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    thanks for all the support! I know im new here and no one really knows me but I just want to thank you girls. its hard to talk to anyone about it so im really grateful I can at least find solace in your kind words.

    thanks so much. it means the world.

    im getting a new job, the stress it would have on me and especially the stress on my bf worrying about me would be killer.

    it sucks to worry to death about someone you love, and you've helped me see that its just not worth it.

    thanks again ladies.




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    This is seriously sad and fucked up. I hope you find a way to heal from this. Don't go back to that club, please. Find one where the dances are at least watched, if you can. Maybe your bf can help support you until you find something better. Take care.

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    I'm really sorry this happened to you, and really glad that you got him off you and made it out of there. It's a sad and scary comment on your club's security that this happened and there was no-one to help you. My club is the same way -- the CR is pretty far away from the rest of the club and there is often no one back there. Just not safe. I've never had an experience as serious as yours, but I did have a guy try to assault me once. He was quite old and rather frail, and I didn't have much trouble getting him off me, but I felt completely shaken up and disgusted afterwards.

    I hope you're doing OK, and have people around you who can give you the support you need. Take is easy for a few days.

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    What the fuck is wrong with men. And dont blame yourself, honestly any dancer in your position would of said yes to his offer, Hes just totally fucked up. Im going to go with the other girls that said to track him down. Im sorry this happened, take care <3

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    I'm so sorry that you had to deal with this on your own. In reality, it's a sad testiment to the de-volution of the exotic dancing industry ... where clubowners are now more interested in collecting customer cover charges and drink minimums than in the safety of their dancers, where customers expect more and more 'bang for their buck' in exchange for their $20-$30 ( at least partially because other dancers are perfectly willing to provide that 'bang'), etc.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blessthefall View Post
    thanks for all the support! I know im new here and no one really knows me but I just want to thank you girls. its hard to talk to anyone about it so im really grateful I can at least find solace in your kind words.

    thanks so much. it means the world.

    im getting a new job, the stress it would have on me and especially the stress on my bf worrying about me would be killer.

    it sucks to worry to death about someone you love, and you've helped me see that its just not worth it.

    thanks again ladies.

    Glad we could help, in whatever way. I'm sure most everyone will agree with me that we've all had some close calls and bad experiences with customers pushing themselves over our boundaries.

    I personally have had a convicted rapist leave notes on my car (I tracked his PO down and turned him in, he went back to jail), and had a dancer who tried to steal a friend's car, have ME followed by one of her druggy thug friends when I went back (with 4 Navy guys as backup) to take it from her.

    Our business can be very very scary and it's stories like yours that remind us just how careful we need to be, and how much we need to watch out for eachother.

    I've quit dancing for almost a year now, partially because of the reasons I listed above. It wasn't worth the risk of being followed home or worse and it certainly wasn't worth seeing my husband worried sick and only getting an hour or two of sleep because he'd stay up until I was safely home.

    There is no club and no amount of money worth being assaulted and abused for. Take care of yourself, sweetie. Let your man take care of you too, and I don't mean just money-wise. Get help if you need it, and best of luck.

    As someone else said, PM if you need a friendly ear

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    I know exactly how you feel, Please do not go back. Your Safety, Your Health and your Life you can not put a dollar amount on. Things might be tight at home with money, but it will only get worse if you go back, you are constantly going to be looking over your back.. wondering is that him.. or is that him.. and your not even going to be able to work from being terrified. I was attacked 3 years ago in a V.I.P it's not something that can be forgotten over night it takes time to heal. Just always remember You are not to blame, it's not your fault. You did nothing wrong, There are just sick people in this world today.
    Please just take some time off, go to the doctor and maybe try another club. I'm so sorry this has happened to you. It takes time to heal.

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    I am so sorry, and yes get out of there! Weirdos are everywhere! What a sick fucker,I hope he ran into a very fast travelling semi on the way out.
    And yes where the hell was the bouncer that should be present protecting you?
    A similar situation happened to my friend, she worked in a real low end seedy joint. Maybe only work in a upscale place if your going to keep doing it?
    Things like this make me think twice about becoming a dancer again.

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    We should all take self defense courses so we can give a serios hurting to any guys that try that shit

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    I agree self defense classes is a good idea. Would that count as a tax ride off? I always considered a pepper spray to keep in my purse when working, I know the bouncers all have it on them.
    “I am good, but not an angel. I do sin, but I am not the devil. I am just a small girl in a big world trying to find someone to love.”
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    Thanks so much for all the help and support!

    well I know its only been a very few days since this happened but I think it happened for a reason. I had been so depressed feeling like I had no way out and my desperation was slowly wearing away at my faith that something would come along to help me out.

