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    OK I debated on posting here, but I really have nowhere else to turn and I really don't know how to handle this.

    I drank and drank and drank this past weekend and got ...well, stupid. I NEVER get this intoxicated in my adult life and I've never done this stupid of shit.

    This all occured between about 3AM - 10AM ... Here's a basic listing:

    * I tried repeatedly to get the manager of the bar I'm a regular at to date my friend (read: I essentially begged him. For about 30 minutes. After the bar closed)
    * I told my ex's friend how his wife is beautiful, he made a comment about me making out with her....I basically rolled with it for 30 minutes and then continued to tell the rest of the group I'd "hit it" with both of them. Repeatedly.
    * I made out with my ex's friend (my ex who broke my heart before going off to war and completely fucked me over, but I'm still completely in love with)
    * I pointed out (and obsessed over) 2 of the guys grey hairs and kept asking why they don't just dye it. (they're 23 and 25)
    * I spilled beer into my shoes, which were off, while we were all outside and then decided to put my shoes on and announce how squishy they were
    * I fell into a pile of cigarette butts
    * I just kept on yapping about random things and going on and on and on about them and interrupting people's conversations
    * I kept repeating the same questions over and over ("Omg, it's 9AM, you're going to the baseball game today?! REALLY?! OMG DUDE" "Holy crap, you're going to the game in a couple hours?! REALLY?!" ....all high-pitched and obnoxious-like)
    * I was asking random people I barely know, but see every weekend, really really personal questions about DUI's, ex-gf's and family things. And when someone would get really uncomfortable, I just kept going on and on about it.

    So .... what do I do from this point on? None of these people are my friends .... most of them are my ex's friends and they used to love me. Now they all think I'm obnoxious and out of my mind. And possibly even a lesbian. Do I say anything the next time I see them? i feel like I should acknowledge it, apologize and try to laugh it off....but at the same time I want to pretend it all never happened.

    I did talk to the guy I made out with to make sure that we want to try to keep it under wraps, it was nothing, we were both drunk and he'll seriously get his ass kicked BAD if my ex finds out. At the time I talked to him, I only remembered making out with him, I didn't remember all the offensive comments and all that. I also sent a facebook message to one of the other guys (who I called an asshole several times) and I apologized, but at the time I sent the message, I didn't know I went crazy about his grey hair and all that.

    Please help me dig myself out of this hole. I've never done anything this stupid and obnoxious before. I feel so stupid and juvenile and idiotic. I'm 27 (28 in a few weeks), this should not have happened.






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    well. i promise you i could make you feel a billion times better if i told you some of my drunk stories.

    lol but with that said.. i'd just make a comment like "man, i was so drunk.. i'm sorry if i did anything crazy! that's so not like me." and leave it like that. and then show with your actions that you arent like that. apologizing over and over will make it look like youre protesting too much you know? shit happens.. everyone knows people do crazy things when they drink! dont stress over it too much. my feeling on craziness when intoxicated is that there's always someone who has done worse before you, and someone who will do worse after you.

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    Maybe you could just apologise for your obnoxious and uncharacteristic behaviour and say you were takin some cough medicine or painkillers for a sore ankle (or something) and tell everyone it musted reacted wierd with the alcohol?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Hello_Kitty27 View Post
    OK I debated on posting here, but I really have nowhere else to turn and I really don't know how to handle this.

    I drank and drank and drank this past weekend and got ...well, stupid. I NEVER get this intoxicated in my adult life and I've never done this stupid of shit.

    This all occured between about 3AM - 10AM ... Here's a basic listing:

