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    Share with me your perceptions. I want to hear this from both male and female posters.

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    Default Re: What does it mean to "act like a lady"?

    not getting naked for money haha.

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    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    not getting naked for money haha.

    To me, it's just being polite, compassionate, understanding and being respectful/helpful to others.

    I have more respect for a caring stripper than a cold-hearted non stripper.

    I asked, because I'm wondering if "being lady-like" still refers to sexual habits and demeanor amongst others? I'm so isolated lately..I have no clue what's going on.

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    Default Re: What does it mean to "act like a lady"?

    Well to me being a "lady" sounds like someone old fashioned and conservative. I would rather be a woman and be empowering and independent.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CinammonGirl View Post
    To me, it's just being polite, compassionate, understanding and being respectful/helpful to others.

    I have more respect for a caring stripper than a cold-hearted non stripper.

    I asked, because I'm wondering if "being lady-like" still refers to sexual habits and demeanor amongst others? I'm so isolated lately..I have no clue what's going on.
    i hope you picked up on my sarcasm. i dont think a lot of non strippers would consider strippers "ladies". sad but true.

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    Quote Originally Posted by la429 View Post
    Well to me being a "lady" sounds like someone old fashioned and conservative. I would rather be a woman and be empowering and independent.

    Lady and woman are inter-changeable to me....If people use lady in an old-fashioned sense, then yeah I guess wouldn't want to be that either.

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    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    i hope you picked up on my sarcasm. i dont think a lot of non strippers would consider strippers "ladies". sad but true.

    Haha, I did pick up on it.. I just felt like being serious for a moment.

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    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    not getting naked for money haha.
    Word.


    When I say something is 'ladylike' I'm usually referring to waiting on the guy to make a move or call. Not being promiscuous. Definitely not showing cleavage unless it's absolutely classy. Not getting piss drunk (in public). I think ladylike defines making the world see you in this certain perfect way, and behind closed doors you're probably chain smoking, pounding vodka, and freaking out about your weight. But in front of people it's perfection. And class.

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    I've been labelled a "lady." Frequently. It has more to do with carrying myself in a way that demands respect. Because I obviously respect myself.

    That's my guess. I'm not old-fashioned.

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    I consider myself a lady with class. Has little to do with my actual actions(stripping, porn, etc... that others would say are un-ladylike or classless) and everything to do with how I carry myself. Having respect for yourself and others,being honest and upstanding both in your personal and professional life, and taking both your own needs and the needs of others into consideration when you act.

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    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    i hope you picked up on my sarcasm. i dont think a lot of non strippers would consider strippers "ladies". sad but true.
    Ladies of the night

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    Default Re: What does it mean to "act like a lady"?

    I think some strippers are still very much ladylike (at work). They usually stand out in a good way in the clubs.

    But really, any woman who can walk gracefully in stillettos is a lady in my book. I'm appalled at the women I see on the street attempting to walk in heels.

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    -To cross your legs when in a dress
    -To not cuss every other word when in mixed company
    -To not gossip constantly about other people
    -To know how to walk in a pair of heels and carry one's self somewhat gracefully
    -To know when to stay and when to walk away with your head up
    -Posture, standing up straight with your shoulders back
    -When excusing one's self saying "Excuse me, I have to go to the lady's room" as opposed to "I've got to go take a piss"
    -When having company offering them something to drink
    -Not getting dressed to kill and walking around in a club with a bud light in one hand and a marlboro light in the other.
    -To not divulge your whole life story in the presense of mixed company, it's okay on SW though
    -To send a thank you card when someone does a nice gesture for you.
    -To send a sympathy card when someone you know passes away.
    -To say "please" and "thank you"
    -Don't interrupt others when they are talking.
    -Saying excuse me when you need to get around someone.
    -Being considerate of others and polite to wait staff at a restaurant.
    -Eatting with your mouth closed, not talking with a mouth full of food or burping out loud.
    -Dressing appropriately for wedding, funerals or events.
    -Dinner table manners, nap on lap, proper use of silverware
    *Sigh*, that's all I can think of right now...

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    [quote=greenidlady1;1585880-When excusing one's self saying "Excuse me, I have to go to the lady's room" as opposed to "I've got to go take a piss"
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    I've got everything down but this one. I always announce "I have to go pee!!" But I hate saying "restroom."

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    Quote Originally Posted by la429 View Post
    Well to me being a "lady" sounds like someone old fashioned and conservative. I would rather be a woman and be empowering and independent.
    "Old-fashioned" isn't always a bad a thing. I tend to like more "old-fashioned" dating as opposed to text messaging constantly. I don't have a problem with a date picking me up at a decent hour, opening doors and bringing me home. I'd rather him call than to text message me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ahmeerah View Post
    I've got everything down but this one. I always announce "I have to go pee!!" But I hate saying "restroom."
    I wouldn't have got away with even that when I was coming up but it sounds better than piss.

