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    So I was looking at a thread about mistressing in the section that talks about jobs outside of stripping and some of the girls who were doms said that it really helped them improve their hustle by being a dom.

    So my question is.... does that mean that your pushier with the custys than you wouldv'e been otherwise?

    I worked with a couple girls in the past who were doms and i had a lot of customers complain that they were too rough... so does being a dom like make you want to be rough with guys too? And if so does that work for you?

    I mean just cause you know how to me a dom doesn't mean that you have to necissarily be like that right? Or is being a dom just addicting?

    I guess i just want to know how it's different knowing how to be a dom / dominatrix... like what are the advantages? lol did i ask to many questions? : )

    I'm kind of thinking about doing it... especially if it will help me come out of my shell a little bit. I can be a little submissive sometimes... like i don't know how to keep the upper hand with custys all the time you know? Do you think being a mistress would help someone like me hustle better? And if so how do you get into that kind of thing?

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    This is just my opinion...but I think being a dom or sub is something you ARE. Not something you decide to be. You can be taught to go through the motions,but you are not truly a dom.

    That said...I tend to be very domineering with custies. I turn the conversation where I want it to go, I lay down the rules...I'm the boss. Either it works or it doesnt. I've def. made money off guys by basically telling them what to do, where a sub wouldnt have because she may have given up too soon. Sometimes...it works against me, when guys are in the club looking for a fawning girl to kiss their ass...'aint gonna be me.

    Go with your personality...if you are naturally more dominant..bring it to the extreme..esp when you can sniff it out that you have a dom-receptive custie(that comes with time). If you are naturally more sub..go for the fawning "I dont like anyone here but you..thank GOD you came in tonight" little girl part.

    I find that when you go with whats more natural to you...its more believable to the custie and therefore works better most of the time.

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    I'm sorry but i totally disagree about doing the things that come naturally... I mean some things you just have to learn, especially if you really want it. I mean pole dancing wasn't very "natural" to me... but the more i practiced the better i got and the more natural it became.

    This is probably a bad example but have you ever met one of those geeks-turned-player type guys who learned their skills from "the game" I mean look at neil strauss and all of his little proteges. Don't tell me that you can't learn to be more dominating when thats exactly what thousands of guys have learned to do through this whole "the game" shit... Even though their tricks don't always work (especially on us strippers) these guys gain confidence and charisma that allows them more control over their situation with women. You get what I'm saying? - My point is that you CAN learn to change things about yourself that you don't like. It may not be natural at first but with time and determination you will see results. I don't just sit there and boo-hoo about the things I don't like about myself, I do what i can to make myself better.

    I HATE being "submissive". like i really hate the fact that I let the customers size me up and take advantage of my niceness. You know what I mean? I hate it hate it hate it hate it..... HATE IT!.... i just want to know how to be more on top of things! : (

    I mean I'm going to get into Dom-ing anyways, I just wanted to have a little imput from some other girls as to how to make it work for you in the club

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    Like I said...you CAN learn how to act the part,but if you dont have it in your personality you are doing just that..acting a part. A personality trait is very different from a learned skill like pole dancing.

    And dom or sub, that doesnt mean you have to let people take advantage of you.

    If you want to try being a domme...by all means..of course try it. But you dont have to BE a dom to learn to have more confidence and get more respect. I know several subs that are FAR from being taken advantage of.

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    (I hate to keep debating but personality is actually changeable... just look it up, you can most likely find stuff about it in any recent book on neuropsychology... the ones i have are called The Owners Manual to the Brain and How the Mind Works. However, you are right, being able to dominate is part of personality... there are five categories of traits that create someones personality: Need for Stability, Extraversion, Originality, Consolidation and Accomodation... the last one being the trait that you would see a dramatic difference in someone who is able to dominate against someone who is not. You'd probably also see a difference in The need for stability and extraversion. All of what i'm talking about it widely accepted in the psychology community. But anyhow, i digress...)

    ... so back to the question at hand: How do you use your dominatrix skills to hustle without being too pushy? How can you be dominating without being too agressive... like how can you tell how far to take it?

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    OK..never mind ..you arent getting what I'm trying to say.I have a degree in psych. I know about personality changes..thats not what I'm talking about.

    Onward.

    Assume the sale. Guys exist(in the club anyway unless you want to be a lifestyle dom) solely to give you money. That is their only purpose in life. It is what they are on the earth for.

    Ex: dont ASK for a dance...TELL him. " ok..time for a dance now..lets go"

    dont ASK for a tip...assume it. If a guy is sitting at my stage not tipping I look at him like he's on crack. "you arent tipping me. Whats wrong with you?"

    Thats the basic attitude. Its all about the attitude.

