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    Does anyone feel that since they make a good amt of money, they must tip everyone well? For instance, I went to the bar last night and got 3 drinks, appetizer, and a wrap. For each drink, I tipped a little over $2. I usually tip an exact $2, but I didn't feel like messing w/the change. The total cost of the meal was about $16 and I tipped $5. Is that dumb on my part? Part of me feels like I should share the wealth since I'm lucky to be making money and know how it feels to be tipped well in the service industry (I've also been a waitress/bartender). Another part of me feels like I shouldn't go around so carelessly w/my money b/c I work hard to earn it, despite what others may think.

    I'm trying to pay off my last semester of 4-yr college, save for vacations, and save for getting a phd. I make alot compared to others per hour, but it's not like I work 40 hours/week. Hrm...

    I guess what made me notice this first was watching other people who are/have been in the service industry tip. I know, I should do what I feel is right, but I'm starting to feel just plain dumb. Last night I watched my bf's sister tip a little less than 15% on her bill at the bar. She's been a waitress, beer tub girl, and bartender. I used to watch others tip and think that they haven't been in the service industry, so they don't understand. But more often I'm seeing everyone tip not so well. Maybe I really should just keep things to 20% tip and only tip extra if service was superb?

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    i tip well everywhere part of it is karma and part of it is the fact that i know i appreciate good tips and sometimes it can make my day.

    once in a while around holidays ill leave a hundred dollar tip for a small meal at a restraunt.

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    I tip a lot regardless, for karmaic reasons and because it just makes me happy to tip well.
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    just makes me happy to tip well.
    that too!

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    I feel hypocritical working on tips for a living, and stiffing people by not tipping them enough.

    If someone need to save money, they shoud eat at home more, not tip less when they go out.
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    Exactly. Waitresses are making $2.13 an hour in most of the country. If you can't afford to tip, then you can't afford to eat out. Tipping karma always comes around!

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    I totally believe in tip karma!! You should definitely over tip....plus when you think about it, the difference between leaving a good and a bad tip isn't that expensive, but having been a bartender, it makes a big difference in how I feel about a customer... like say if you had 20 dollars worth of food...twenty percent is four dollars, but customers that would tip in the 6-8 dollar range made me feel better. So in spending an extra few dollars you are making somebodys nite better...

    PLUS you might be doing yourself a favor....I mean I know as a bartender if you over tip me I will buy you drinks and giving you a better service!

    Now I have had some customers when I was bartending who would no shit get one eight dollar drink and leave a twenty. Awesome, yes, but I can't afford to do that. I can afford to leave a ten tho!
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    I tip average... I have to force myself to tip average (unless I am impressed with the person). We work so hard for our tips that we have to work to recognize when someone is just doing a sub-par job. Doing an "average" job in a strip club isn't the same as doing an "average" job as a pizza-delivery guy.
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    ^ I overtip. I just do. Good service is part of the experience I'm after and if I get great service, I tip great. Even if it's a little shoddy , I can't bring myself to undertip . I've undertipped one time in the last few years and that's because it was truly awful ( tactfully explained to management ).

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    I alwyas tip very well, minimum being 20%, but more if the service was excellent or I feel generous. Once at this small hole in the wall diner the waitress was so nice I knew I could make her day by leaving a gret atip. SO for a $10 meal, I left $30. It really did make her day. As I was walking out, I heard her telling her co workers how awesome and wonderful and now she could go get her nails done after work. That made me feel really happy all day that I brightened someone else's day.

    Also, I like to tip well because a lot of people assume young people don't tip well. S I like to proove them wrong by leaving a nice tip.

    Pizza delivery gets a standard $5 tip anymore...just cause gas prices are so high I feel bad.

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    ^From what I've heard, they are compensated for gas and mileage on their cars.
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    I've always been a good tipper, more so since I started dancing.
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    You're a good tipper. It's a personality trait/way of life, like having a nice laugh or tithing.

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    I always try to tip well because like other posters said "what comes around goes around.." but times have changed and my money has changed too. I'm not going to tip over a certain percentage if I'm making less money. I'm going to tip in "MY" means. When I do better so do you...

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    I tip everywhere else as well....my ex best friend who was in the service industry as well never liked to tip more than 15% and iif the service was excellent, then I tipped 20%. I just think of it as karma, it will come back to me somehow.