    * I tried repeatedly to get the manager of the bar I'm a regular at to date my friend (read: I essentially begged him. For about 30 minutes. After the bar closed)
    * I told my ex's friend how his wife is beautiful, he made a comment about me making out with her....I basically rolled with it for 30 minutes and then continued to tell the rest of the group I'd "hit it" with both of them. Repeatedly.
    * I made out with my ex's friend (my ex who broke my heart before going off to war and completely fucked me over, but I'm still completely in love with)
    * I pointed out (and obsessed over) 2 of the guys grey hairs and kept asking why they don't just dye it. (they're 23 and 25)
    * I spilled beer into my shoes, which were off, while we were all outside and then decided to put my shoes on and announce how squishy they were
    * I fell into a pile of cigarette butts
    * I just kept on yapping about random things and going on and on and on about them and interrupting people's conversations
    * I kept repeating the same questions over and over ("Omg, it's 9AM, you're going to the baseball game today?! REALLY?! OMG DUDE" "Holy crap, you're going to the game in a couple hours?! REALLY?!" ....all high-pitched and obnoxious-like)
    * I was asking random people I barely know, but see every weekend, really really personal questions about DUI's, ex-gf's and family things. And when someone would get really uncomfortable, I just kept going on and on about it.

    So .... what do I do from this point on? None of these people are my friends .... most of them are my ex's friends and they used to love me. Now they all think I'm obnoxious and out of my mind. And possibly even a lesbian. Do I say anything the next time I see them? i feel like I should acknowledge it, apologize and try to laugh it off....but at the same time I want to pretend it all never happened.

    I did talk to the guy I made out with to make sure that we want to try to keep it under wraps, it was nothing, we were both drunk and he'll seriously get his ass kicked BAD if my ex finds out. At the time I talked to him, I only remembered making out with him, I didn't remember all the offensive comments and all that. I also sent a facebook message to one of the other guys (who I called an asshole several times) and I apologized, but at the time I sent the message, I didn't know I went crazy about his grey hair and all that.

    Please help me dig myself out of this hole. I've never done anything this stupid and obnoxious before. I feel so stupid and juvenile and idiotic. I'm 27 (28 in a few weeks), this should not have happened.
    You just need to let them all know that you were drunk and its not like it would ever happen again.

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    just act like it never happened!

    If someone brings something up... "Huh? I did that? I dont remember anything??!"

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    ^^that's perfect. But she already apologized for a few things. Won't that mess everything up?

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    Quote Originally Posted by fluffypenguin View Post
    Maybe you could just apologise for your obnoxious and uncharacteristic behaviour and say you were takin some cough medicine or painkillers for a sore ankle (or something) and tell everyone it musted reacted wierd with the alcohol?
    Yep, alcohol messes with lots of meds, so this is a reasonable excuse.

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    pretend you blacked out and don't remember if anyone brings it up. otherwise, do nothing except say "that was fun, I sure was drunk!"
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    I just can't believe I did and said all of those things ....some of it was just soooo rude. Who goes on and on about a 23yr old's grey hair?!!? Oh that's right, I do apparently.

    I kind of like the idea of a quick, short and sweet apology the next time I see these people.

    Seriously, the biggest thing I'm afraid of is my ex finding out I made out with his friend. He'll hate me forever. I know, it's only making out....but he would be horrified by it. It was something we always talked about him being afraid of after he leaves. Granted, we aren't dating any longer, but it's still horrible of me.

    Ugh. I can't believe myself.






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    Ha, laugh about it!

    My ex has a saying "never appologise for anything you do when drunk" I dont always agree, but the point is that most of us have done some really stupid shit but most of it is harmless, just embarresing afterwards. So long as you learn from it! (-:

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    Well, was everyone else drunk too? If they were, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Drunk people are way too self-involved to be very worried about what others were doing. And drunk people forget things.

    Your list just sounds like basic obnoxious drunk behavior, nothing terribly rude or out-of-line. Best bet is to avoid this group for a week or two and then pretend like nothing happened. They'll have forgotten by then.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl View Post
    Well, was everyone else drunk too? If they were, I wouldn't worry about it too much. Drunk people are way too self-involved to be very worried about what others were doing. And drunk people forget things.

    Your list just sounds like basic obnoxious drunk behavior, nothing terribly rude or out-of-line. Best bet is to avoid this group for a week or two and then pretend like nothing happened. They'll have forgotten by then.
    Everyone else was tipsy, def not drunk. My friend who was with me was filling me in on the details I had forgotten, and she said everyone kept making faces and trying to ignore me and kept interrupting and being inappropriate.

