
Originally Posted by
Julie, Julie
LOL... and here I was wondering if it was just ME, also.
I've had people tell me, "God, I've never told anyone this... why do I feel so comfortable talking to you...you just make me want to say how I feel...no, don't dance, you don't have to, let's just talk..." (and the best one) "you know, you have something about you that just makes people feel comfortable and want to open up to you. You should seriously think about that when you switch careers." lol
Yep, I've gotten screwed out of $, too. You have to be careful of the "talkers." Sometimes they'll pay you, sometimes not - and you don't realize it b/c for some reason, you had to be born cursed to feel more empathy than your peers/ other people seem to, lol -jk - honestly, I'd rather be overly sensitive than under - sensitive.
Sometimes, these people will take you to VIP to do this and treat you like a therapist. Which is reciprocal, and FAIR.
Of course, there are those that won't, FWR. WHat I started doing so as to not be a bitch and compromise my values AND work time, is to give them a certain amount of songs to vent to, however much time you're comfy with spending for FREE, if they're in bad shape. (usually, limit 3, but have lost track and gone up to 10, YIKES). Be your usual self with them, but find a short lull in the convo to take the opportunity to excuse yourself and say something like, "I will be back, I'm going to walk around a little bit so I don't get in trouble (reprimanded), but I hope I see you in a few mins. I'll be back." And hug them or something. Or, "would you like a tissue, water, drink, (whatever I think they may need)?" Get it fast and tell them you'll be back, don't sit back down.
If another customer comes up DO NOT deny them, or AT LEAST don't make them wait for more than 1/2 song or one at most. If he sees them come up to you, he should understand that you have to excuse yourself and say you'll be back. Make your $$ and keep your word. Re-visit him, sometimes you won't have to sit b/c he will be feeling better. Or sit and offer him a more "private setting" for your time together.
If he doesn't understand why you have to excuse yourself for a bit, he is not worthy of your extra energy and blessed sensitivity. Honestly.
I know it is hard to discipline yourself. I've had a few nights that were TOTAL WASTES and swore I had to implement some sort system, lol, it works most of the time for me.
Hope this helps! ANd don't worry you'll have a rockin' night soon to make up for all that you lost last night. Trust me.
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