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    So I've been working two weeks now. I've noticed that even though "all the money's in lapdancing," there is still a good handful in other parts of the job. I don't mean dirty extras! More specifically, i mean money from stage sets, conversation, games, or "just because."

    I usually pick up between $3-10 for a stage set during the day, but $20+ at night. I've seen girls literally "rake" the stage after their set, piling up a HUGE mountain of cash that must be more than $50.

    I've also gotten between $20 to $100 just for chatting with a customer, about... his job, my asthma, china, whatever. I don't ask for it, they offer it politely purely out of their own volition, seperate from dance hustles. Sometimes i offer quick backrubs or a mediocre astrology consultation.

    I've also gotten $20s for ABSOLUTELY NO REASON. They pull out a bill, smirk, and say "Here," or "This is for you," and my best guess is that these type of men just have so much money that they get even bigger kicks if they give it away instead of an exchange (i.e. dances).

    My questions about the last type (free money) is, how often do other dancers experience this, and am I missing something?
    Like, is this part of unspoken etiquette that "means" other good/bad things? Am I doing something right, should i be doing MORE, and does this happen all the time with other girls?

    Obviously, it's really awesome, but it's also kind of unusual and suspicious. I don't want to be offending any customers if i'm SUPPOSED to follow up with some kind of response after that.



    Please, tell me about your non-lapdance experiences/techniques!

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    You need to remember it's NOT for no reason; your time is money and it's valuable. You should never sit for free. They aren't just "giving" you money; you're entertaining them, which is your job.

    That'll go a long way towards helping you get more "tip-for-time". It was something I struggled to learn at the beginning as well.

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    I'm just suuuppppper cheeky and get complimented on my personality a LOT when working. I go "OMGOMGOMGOMG... LOOK... you can put money IN MY GSTRING!" and I show people. "OMGOMGOMG... you can put money on your HEAD and I can take with my BOOBS! Watch!!" and have them do it.

    Today I made no less than $150 in tips just off 3 two song stage sets at a PUB. IN NO TIPPING MAN'S LAND.


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    ^Hahahaha, thats hilarious. I would look so goofy doing that but I really wanna try LOL!

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    The whole idea is to look goofy and like you're having fun. Nobody wants a stripper who's mouth looks like her asshole. The sourpuss look is out.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    The whole idea is to look goofy and like you're having fun. Nobody wants a stripper who's mouth looks like her asshole. The sourpuss look is out.
    so true.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cherry_sin View Post
    You need to remember it's NOT for no reason; your time is money and it's valuable. You should never sit for free. They aren't just "giving" you money; you're entertaining them, which is your job.

    That'll go a long way towards helping you get more "tip-for-time". It was something I struggled to learn at the beginning as well.

    You're right. My job title is "entertainer." I totally forgot... I've been calling myself "dancer" and forgetting that I'm expected to do more than just dance.

    I'm going to go in to work on Sunday and try to think of myself in a different light- I'll be the best "Entertainer" in the room, as well as a dancer, and let's see if that gets me even more "tips-for-time." I'm excited!

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    Quote Originally Posted by cherry_sin View Post
    You need to remember it's NOT for no reason; your time is money and it's valuable. You should never sit for free. They aren't just "giving" you money; you're entertaining them, which is your job.

    That'll go a long way towards helping you get more "tip-for-time". It was something I struggled to learn at the beginning as well.
    Agreed! You're at work, sweety!

    But yes, some men are more interested in talking, I asked one guy why once and he said he never had the guts to talk to pretty girls and he wanted some experience. Heh, not smart on my part, but I told him a stip club wasn't the place to learn...

    Be careful though of the ones that just hand you money out of nowhere. They think they are clever, laying 'ground work'. These I find to be the types that think all women carry a price, and that they can woo you with money and come in a few days and just hand you cash and be guaranteed some kind of out-of-the-club date. It's tricky to deal with them at first, but of course you cannot forget the rules. 5 grand, 5 bucks, or 5 million, never give a number or date them. They will TRY VERY HARD. Just be flirty and firm.

    I had some guy come in, tip me fifties and twenties for a week straight, then come in explaining his plan to make me his lady to shower gifts upon, how his "baby momma" would never have to know, etc. Screw that. You're working and clientele is clientele. Nothing more.

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    i actually make more money from tips/convos/making funny comments than i do for dances.

    i frequently (less frequent recently.. because its been so slow) have shifts where i'll go home with like 300 bucks and have only done 1 or 2 dances.

    of course, there are also days when ALL of my money came from dances, but those are less frequent (and usually exhaust me). heh

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    Wow, I never get money other than lap dance money. I don't even try though. I might try some of Lysondra's lines to get more money, but I don't see the tipping for convo thing working too well in my club.

    The only time it happens is when it's instigated by the customer. Last night an old guy gave me $100 for chatting with him, he said he didn't want dances, but he liked my company. Of course, I wasn't thinking AT ALL last night. I should have said, well, lets talk more in VIP, where it's comfortable and we can just work something out...I guess I was just happy with the $100 since it was the end of my shift and I'd only sat with him for like 5 minutes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lilymiaomiao View Post
    So I've been working two weeks now. I've noticed that even though "all the money's in lapdancing," there is still a good handful in other parts of the job.
    ..........

