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    do you somtimes feel for lack of a better term emotionally stunted being a dancer? I know that being 28 and one of the older girls at work i am consistantly hanging out with younger girls, and i sometimes wonder if it affects my maturity levels. i talk to people my own age that are not in this industry, and they seem so much more downtempo, reserved and "grown up".

    is it the younger girls i work with, or the fact that i live a much more carefee job with lots of leeway and free time and lots of fun? i dont know.

    has anyone else felt this way?

    if being "mature" means acting old and tired and cranky all the time, then ill take being immature.

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    I've never felt that it was the job to blame for my immaturity. It's just the way I choose to be!!

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    I don't think it's the job either. I'm 28 as well and I've just always felt way younger than my age. I see other people my age that I went to school with all settled with a family and kids and they never go out anymore and here I am partying it up and kicking it with younger people...it's just my personality I guess. I don't see myself ever being old and stuffy acting...lol.
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    Quote Originally Posted by reese_x_c View Post
    I'm 28 as well and I've just always felt way younger than my age. I see other people my age that I went to school with all settled with a family and kids and they never go out anymore and here I am partying it up and kicking it with younger people...it's just my personality I guess. I don't see myself ever being old and stuffy acting...lol.

    me too, it seems such a downer.

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    ^^^Yep (to Glamazon). I'm a kid at heart and always will be. Plus, I very rarely socialize with girls at work. I'm always out on the floor trying to make as much moolah as I can.

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    Quote Originally Posted by virgoamm View Post
    Plus, I very rarely socialize with girls at work. I'm always out on the floor trying to make as much moolah as I can.
    oh trust me i am also, but i mean just the general interactin/drama on a regular night as well as the end of the night conversations in the dressing rooms.

    i know some girls socialize together more then i do at work, but either way the atmosphere isnt exactly like being in an office enviornment where convos around the watecooler are based on vacations, home remodeling, and childrens soccer practice.

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    I see your point. Since I have two "worlds" actively going on (I'm a full-time nurse and a part-time dancer), I completely agree that my dancer friends are with different ideas/lives than my nursing friends. It's not that one is more mature or something, but more about different experiences.

    Sadly, I've been so taken advantage of by my dancer friends. They tend to be very genuine and well-meaning, but don't deliver. I've never gotten money back I've loaned (I actually sold my used-car to a dancer, expecting payments, yet got only one), timing of meetings often aren't met (or show up late), money is often lacking (limiting our options, or needing to borrow), and emotions tend to sway from extremely happy to downright pissed (not to mention seemingly endless bad choices). I consider all this to be related to lack of day-in-day-out life lessons/experiences, as I see the dancers I'm thinking of to be very kind people, really.

    Dancing offers us the ability to get used to getting rewarded based on things that the real world doesn't exactly reward us on. Honesty, integrity, and solid values are respected and rewarded in the real world. Looking hot, playing games (any way to make money), and hustling hard work in the club. Doing the former 40 hours a week or doing the latter 40 hours a week can really form habits in someone.

    Just my experience.

    BTW, as for the "oldness" of people in normal jobs, it's more about their lifestyle choices, whether they have kids, etc...just like dancers. Some of my nursing friends are the hottest, most fun people when we get out of the hospital. So, not truly fair to judge people during their professional or family time you might be seeing them in. They just don't act loose and crazy at certain times.
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    I tend to get annoyed with the flaky kid dancers, so I only have a couple of young stripper friends (and they're exceptionally mature). My friends either aren't strippers or they're older ones who treat work like work and not just a party.

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    I dont hang out with the young flakey girls at work either. They annoy me. I prefer people closer to my own age, either chronologically or mentally. So they dont really affect me except to make me glad I'm NOT 19 anymore!!LOL

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    I don't socialize at work at all, whether on the floor or in the dressing room. Outside of work I have friends of all ages and professions.

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    Granted I've formed professional relationships at work with certain girls all who have been their the same amount of time as me or longer. We joke around, shoot the breeze, occasionally list to each other vent, and band together when there is a whore we must get rid of. We have mutual respect, but I don t see them outside of work, I prefer to keep my two lives separate. Work is still a business, and every one is competition, it's a rat race.. or as Darwin put it :"The strongest will survive.."

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    when I see women my age I'm shocked. I'm 39 and most women my age seem really old to me.

    I'm the oldest dancer at my club but I don't really socialize with the girls that are younger than me. Most of them are the older girls 26-34. If you were to put me in a social situation with women my age I'd be out of place.

    Some days I feel my age, some days I don't. but when I see women ,y age I'm thankful that I don't look or act like them. I feel younger than I am and I love my life.

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    I don't feel that way. There's tons of girls I work with that are closer to my age, I'll be 32 in Aug. The oldest dancer at our club is like 43.
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    Never thought of myself as one of the older dancers. I'll be 28 in a few months. I do feel old around the 18-20 year olds though.

    I find that the younger girls are more interested in traveling in packs and socializing outside of work. I'm "friendly" with girls there no matter their age, but not really friends with anyone.

