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    I'm in the same boat. I just tell them that I am paying back debts and preparing for my master's which is the truth.

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    I would say that although you graduated college, you aren't ready to grow up yet and get a big girl job.

    Or say, hey! I'm stil young and hot! Why wouldnt I work a job where I set my own sechedule and make tons of money while I can? I have plenty of time to sit in a stuffy office for half the money when I'm old and wrinkly!

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    You know I just graduated, but I tell them that I'm going to continue dancing part time while nursing so I can pay to go back to school in the fall for healthcare management! Just say you're going for your master's or something

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    Forget feeling bad about lying. You're creating a fantasy for most of these guys and apparently it's not one of the college grad. So, do what you need to in order to stay productive and prosperous.

    I try to limit how much of the truth I tell these guys because I've found out the hard way that most of them are messy, gossip, will spread your business to other custys and dancers, not to mention, they may even use the information against you.

    You never know who you're talking to these days or who they know, so limiting your conversation to, "you want lapdance" works fine for me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BeBe View Post
    Forget feeling bad about lying. You're creating a fantasy for most of these guys and apparently it's not one of the college grad. So, do what you need to in order to stay productive and prosperous.
    Amen, BeBe!! I was too honest about who I was at my home club, and when I had come back as a big girl/graduate/hardcore hustler, people already knew ALL my business and weren't as interested once they figured out I was so "accomplished" You are an actress. You don't have to "prove" that you are a "smart stripper". Let them think what they want and get your money.
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    Don't worry about it. You personally may have graduated but for that plucky girl who's in the club every night, math is hard.

    I found that saying "I graduated" after I did seemed to rub guys the wrong way. Esp. if they did not get a degree, it can kick up weirdness.

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    I'm totally upfront about graduating. My money is the same as before if not better.

    I'm dancing until I go to grad school and don't want to get a M-F 9-5 and the money's better. I tell custies that and they're cool with it.

    I'm totally of the opinion that it's all about your attitude and the way you carry yourself when it comes to making money in this game.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anomar View Post
    I found that saying "I graduated" after I did seemed to rub guys the wrong way. Esp. if they did not get a degree, it can kick up weirdness.
    BINGO. I think this is the real deal going on here.

    I also think that the way my club is structured has a lot to do with it too.
    At loveandluxury's club, which has a faster natural pace, I don't think it would matter too much. But my club 20 minutes away has a much slower sit and talk all night hustle, at least if you are going to make the big $$$. The guys want to feel like they connect with you, and if they get all weird feeling that you graduated and they didn't, you've ruined it. They'll get one dance and that's it.

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    Forget feeling bad about lying. .

    Amen! I mean, it's not like these guys are being exactly honest with us!!
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    ^^ I know, but at my club where I'm often expected to sit and talk with one or two guys all night, and then perhaps that guy will become my regular, I have a hard time keeping the story straight.

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    i dont have this problem, but i have a day job so maybe thats why.

    i did have a club regular ask me why i was still there if i was done school. i got really rude with him and avoid him now, actually, because it irritates the hell out of me to have to explain my decisions to people.

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    I def don't want to tell people that I just graduated! I used to hate telling them I was in school, too. Sometimes I did lie and said that I had taken a few classes, but wasn't sure what I wanted to do. Problem I ran into was explaining what I do most of the time, since I used to only work 2 days a week.

    I wouldn't feel bad about lying. Like people said, they always lie to us. Also, you're there for the fantasy. It's not really undermining your accomplishments as long as you know yourself that what you did was an accomplishment. They don't matter; all that matters is what's in their wallets.

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    Yeah, how many of the guys have you met every night are engineers? Get the fuck outta here!!
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    I lie about it because I felt it killed my money a bit. I will tell the truth if I read the customer right.