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    Threadjack -- I met Neil Strauss once and I thought he was a total dork. I dont quite believe the hype.

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    Maybe its because of the authoritative/leader personality. People are naturally susceptible to obedience to authority.

    Cesar Milan talks about it all the time on the dog whisperer. Not like I'm comparing people to animals, but we're all animals and we react to others' energy. Cesar says pretend to be Cleopatra. I dunno, it works with german shepherds.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CKXXX View Post

    Assume the sale. Guys exist(in the club anyway unless you want to be a lifestyle dom) solely to give you money. That is their only purpose in life. It is what they are on the earth for.

    Ex: dont ASK for a dance...TELL him. " ok..time for a dance now..lets go"

    dont ASK for a tip...assume it. If a guy is sitting at my stage not tipping I look at him like he's on crack. "you arent tipping me. Whats wrong with you?"

    Thats the basic attitude. Its all about the attitude.
    LOVE IT

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    OK..never mind ..you arent getting what I'm trying to say.I have a degree in psych. I know about personality changes..thats not what I'm talking about.
    LOVE YOU *muah!*

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    Threadjack -- I met Neil Strauss once and I thought he was a total dork. I dont quite believe the hype.
    That bastard seriously wanted to fly me to the carribbean back in december. Fuck me for not having a passport. lol, maybe if i had been more assertive I couldv'e gotten him to meet me puerto rico? : ) And yeah, he is a dork (if you dont beleive me check out the video for Sex Games by Beck which he's in) ... but the guy knows a thing about psychology

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    I am a very submissive guy who loves to have dominant women at strip clubs be very aggressive toward me. I look for the women who walk with confidence, who have an aggressive and dominant demeanor about them. Once a girl comes up to me and acts like she will do whatever I want, I generally assume she is not going to be able to play the part of a dominant. It requires an air of confidence and a little bit of bitchyness. But if I can tell the girl has a dominant/agressive side to her personality, I will give her hints that I want to be dominated. I have had girls that I know are not natural dominas play the part great. But they have to have a little bit of agressiveness in them to begin with. I would love it if a girl came up to me without me asking her. For me, if she said--"I want to keep you to myself all night as my slave" I would be hers for sure. But I guess nonsubmissive guys might not like that

    I can't tell you how exciting it is for a submissive guy to have a beautiful woman on top of him telling him what to do. I usually become financially submissive as well, and I usually tell the girl that she can tell me how many dances I will have, and to take me to the ATM when I run out of money. I also have agreed with girls that if I "cheat" on her by getting a dance with another girl, I have to pay her a fine of $100 or more. Most girls really enjoy this role play, b/c I am at their mercy. It is a win-win in my opinion.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LuckyOne View Post
    Maybe its because of the authoritative/leader personality. People are naturally susceptible to obedience to authority.

    Cesar Milan talks about it all the time on the dog whisperer. Not like I'm comparing people to animals, but we're all animals and we react to others' energy. Cesar says pretend to be Cleopatra. I dunno, it works with german shepherds.
    Bwahaha, I know you don't know me, but can I quote you?

    OP, there is a huge difference between being a domme on the streets and one in the sheets. I think CKXXX gave some very good advice on being one in the club.

    BUT... if you're more naturally submissive, why not roll with it (while stripping) and make it work for you? No need to let them take advantage of you, though. I'm more dominate in regards to sex naturally, but in the club it's not what works for me.

    Just my 2c...

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    Guys just seem to love bitches. Most men are really just little boys inside that have that 'Mama's Boy' instinct. Bossing them around comes naturally for me. Being in the military for 5 years and holding a very pristine and high position while in DEFINITELY helped me to perfect it, LOL.

    I've had several custies that wanted to eat up my time and were just downright annoying. I went from 'The Sweet Stripper' to 'Superbitch/Dominatrix Stripper' in an instant, telling them, "Get your ass over to the couch so I can rape you NOW, Goddammit!" They ate it up with a spoon and wanted more. I use this technique when I have to.



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    I am a Dominatrix and I can honestly say that a) it's hard to act like one if it isn't naturally in you, and b) it doesn't work on every guy. Some are going to find it pussy and bitchy. You need to be able to feel out the guy first and see if he might respond well to it.
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    You know what I was thinking of today.... is that some guys are doms and some are subs.... even though they don't realize it... it's like a subconscious thing. Like all guys usually fall into one category or the other even though they themselves aren't conscious of it. idk just a thought. super random I know. I think I'm coming to the conclusion tho that in order to broaden your customer base you really need to learn to be both submissive and dominating in respect and proportion to whatever customer your with. But the more range you have in respect to your mental availability towards power the better because the more customers you can work with... What do you guys think?

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