    I do think the job allows for a more care-free lifestyle. That doesn't mean we're immature. One of the job requirements for stripping (should be at least) is to be fun-loving. You can be fun-loving and responsible or fun-loving and irresponsible. There are girls in their 30's that I work with that have to call a cab every night because they're too fucked up to drive, and there are girls in their young twenties that know when to chill and cut it off at 12 or 1am.

    I think we all feel residual guilt from time to time for choosing to dance because we've made an occupational choice that most other women fear. For that, many of us feel we have to justify what we do both internally and publicly. The choice to dance can profoundly separate us from other people no matter the age group.
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    Youth fades, immature is forever.

    As a 25 year old, a lot of my friends are getting married and having kids. They're miserable and bored. I'm ok with my life. As long as I have a normal job, college degree, and everything I wanted out of stripping by 30, I'll be happy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by paintgoddess View Post
    I find that the younger girls are more interested in traveling in packs and socializing outside of work. I'm "friendly" with girls there no matter their age, but not really friends with anyone.
    yeah as much as i love some of the girls i work with i would not want to hang out with most of them out of work.

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    I'm 26 and plan on dancing til at least 30....hehehehe

    But you know what? I don't have those dreams of growing up, leading some life in the suburbs, blah...

    I think it's less that we're emotionally stunted by being strippers than we are just carefree individuals choosing a non-conformist path...
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    a lot of the dancers at my club are over 25, and a lot of them are over 30. for the most part, even when they seem "adult", talking about their kids and houses and all that, they still sound more like teenagers who are mature for their age rather than real grown ups.

    people like us have to pay the bills somehow.

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    I'm married to two people both over thirty, neither dancers, who lead a young lifestyle. A sedate lifestyle in certain ways -- we don't party out -- but we're all the same not interested in having kids or living in the suburbs or having shit to pay off or becoming more cynical about the world, and we don't like to work all the time etc. I hooked up with them because of our compatible ways of thinking.

    It's not just a dancer thing. :-)
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    i don't feel this way, but i hang out with girls my age (im 29) or older mostly. theres a looot of girls at my club so the age range is more broad than other places ive worked. at my first club i was the second oldest girl... and that was 2+ years ago. i dont think i felt stunted back then either, but i didnt really hang out with anyone cept for the one girl who was older than me. lol

    but.. i started dancing when i was 25. that might have something to do with it. i had other jobs before stripping. i've noticed that most of the older girls who seem "stunted" have been doing it since they were 18 or so. of course... others whos been doing it that long are just fine maturity-level-wise.

    maybe you're just not rounded enough? like, maybe your exposure is just limited to the club and what goes on there.

    and being older and more mature doesn't have to mean being bitter or "acting old". i'm still very young in a lot of ways, i just tend to also be grounded and responsible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VegasPrincess View Post
    I'm 26 and plan on dancing til at least 30....hehehehe

    But you know what? I don't have those dreams of growing up, leading some life in the suburbs, blah...

    I think it's less that we're emotionally stunted by being strippers than we are just carefree individuals choosing a non-conformist path...
    i think you hit the nail on the head here.

    i work with about 25-30 girls at my club total. theres only 5 of us my age and older. most are between 19-23. it just seemed logical since im around so many younger people. when im out with "older people" all they seem to want to do is talk about the great aluminum siding they just got on their house or other mundane things with great excitement.

    obviously my stories about interesting custies at work are a little more out there, and hard for them to swallow. sometimes i almost feel guilty for all the fun i have in my life...lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    when im out with "older people" all they seem to want to do is talk about the great aluminum siding they just got on their house or other mundane things with great excitement.
    Omfg. Lol!!!!

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    seriously i had a convo with a friend for 45 minutes on how her and her hub just refinished their homes wood flooring and restored it to original 1930s something or other....lol.

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    No. I was a late starter to dancing and Ive felt young before dancing, post dancing, always. At 37 I still feel like a teenager and I am not expecting to grow into boring any time soon (-:

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    but.. i started dancing when i was 25. that might have something to do with it. i had other jobs before stripping. i've noticed that most of the older girls who seem "stunted" have been doing it since they were 18 or so. of course... others whos been doing it that long are just fine maturity-level-wise.

    maybe you're just not rounded enough? like, maybe your exposure is just limited to the club and what goes on there.
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    obviously my stories about interesting custies at work are a little more out there, and hard for them to swallow. sometimes i almost feel guilty for all the fun i have in my life...lol.
    Pretty_Penny has a great point. I also started dancing at 25 and had many jobs before that which puts stripping into perspective for me. I've made the same observations as her.

    As for feeling guilty... that's the residual guilt I was talking about. It's a bit isolating to feel you're the only one with the fucked yet fun experiences we have at work and to have the money we do with the freedom we experience. Our barometer for excitement is seriously skewed from others. Wood floors get me hard and all and god knows I'll talk about anything... but I'd rather talk about the guy that wants me to take him to VIP next week and dance for him while he's blindfolded. I mean... seriously!
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