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    Quote Originally Posted by anomar View Post

    I found that saying "I graduated" after I did seemed to rub guys the wrong way. Esp. if they did not get a degree, it can kick up weirdness.
    yep. A lot of these guys feel threatened and/or jealous..think about it. You already have the world at your feet because you're a hot young girl, and you're making what looks to them like "easy money": hundreds of dollars a night just for getting naked and being cute. (WE know it's not as simple as that, but that's all THEY think stripping is.) And now you've got a college degree too?
    You can almost SEE some of these guys thinking "life isn't fair". And then they get butthurt if their lot in life doesn't look that great, and then it's "well she's already got everything in the fucking world going for her, why should I give her my money?"

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    I think guys like to think of strippers as they think of strippers-and these thoughts don't include the stripper to be educated. Education/power is the image they have of a girlfriend or wife. I think a lot of guys want to be comfortable and think of us as objects. They want to release their fantasies with us, not have to worry about what we think or feel.

    When I used to share that I was in school early on as a dancer, I found a lot of guys want to date me. They promoted getting to know me, not as much the dance. It was as though they would dance with me to get to the ideal OTC girlfriend experience they wanted. A big thing was the talk of dinner dates...

    As entertainers, I think the only right thing to do is to cater to the fantasy. I'm a nurse, and going to be a nurse practitioner. I wouldn't dream of telling the guys this (except some regulars) or even dancers. Most are jealous and imagining that I must think I'm better than them or something. Stupid (sorry, couldn't help that!).

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    Quote Originally Posted by made_of_sequins View Post
    yep. A lot of these guys feel threatened and/or jealous..think about it. You already have the world at your feet because you're a hot young girl, and you're making what looks to them like "easy money": hundreds of dollars a night just for getting naked and being cute. (WE know it's not as simple as that, but that's all THEY think stripping is.) And now you've got a college degree too?
    You can almost SEE some of these guys thinking "life isn't fair". And then they get butthurt if their lot in life doesn't look that great, and then it's "well she's already got everything in the fucking world going for her, why should I give her my money?"
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    Congrats, Natalie!

    I'm not there to give away the most relevant, important facts of my life to customers, as it would likely ruin the fantasy. There's a limit on how much of me gets sold in a dance, especially since the guy isn't paying for the real me, the one with a history and problems and blah blah. In all honesty, however, a little bit more comes out in different degrees with different folks.

    I really do think revealing my situation would raise too many questions that would require other explanations that I definitely am not giving out. No matter what I let on, I let them know how much I enjoy my time in the club and convey the fun vibe more than anything. What comes across is that I'm happy with my path and excited to see my plans go forward as I'm enjoying my time dancing.

    I have never played dumb, ditzy, or blitzed party girl, so this story (even with the details left out) fits my persona without being too threatening or too involved.

    I don't see that they're "owed" anything from me other than dances and entertainment, and I do my best to make them feel special.

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    you're making what looks to them like "easy money": hundreds of dollars a night just for getting naked and being cute. (WE know it's not as simple as that, but that's all THEY think stripping is.)
    A lot of truth here. If a guy guesses at how much I'm making that night ("You girls must make a killing in here! Like ___ dollars tonight!"), he's generally off in overestimating by $200-500 or more. I neither agree nor disagree when they're probing this way; I redirect the conversation back to something about him.
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    Anyhow..... Congrats on Graduating!!!

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    well congrats! a lot of custys ask "what are you doing here if your in college" and i simply say i need money to pay for it - which is true. i work with a woman who has a degree in nursing, works at the hospital one day a week. she also bartends, and strips 2 days a week. from what i know she does tell customers this and she does pretty good every night....funny thing about it is she has a daughter a few yrs younger than me and 2 other kids that don't know she strips

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    Yeah, I'm so totally not going to talk about my education. Because that would lead to a long digression about how they're not very employable degrees and way too much of my personal life. I'm going to say I did some college and now I'm going back, which is true too -- so there.
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    You could try telling people although you just graduated you're trying to save money to travel for a year before you settle down in a "proper job" and push papers till you retire.

    Makes them think their own lives are depressing, and you seem exciting and adventurous.
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    thanks for the congrats guys!

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