    Like, is this part of unspoken etiquette that "means" other good/bad things? Am I doing something right, should i be doing MORE, and does this happen all the time with other girls? Obviously, it's really awesome, but it's also kind of unusual and suspicious. I don't want to be offending any customers if i'm SUPPOSED to follow up with some kind of response after that.
    First of all, all of the money is NOT in lapdancing. Does your club have VIP or Champagne rooms? THAT is where the money is if your club has it. That's where you get paid to sit on your tush for a set amount of time!

    Also, as for customers handing your money for your time or beauty, unsolicited... take it. Don't worry about it. It doesn't always have a hidden meaning. What you DO seem to be missing out on is the huge flag that should go up when they hand you money like this. That should automatically tell you that they're interested in you and that they have money to spend. That flag says VIP!!! Sell them a private room if your club has one!! Let us know if your club has private rooms/room and we can further assist you with a hustle that is more specific to your situation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by holiday View Post
    Wow, I never get money other than lap dance money. I don't even try though. I might try some of Lysondra's lines to get more money, but I don't see the tipping for convo thing working too well in my club.

    The only time it happens is when it's instigated by the customer. Last night an old guy gave me $100 for chatting with him, he said he didn't want dances, but he liked my company. Of course, I wasn't thinking AT ALL last night. I should have said, well, lets talk more in VIP, where it's comfortable and we can just work something out...I guess I was just happy with the $100 since it was the end of my shift and I'd only sat with him for like 5 minutes.

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    the key is being able to find those types of customers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Irelynx View Post
    Same here. We'll all count at the end of the night & discuss whether it was a good or bad night. And usually I get "yelled" at (not angrily, but "how?!" type) for making so much when I did so little. They'll say they don't know how I do it, even more-so because I dance clean, & they'll ask me. My response is always the same. I honestly don't know because I watched everyone else work their asses off doing dances all night (and trying to dance dirty & getting yelled at for it), while I sit around looking lazy. Before I count my money I always think "I probably didn't do that well, I don't remember making much and I only did a couple dances" (which are $5 each).

    Then I realize that the reason is because I have a good attitude, always look happy & have fun, which gets me a lot of tips for chatting, or just doing a drive-by "butt shaking", or it gets me a $10-20 bill for a $5 lapdance. Sometimes you just get guys who just like giving a $20 to a cute girl for looking good/fun & being good entertainment. I always say to just enjoy it & hope it lasts, lol.
    i always go through an adjustment period with new DJs. i can tell they're sitting up there like "aww fuck. this girl isn't going to tip me shit, she hasn't done many dances"

    then i give them 20-sometimes-50 bucks at the end of shift and they're like "what? you don't have to do that. i know you didn't make much" or something. then i have to be like "no. i did. really."

    lol.

    it can be kind of frustrating with other girls though (especially new ones). they assume you're hustling/planning to meet customers/etc because they're giving you money for "nothing".

    and it's true what was said earlier, it's not for nothing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    I'm just suuuppppper cheeky and get complimented on my personality a LOT when working. I go "OMGOMGOMGOMG... LOOK... you can put money IN MY GSTRING!" and I show people. "OMGOMGOMG... you can put money on your HEAD and I can take with my BOOBS! Watch!!" and have them do it.

    Today I made no less than $150 in tips just off 3 two song stage sets at a PUB. IN NO TIPPING MAN'S LAND.
    this makes me wish my boobies werent itty bitty. i wonder if i could try this with my buttcheeks. or would that just be gross

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    i actually make more money from tips/convos/making funny comments than i do for dances.

    i frequently (less frequent recently.. because its been so slow) have shifts where i'll go home with like 300 bucks and have only done 1 or 2 dances.

    of course, there are also days when ALL of my money came from dances, but those are less frequent (and usually exhaust me). heh
    Yep. Most if not all,of my highest earning nights were from guys paying me to sit and talk...the nights I bust ass selling and doing dances I never make as much as ONE lonely guy who wants company and has money to spend.

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    It is completely COMMON for guys to throw money at you without having danced for them, and to give you a lot extra for a couple dances.
    For instance, last week I sat with a guy who said the usual, "you're so beuatiful..." thing and he pulled out a $20 and asked, "where can I put this? I wanna put it someplace sexy!" Naturally, I offered the side of my thong, but STRANGELY enough he declined that and placed it in btw my breasts with my dress ON. He had a friend with him, and I was called to stage right after he put the $ in my dress. On stage, his friend came up with a $20 and I got all appreciative and offered my g-string again, and he, too, shook his head and placed it in my hand. I took the time to bend down and thank him, and he kissed my hand. Awww, it's times like those that make you actually like your custys!
    Then, last night, I spent so long with this guy and his broke-ass-grabby friend (they were total opposites). He had payed me for a couple dances and for just sitting on his lap - then I grabbed his friend's sunglasses and started dancing and posing for them: he was mine. He wanted to go to VIP, but didn't want to leave his drunken friend so he offered me my cut of the room w/o having to go, which is $400. But I, maybe stupidly, insisted that we go anyway for the hour and get a bottle (I get 10% tip out waived when I sell a bottle). So we went, he was fantastic and tipped me an extra $300.
    Anyone have a guy want to just GIVE you the $ for VIP or CR and not want to actually go? What should you do? Take it, or live up to your role as the entertainer to earn it back there?
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