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    Quote Originally Posted by greenidlady1 View Post
    -To cross your legs when in a dress
    -To not cuss every other word when in mixed company
    -To not gossip constantly about other people
    -To know how to walk in a pair of heels and carry one's self somewhat gracefully
    -To know when to stay and when to walk away with your head up
    -Posture, standing up straight with your shoulders back
    -When excusing one's self saying "Excuse me, I have to go to the lady's room" as opposed to "I've got to go take a piss"
    -When having company offering them something to drink
    -Not getting dressed to kill and walking around in a club with a bud light in one hand and a marlboro light in the other.
    -To not divulge your whole life story in the presense of mixed company, it's okay on SW though
    -To send a thank you card when someone does a nice gesture for you.
    -To send a sympathy card when someone you know passes away.
    -To say "please" and "thank you"
    -Don't interrupt others when they are talking.
    -Saying excuse me when you need to get around someone.
    -Being considerate of others and polite to wait staff at a restaurant.
    -Eatting with your mouth closed, not talking with a mouth full of food or burping out loud.
    -Dressing appropriately for wedding, funerals or events.
    -Dinner table manners, nap on lap, proper use of silverware
    *Sigh*, that's all I can think of right now...
    This is a good list. Add to it not fighting/brawling. Being a lady means having good manners and carrying yourself with dignity and respect. And it means treating others the way you'd like to be treated. It's not about being perfect, but it is about making the effort.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl View Post
    This is a good list. Add to it not fighting/brawling. Being a lady means having good manners and carrying yourself with dignity and respect. And it means treating others the way you'd like to be treated. It's not about being perfect, but it is about making the effort.
    Thanks Andy

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    Quote Originally Posted by greenidlady1 View Post
    I wouldn't have got away with even that when I was coming up but it sounds better than piss.
    I started saying this as an adult actually. Please, my parents expect me to call every adult Mr. or Mrs. still - when in their presence. My parents are def oldschool in almost every way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by la429 View Post
    Well to me being a "lady" sounds like someone old fashioned and conservative. I would rather be a woman and be empowering and independent.
    In some instances, I think what it means to be "ladylike" is a bit dated and in some cases sexist. If you look at a lot of the items that greenidlady listed, they're really just good "do unto others" things that are timeless and should apply just as equally to men.

    FWIW, I've met an ample number of women who were empowered, independent, and still deserving of the "lady" title. Some of them even took off their clothes for a living.
    Former SCJ now in rehab.

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    Default Re: What does it mean to "act like a lady"?

    This one tops all

    "A lady is someone who wants to punch another person in the nose, but doesn't.' - Judith Martin
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    lol.

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    Default Re: What does it mean to "act like a lady"?

    Depends. Are you in the North or the South? Very different sets of behaviors when it comes to being a lady.

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    Quote Originally Posted by StrawberrySwitchblade View Post
    Depends. Are you in the North or the South? Very different sets of behaviors when it comes to being a lady.

    In the North, but grew up in Alabama.

    When I was in 6th grade back in AL, my teacher told me it was unladylike when I said "a song really sucks."

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    Heh. in the south you can get away with quite a a bit while still being a proper woman by starting a disparaging comment with "Bless her heart, I love her to death, but..." I love the South.

    I also remember a good southern friend of mine chastise me on a set of silver I admired, because it "wasn't my type."

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    Quote Originally Posted by greenidlady1 View Post
    -To cross your legs when in a dress
    -To not cuss every other word when in mixed company
    -To not gossip constantly about other people
    -To know how to walk in a pair of heels and carry one's self somewhat gracefully
    -To know when to stay and when to walk away with your head up
    -Posture, standing up straight with your shoulders back
    -When excusing one's self saying "Excuse me, I have to go to the lady's room" as opposed to "I've got to go take a piss"
    -When having company offering them something to drink
    -Not getting dressed to kill and walking around in a club with a bud light in one hand and a marlboro light in the other.
    -To not divulge your whole life story in the presense of mixed company, it's okay on SW though
    -To send a thank you card when someone does a nice gesture for you.
    -To send a sympathy card when someone you know passes away.
    -To say "please" and "thank you"
    -Don't interrupt others when they are talking.
    -Saying excuse me when you need to get around someone.
    -Being considerate of others and polite to wait staff at a restaurant.
    -Eatting with your mouth closed, not talking with a mouth full of food or burping out loud.
    -Dressing appropriately for wedding, funerals or events.
    -Dinner table manners, nap on lap, proper use of silverware
    *Sigh*, that's all I can think of right now...
    This is a pretty good list, but I'd like to add

    -a lady doesn't get sloppy drunk
    -a lady doesn't get in fights

    (I mention this because I have a friend who talks about how ladylike she is, she even went to charm school, but she gets drunk and gets into fights every 5 minutes)

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