    This shook me up and made me go down to the very depths of how far I had to go to finally see the light.

    Only way from rock bottom is up.

    So basically, in one of my midnight crying sessions, something snapped, I have to make money. But I don't necessarily have zero talent. I mean I have other things I can fill niches in and capitalize on and they dont HAVE to be dancing naked if its something thats gonna further traumatize me.

    So anyway long story short, I got an idea to create my own little hair extension company. Since I was like 14 or 15 I've been doing hair for bands, friends etc, and I'm good at it. Everytime i got to work at clubs, I may have had shitty nights walking out with $20 but I ALWAYS got compliments on my wild hair.

    So yeah. I'm gonna do that. I already made up a little myspace for it.

    Thanks for the support. I don't know what I would have done with out my bf or you girls tellling me I don't HAVE to keep doing this.

    THANKS. a HUGE. HUGE. THANKS.



    Ps. since you've all been so nice to me, if any of you have myspace I'd love some friends... lol.. http://www.myspace.com/hairthatkills

    again. i couldnt have done it without you all.

    thanks.

    so so much.



    And good luck to everyone dancing still, I'm gonna miss the stage, you're all heroes.
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    You go girl!!! Keep us up to date OK? i dont have myspace yet but i plan on getting one soon! Good luck!!!

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    Thanks!!

    I guess all of this is a reminder that out of bad comes good.

    Crazy. WHen it rains it pours. I had a whole period there where nothing but bad was happening.

    Now its the opposite, everything seems to have opened up! I'm coordinating some shoots for models to show my hair pieces and I owe it to the support I found here.

    thankssssss girrlllssss!!!!!


    I hope this helps any of you that may be going through a tough time.




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    That's awesome! So glad to hear you're doing better and positive things are happening for you!

    I'll add you on myspace and send you a note telling you who I am (don't feel comfortable giving out my myspace on a public forum)

    Best of luck!

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    Wow - excellent! Huge congrats to you in turning it around!
    "Don't piss off a motivated stripper."


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    I'm so sorry that happened to you. But I'm so glad you were able to fight that mentally fucked up loser off. I'm wondering why the hell a bouncer wasn't in the room with you. Any reputable club is NOT going to allow customers to be completely alone with their girls!!! You definately should NOT go back to that place. IF you feel the need to return to dancing, please go to an upscale club that has security. I agree with the others. Track that dirty s.o.b. down and press charges! On a sad note, It MIGHT take a little time to find counseling that will support you. Unfortunately there are still a lot of close minded idiots out there that are stupid enough to act as though dancers don't deserve to be treated with respect. But there are some decent people out there that will respect you.

    Congrats on your new job. You should do very well with hair extensions. They're very high in demand.

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    That's awesome! Congratulations on your new business, and congratulations for taking that scary situation and getting something good out of it.

    Dancing takes up a lot of your energy, not to mention your time. I found that when I stopped I almost instantly had more energy to devote to a couple of business ventures I'd been kicking around in my head for a while, but never acted on. Dancing can give you a lot of opportunities. I'll always be glad I did it. But there's nothing wrong with moving on when you know it's time to do something else.

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    I'm so happy you found a positive outlet (the new business) to focus on after that event. Something similar (not at work) happened to me years ago and there are still occasional, residual panic attacks. One thing I found helpful was to write/journal about my emotions afterwards. Doing helped me to articulate how my mind and body were processing the event. The emotions are often overwhelming and abstract, so defining them in your terms, whether it be through writing, art, etc., helps you process and deal with them bit by bit.

    I wish you the best of luck in your new endeavors, and am so sorry this happened to you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Julie, Julie View Post
    Please don't go back, there are so many reasons not to.
    You need to heal. Talk about it as much as you feel like it, don't hold anything you want to say inside, even to a counselor at hospital/sexual abuse clinic if you feel that you need extra support. They should not cost anything. When you visit your GYN, he/she can refer you, or you can use the yellow pages. If you go back to the scene when you clearly don't want to, it could traumatize you further. Your inner and outer health is priority, not forcing yourself to continue to suffer. Money isn't worth the trouble that can cause. Can your bf take extra financial responsibility briefly, in the light of this, while you help yourself and look into other ways of making money?
    Also, god forbid this bastard is lurking around that place. He knows where he could possibly find you. He could come back to try and catch you on your way in/out.
    The idea of going back is too dangerous for your inner AND outer health.
    Please be safe.
    I agree don't do it. It's not worth it.

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    Total win. Good luck to you and your hair biz.

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