    I want so bad to just give it time and hope it is forgotten and goes away ... but I feel the need to justify my behavior somehow. I guess it all seems basic and silly to some people, but I have never been like that in my adult life (normally i'm just tipsy and chatty and flirty) not to mention the fact that I feel completely obnoxious since I'm pretty much 28 ... I feel too old for that shit. My sister, who is 19 and a huge partier, just laughed at me and said I was over-reacting. I'm horribly embarassed though.

    Thank you everyone for basically talking me down from the ledge.






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    Your welcome. Just give it some time and see what happens.

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    I don't think there are many people around who don't have some drunken mishap they're ashamed of. We all do it. Just don't do it all the time
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    Just hang low and avoid the people for a while.
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    Think yourself lucky things stopped where they did... you could have done something you really regret...

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    Everyone has done it - probably most of them too. i'm sure they disliked you that night, but realize that you don't normally act that way.
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    yeah anyone who has gotten shitfaced has done some stupid shit (me included). You were wasted-completely gone. It's not like you had total control over your behavior. Apologize for anything stupid you did, tell them you hardly remember it, and youll try not to let it happen again. Dont make yourself too conpicuous in the meantime and let them approach you for a bit before you approach them.
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    well. i promise you i could make you feel a billion times better if i told you some of my drunk stories.

    lol but with that said.. i'd just make a comment like "man, i was so drunk.. i'm sorry if i did anything crazy! that's so not like me." and leave it like that. and then show with your actions that you arent like that. apologizing over and over will make it look like youre protesting too much you know? shit happens.. everyone knows people do crazy things when they drink! dont stress over it too much. my feeling on craziness when intoxicated is that there's always someone who has done worse before you, and someone who will do worse after you.
    Exactly what I would do (did do at one time). I was just laughed at and we all stayed friends. Everyone KNEW I was drunk (I'm sure they knew you were) and just had a blast. Hell, the way they see it you were probably really entertaining (for the most part).

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    Just make a quick, simple apology. I know it seems horrendous, but it's really not that big of a deal. You were obviously intoxicated.. everybody does it

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    I would like to chime in with the everybody does it.

    Don't worry about being to old to act like that. Age does not make people immune to fucking up.

    A good friend of ours, who was 29 or 30 at the time, pissed in a houseplant in front of everyone at a party a few years ago. This was in addition to saying every innapropriate and semi-insulting thing to everyone around that he could possibly think of. We still have him over for drinks. No hard feelings..... We just hide the plants.

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    I think you're only really upset because this happened in front of your exes friends... You want them to think of you as that "perfect girl" and now you're afraid they'll all talk shit about you and your ex will think you're a looser right?

    I only say this because I got really drunk at my ex boyfriends club (like, the club he owns lol) and barfed in his bathroom. I was super embarassed but more because of him finding out then because of how I actually acted.

    I think maybe this is a good change to evaluate your feelings for your ex, and let them go. It sounds like you were drunk and annoying, but well, all drunk people are annoying. And also, when you're drunk nobody else seems "that drunk" either. If you guys were up til ten am, I HARDLY think you were the only wasted person there.
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    Meh..everyone has their "I was an idiot" Drunken stories..believe me, I have LOTS AND LOTS. Like the time I puked ON the bar on my 21st birthday...in my defense though..stupid bartender should have known better then to end the night of him randomly mixing shit together and giving it to us...bar was closing down the next week so he was feeding us alcohol all night for free..some ODD concoctions too...and ended it with BLOW JOB SHOTS. Whipped cream at end of night of drinking god only knows what for hours..NOT GOOD.


    Or the time my friend wandered away from the bar trashed and it took us and the cops 6 hours to find her...in a motel room in Atlantic City passed out cold with some stranger she had gotten in the car with.

    So....could be worse. Just send a mass email saying you were shitfaced and paying or it today with a massive hangover...and if you did or said anything weird or offensive to ignore it.That you were out of your mind and have no idea what you were saying.

    If they are ANY kind of friend they'll be cool..might tease you awhile...but thats to be expected!!

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    At least you didn't do anything that could possibly have endangered someone, like I did in MY worst drunk behavior ever story. Trust me, it could have been sooooo much worse.

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