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    I always try and tip well. Always at least a dollar a drink and around 25% for food and a couple bucks for takeout.

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    BTW, what is the appropriate tip for a trip to the salon? I err on the side of tipping quite a bit but I'm wondering what the "official" amount is.
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    It's good to know I'm not the only one who does that!

    Yeah i mean my plan is to still tip well...but just not if they didn't do well. when i say i currently tip well, i mean even if the service isn't necessarily even good. like...my extension person told me last time to get to her salon at 11:30 for her to take out my extensions. At 12 noon, she took me. The total was $50. I would usually tip $20, but since I was waiting 1/2 hr I tipped $15. In reality, I prolly should've tipped more like $10 (which would've been a good 20% even tho I had waited). And true, $5 doesn't make much of a difference, but it does add up, and I can't just stop getting my hair/nails/etc done, as it's part of business. And it's not like I don't have enough to not tip well, it's just if people don't deserve it, I feel like a sucker for doing it when that money could be going towards my education. Basically, I feel like I let people see they can not give me as good treatment as others, but still probably get a better tip than others give them.

    ^ For the salon, I would think 20% is for good service, and 15% is for mediocre...like food. But that's just a guess.
    Honestly, I dunno if I believe in the whole if you give alotta money you will get alot. I think it's true when it comes to things like...tipping a bouncer well, as he'll be more likely to point you in the direction of money. In general, tho, I really think people just notice more that when they've treated others well with money that they get (possbily) money in return.

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    Whatever happened to tipping for the level of service? It used to be that you only got a tip if you were a great server. Now its expected. Anyway, if they aren't working hard enough or doing a good enough job, don't feel bad about tipping poorly, they can make more by trying harder. Its the same way with us.

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    Who cares what other people are doing. If you like being a good tipper and can afford it then go for it. However if your trying to save money and tipping extra is stopping you from doing that then maybe eat in a bit more.



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    The only issue I have is that it passes the responsibility of paying someone a livable wage on to the consumer, instead of the employer. In the restaurant world this is the way it works in this country, and I'm fine with that (and I am a good tipper, never less than 20%) but I've just felt weird before, when I've tipped someone who absolutely didn't do anything really, I mean above and beyond their job description, like a gruff cab driver, or a cashier in a coffee shop who just rang up my bottle of water. I guess I used to work retail and make barely above minimum wage and I was great and gave really great service and sold hundreds of dollars of stuff to people, but of course you'd never expect a tip doing that. Anyway, just interesting the tipping culture in the US, as opposed to some places in Europe I've been to. The employees are just paid by their companies to do a job and not any below minimum wage sort of thing.

    But, on topic. YES, stripping has made me a better tipper, but a big reason is simply the fact that I have a big old stack of paper in my purse ,and it is very fun to over tip big. I love that.
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    The only issue I have is that it passes the responsibility of paying someone a livable wage on to the consumer, instead of the employer.
    Exactly! I've never, ever understood how this could be legal. Anyone, regardless of whether they're in a tipping industry or not, should at least get minimum wage.. It was so nice living is Seattle and making 8.50 an hour being a cocktail waitress at a casino. Here, servers have only made 2.13 for as long as I can remember. It's bullshit.

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    ^Yeah, that's kinda part of my other problem. I love Dunkin Donuts iced coffee, and usually when I get it, I tip $1, then I feel like an idiot. They already make min wage, at least, so why am I tipping them for something #1 they should be doing anyway and #2 something they ALREADY get paid for? I tell myself I won't tip them, but something changes when I get in there. Even if they look miserable and aren't polite, I justify it by telling myself that no wonder they are unhappy with their jobs b/c I wouldn't want to serve donuts for $7.25 or w/e per hour hour either...so I try to at least be nice and tip . ARRRG

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    I tend to overtip, especially since getting into the business. The guys who bring me food at work, for instance, they charge 5-7$ for a sub, I give them 10$ every time. You better believe I get the subs quick, too!

    It's good karma and good sense. Tip really well and you will be remembered in any club, and they will have a big smile for you the next time you walk in the door. Plus if you ever want to work in that club, and some schmuck also wants the job...
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