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    Hi. I'm new to this forum and I'm thinking about stripping in the near future. I've worked as a bartender in a strip club and while I was doing that all the girls said that I might as well just strip since I was half naked anyway and I would make a lot more money so I've been thinking about it for financial reasons and it's something that I've secretly always wanted to do. The one thing that I had a question about is what is the best way to let guys know that you aren't going to get with them outside of the club w/out pushing them away & if you have a boyfriend do you let the guys know or pretend that you're single? When I was bartending a lot of guys would ask for my number, so I would just tell them that I don't like to give out my number, but that they could give me theirs and then of course I would never call, but then sometimes they would come back into the club and I didn't know what to say (I'm a horrible liar) so I was just wondering how all of you with experience handle this.

    Thanks for your help.

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    ^^Agreed. Most managers won't keep you on if they see you taking #'s.

    I also tell people:
    I don't date
    I had a bad experience with the one time I met someone outside the club
    I keep business and pleasure separate

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    Agreed with the first 2 posters! Guys who still cant' accept you turning them down were never gonna spend on you anyway.







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    Quote Originally Posted by BohemianSiren View Post
    "I'm sorry, I don't date or otherwise arrange to meet customers outside of work."

    "I could get fired or arrested for exchanging personal information with you."
    Yes but what about when they say "well who's gonna find out if you do?" I hate that because I never know what to say.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Jeska View Post
    Yes but what about when they say "well who's gonna find out?"
    My club makes it easier to respond to this, but it also makes for a good excuse even if it's not true. "There are cameras everywhere in the club."

    Or, as I said to one guy who was really quite nice and buying dances, "Honey, you're cute but you're not worth my risking my job if someone does see." Between girls, managers and bouncers it's not unreal to think someone might see.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jeska View Post
    Yes but what about when they say "well who's gonna find out if you do?" I hate that because I never know what to say.
    Shit, tell them you don't want to take any chances.

    Like I said, people who keep poking and prodding for you to see them OTC aren't $$$ spenders. Dont' waste your time/energy on those asswipes.







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    Thanks for all the responses. I think that's a good idea about saying that there's cameras everywhere. That should make it a lot easier.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jeska View Post
    "well who's gonna find out if you do?"
    "doesn't matter; I'm still not giving you my number."

    yes, I come right out and say this. If I think I can get him to spend anything, I'll say it with a cheeky, teasing attitude. Then they see my refusal as a challenge, and will often buy a few dances and try to change my mind b/c they think I'm just playing hard to get.

    These guys who are hell-bent on getting my number aren't going to be a good source of income, but I can usually get 1 or 2 dances out of them before they realize they're just not going to get what they want.

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    I just give them my stripper email and always say "in case you would like to come see me again at the club."

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    Quote Originally Posted by jessi410 View Post
    Hi. I'm new to this forum and I'm thinking about stripping in the near future. I've worked as a bartender in a strip club and while I was doing that all the girls said that I might as well just strip since I was half naked anyway and I would make a lot more money so I've been thinking about it for financial reasons and it's something that I've secretly always wanted to do. The one thing that I had a question about is what is the best way to let guys know that you aren't going to get with them outside of the club w/out pushing them away & if you have a boyfriend do you let the guys know or pretend that you're single? When I was bartending a lot of guys would ask for my number, so I would just tell them that I don't like to give out my number, but that they could give me theirs and then of course I would never call, but then sometimes they would come back into the club and I didn't know what to say (I'm a horrible liar) so I was just wondering how all of you with experience handle this.

    Thanks for your help.
    i would try a different club since the guys at your club seem really immature. i usually just say its not allowed because it isnt, its illegal to exchange contact info with customers as its considered solicitation. if they seem like good people i tell em i have a bf. if they seem like the type that might not get dances from me if im not single i just say its personal and i dont answer personal questions in the club.

    also u think u will make more as a stripper?? were you an alcohol bartender? because im pretty sure the bartender at the one full bar club i work at makes more than me on most nights lol.

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    If they are spending .."oh my GOD...the last time I did that I thought we were so out of the way and a manager I work with came into the restaurant while we were having dinner and recognized us both and I got fired...SO embarrassing!!" (not true..but they dont know that)

    If they arent spending.."sorry..if you cant afford me IN here...you DEFINITELY cant afford me OUT of here"

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    Quote Originally Posted by NewMoon View Post
    I just give them my stripper email and always say "in case you would like to come see me again at the club."

    that's a great idea, do you hand out personalized business cards?


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    Quote Originally Posted by CKXXX View Post
    If they are spending .."oh my GOD...the last time I did that I thought we were so out of the way and a manager I work with came into the restaurant while we were having dinner and recognized us both and I got fired...SO embarrassing!!" (not true..but they dont know that)

    If they arent spending.."sorry..if you cant afford me IN here...you DEFINITELY cant afford me OUT of here"
    OMG, best response ever. I am totally using that one

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