UGH i am so pissed off.
So thanks for letting me rant.
I don't think i'm being crazy jealous, but if i am tell me please?
UGH i am so pissed off.
So thanks for letting me rant.
I don't think i'm being crazy jealous, but if i am tell me please?
Last edited by dollparts; 09-10-2014 at 06:38 PM.




I do not think you are over reacting at all..granted you are expressing your feelings to your boyfriend in a calm rational manner(which it seems you are.)
Out of curiosity, what types of scenarios from their past is she bringing up? I would think there is a way to tell if she is really intentionally doing it to make you jealous.





Why does he WANT to hang out with her if she annoys him so much? She wasn't allowed to wear certain shoes? Duh. Can you bring it up to him from that POV? As in 'why do you want to hang out with her-she makes us both annoyed' ?










Seriously give him an ultimatum. You're not being jealous or unreasonable. He is being unreasonable expecting u to be comfortable with this. What bullshit.
My cousin went thru this before she married her husband. The ex would come over and they would have to talk about back in the day when they were together. One night my cousin lost it and said "If I ever have to fucking hear about u two again that's it". Im pretty sure nothing has been said since or it has at least calmed down.
I wouldnt be friends with my bf's ex, she can go and get fucked and make some new friends.
There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.
Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.





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you're much nicer than me.![]()
There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.
Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.





It sounds like she's trying to get in between yall. I could see saying "oh remember the time we went to the park and you fell straight on your face" if yall were talking about funny falling stories or things like that, but to say "I'm glad he wasn't spanking me, I hated his spankings" or telling you that he cant be trusted and then sucking up to him when he's around...It sounds to me like she TRYING to scare you away and make you feel uncomfortable.





It says a lot that you even tried being friends with her to begin with, you know? You're not being unreasonable-he is. I would feel very uncomfortable in that situation. She obviously still cares about him and is trying to come between you two.





^^Wait-you lay out his socks? How old is this guy, because he sounds like a freaking baby.
run. run away.
I would never tolerate ever again being forced to be friends with my SO's ex.
I did that. she and he were cheating on me behind my back. Every time we got around her it was like I wasn't there or left out of the conversation. He took up for her constantly. compared me to her. Saddly we look a lot alike. i finally figured out he was trying to turn me into her when he suggested I get "make up tips from her." um hell no.
My husband is so different from my ex, we don't hang out with his exes or mine and that is the best way to be for me and him.
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Didn't she admit to you she still had feelings for him? Even the most unjealous girl in the world needs to watch out in this situation. Your boyfriend should understand and your feelings should come first. He needs to *get* that this girl seriously wants you out of the picture and you can feel it in your gut and instincts (it sounds like that anyways). Let him pout, but you 3 being friends is not healthy for your relationship.




i'd suggest taking that a little further even. how would bf feel if your ex-bf came over all the time and shoot the shit? talk about the past, reminisce, etc.
i'm not normally the jealous-type but i can tell you i wouldn't like that at all.
ex means ex. they can be polite. they can even casually see each other in the store or wherever. but hanging out? ehhhh. that's usually a no-no.
and it's DEFINITELY a no-no if the NEW SO isn't comfortable with that kind of (even casual) relationship.
ask your bf to try and see why it bothers you, using your ex-bf as the example. i'd suspect he'd try to whinge and squirm/explain it a little but in the end, he'll see that your situation is simply an ego stroke for him and the ex IS getting in-between your relationship. hth
i'm happier now than I ever thought I would be during those years.
To try and show my ex what it felt like I did invite one of my exes to hang out.....
that so didn't work. To the best of my knowledge my ex husband and that ex are still hanging out and consider themselves friends. which is really creepy when you think about it.
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"I'm gonna have a drink and walk around, I got a lot to think about, oh yeah"---Concrete Blonde
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