dancer who is ready to move on with her life. Find another career and look forward to it there are lots of things you can do with little to know school - just a little self taught skills whatever you have. And you might still want to come dance a great weekend every few months!

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    IMHO dancing works out best when it's not my ONLY source of income. Or at least when I'm in school working towards some other source of income. When it's all you've got and you totally rely on it to keep a roof over your head, it's so much easier to feel the pressure and burn out. Even if I have another part-time job that just barely covers my living expenses, that's enough to keep me from feeling like I *need* dancing...and of course when you don't need it, the money pours in.

    But that's just me, and maybe you really are just done with dancing and completely over it. If so, best of luck making the transition and finding something else that will make you feel better.

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    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    not to threadjack, but i think we should have a sticky "how to transition out of dancing and get a job smoothly" thread...

    or maybe there is one?
    Did you start one? It's a good idea. Maybe it could be one that is focused not so much on providing emotional support, but on listing resources and concrete strategies that people will likely need? Just a thought.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Brooklynn06 View Post
    I personally feel trapped, and don't feel like anything positive is coming from me dancing anymore. I'll be honest, I drink to get through the night and then come morning I'm kicking myself b/c I feel so shitty. But it's like what else are you suppose to do? How else do you handle the girls who talk crap about you when you're right there, the cheap customers...etc?
    It's like you read my mind. I also do the same thing. Lately it's been taking more and more alcohol to get me through the night. I am finding myself polishing off half a bottle of Smirnoff before I even leave the house, and drinking probaly the equivalent of another half once I get to the club. The anxiety of being there is so great, it totally takes over and I have to drink twice as much I would just normally hanging out with friends. Half a bottle of Smirnoff would knock me on my ass just drinking at home and relaxing, but when I go to the club I drink that much and don't even feel buzzed.
    Oh the bad hangovers too. Mine sometimes last for 2-3days.

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    My husband and I can barley pay our bills,our cars are paid for but falling apart.....
    Same lives me and you, perhaps?
    Our electric got shut off today...what a mess! I was asleep in bed and heard everything shut down. It got hot almost immediately too, I live in AZ and it was about 95 degress outside. I spent all day today sitting in my apartment sweltering waiting for them to turn my shit back on. It got so hot and miserable inside, even with the windows open, that I got a headache and threw up.
    I had to pay the $125 we were past due to get it turned back on so all the food in the fridge that I just bought yesterday wouldn't rot and I wouldn;t die of heat exhaustion.
    And the cars? What a mess. One is sitting in the garage, it's cost over $2000 to get the new motor for it and another $1500-2000 before we will have all the parts we need to complete the project and have it running.
    The other barely runs, we are lucky it even starts up. Every time my husband gets in it to drive to work in the morning we're crossing our fingers it will give us another day.

    WHY ARE WE ALL LIVING LIKE HOBOS AND WE'RE STRIPPERS?!?!?!? IT'S FUCKING RIDICULOUS!! WHAT IS THIS WORLD COMING TO?

    I'm done!!

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    i totally understand and i'm there with you broke/frustrated/"done" girls.

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    Well, after going over my monthly expenses I realized that I can't afford to quit right now. I at least need to pay off some of my bills and get my hand healed up before I can look for another job. If I have a bad night again tomorrow I am going to start working days instead. Maybe that will help. I really hope so.

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    ^ I really hope everything works out for you, and you're able to quit soon. Hang in there

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