My club is 18 and older girls so we've had alot of girls right out of highschool (or some still in h.s.) that came to work there as virgins. However their virginity didn't last long! Usually one of the male dancers took their pretty lil flowers.





My club is 18 and older girls so we've had alot of girls right out of highschool (or some still in h.s.) that came to work there as virgins. However their virginity didn't last long! Usually one of the male dancers took their pretty lil flowers.





Complete threadjack, but I laughed so hard at your siggy, indianprincess!![]()
ok this is slightly off topic, but I just went back and re read your old posts. I do not think stripping is the right job for you.
Your a virgin, and got into dancing because of this....I can predict what will happen. Your doing this job so that you get attention from guys. you want/need guys to tell you how beautioful you are, how much they desire you.....and I can promise how easy it'll be to get int yoru pants. You'll meet the guy wh showeres you with attention, picks up on your naiveity, tells you all the things you want ot hear, preying on yoru insecurities...you'll be like butter in their hands.
No offence, but from all yrou other pasts posts, how naive you are comes through loud and clear. Men prey on those kinds of girls. Add in your inexperiencedness wih sexuality and men....and it's just a disaster waiting to happen, so to speak.
sorry to be blunt, but you got into dancing for all the wrong reasons and if you truly intend on keeping your virginity, you need to be a lot more comfortabel with who you are and have a lot more confidance and self esteem. I believe that you do not have the proper mentality for strippign and there is high poential for long term damage to yoru self esteem and mental well being.




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Originally Posted by sexyi86![]()
I started stripping because of my lack of confidence; I don't think I'm beautiful, I think I'm fat, & I think every guy that looks at me is disgusted
eee, IMO, that is the opposite of what a strippers attitude should be. Like Peanut said it makes you very vulnerable to people who prey on that sort of thing, and the ones that do, can smell your weakness from a mile away. Maybe you should talk to a counselor or smne about your self esteem issues. Its would be a shame for you to go through life feeling like that.
These days I like to count my money. I like to wash it delicately and iron it. Sometimes I dry it with some bounty to make it all nice and cuddly. I love my money... did I say that out loud?
WTF? Why are you on a website for strippers if you believe that.
And AGAIN that is YOUR view of Christianity. From your quotes, you sound like you may be a Born Again or Evangical Christian. I'm a Charasmatic (IE progressive) Catholic. So our views are different.
That's like saying because the bible frowns upon "tax collectors" you shouldn't be an accountant....
Thanx to all those who admire me sticking to my guns & beliefs
When I stated I'm a Christian, I didn't mean I'm absolutely solid with my walk with Christ. I mean, look at what I do& yes, I do agree I'm being hypocritical but I see no difference between stripping & not loving my neighbor because to me, a certain wrong/sin is no greater than the other so even if I wasn't stripping & said I am a Christian, I believe I would still be hypocritical because I do cuss, lie, fight with my parents, etc.
I admit I'm naive & insecure but I definately learned my lesson because of that guy who played me & even though I was (well I guess I still kinda am) naive, I am very strong willed against sexual acts before marriage. I am not easily tempted. I know a lot of girls say they'll wait before marriage but then go off track but for me, my body & heart are too high of a risk to gamble with. I think Carrie from Sex & the City said it best "& there, high above the casino, Samantha pulled her highest bet, her heart, off the table"
It depends on what sort of Christian you are to be honest.
(Warning: I am about to go down the Catholic versus Orthodox versus Protestant road right about now)
Christian faith as it is practiced here in the United States is for the most part not much more than a folk religion. It has no foundation in the historic practices of the churches and was in fact born from a rejection of the church. To put things in simple terms: people got frustrated with all the churches so they picked up their King James Bibles and their lack of any real education concerning the faith and walked out to go form their own religious practices. This is fine and alright for those people who practice any of these Christian religions but there are some core problems as well.
For one the people who practice them are separated from the historic lineage that is the religion. Christianity is not just a religion that sprung up when some political activist named Jesus was nailed up to a tree. It is the continuation of a religious tradition stretching back through Roman Mithraism and Zoroastrianism and Judaism and several other faiths beside which are older and unnamed. It is the preservation of these sacraments - the baptism and the eucharist and so forth - which are even older than the religion itself. To remove oneself from that lineal history is to separate oneself from the ever evolving cultural context of the faith.
What this ends up causing is a whole bunch of little splinter churches who fight all the time and cannot agree with one another because their understanding of the Bible is not actually based upon the true foundations of the church. It is based upon their feelings and their feelings are derived not from the divine but from how and where they were socialized. This is why American Christianity is filled with so many divisive religious sects who are in constant argument with one another over the simplest little things. This is also why the American Christian sects which were actually started by people who were actually educated in religion and religious doctrine remain peaceful and for the mosts part without judgement concerning issues like these. Meanwhile the Catholic and Orthodox churches provide strippers and prostitutes and others who work in the adult industry with a saint (!!Santa Claus!!) who looks after us and watches over us whether we decide to change our ways or not because after several thousand years they know that the sin - if you believe in such a thing as mortal and venal sin - is in the taking and not in the temptation. It is this divisive and holier than thou must repent attitude which is spoken against with very firm words in the first and second books of Clemens in fact.
I am not Catholic so I am not speaking on behalf of the churches for that reason. In fact I believe that for the most part the Catholic church has a long history of irresponsible behavior which I cannot support. I am Gnostic and though that is similar in many respects to Catholicism there are enough differences that Pope Benedict once referred to the Gnostics as the single greatest threat facing Catholicism in the modern era. But our church is part of the same historic lineage as that the Catholic and Orthodox churches share and so I kind of need to say something on that account when someone comes in claiming that Jesus Christ himself may as well have condemned all strippers, ignoring the fact that many who were in his congregation were prostitutes and that none of them are ever asked to repent for the paths their lives have followed.
You are only a hypocrite if you act contrary to that which you believe to be true, and if you do in your most genuine heart believe that stripping is wrong then you should quit. But if after some soul searching you come to find that the wrongness of dancing is not something you believe in and it remains something you enjoy then stick with it. Remember that the Bible is not one book and that it is a text which is intended for debate. This is where all those famous contradictions that everyone loves to point out come from. It is several books written by several different authors and, until the major churches decided that debate was inconvenient, the words of those authors were debated time and time again so that people could make their own decisions concerning their faith and doctrine while still remaining members of a single communion.
In other words you are almost certainly good and probably not the hypocrite whom you believe yourself to be. Just maintain a commitment to knowing yourself while cultivating the divine gift within you and let the folk Christians spread their prejudice, willful ignorance, and servitude elsewhere.
It can be difficult to make a recently single man pay for sex when he knows that a quick trip to the local watering hole would secure at least one hard drunken tumble for far less cash. It is even more difficult when he is something of a dead ringer for James Bond as played by Daniel Craig and possesses the sort of awkard charm and confidence that brands a man like him as a lady killer.
- Daisy Loveless, Serving Lunch Weblog





That's a great post Rebecca. You seem like a pretty enlightened person and a smart cookie to boot!
Brava, RebeccaSolidarity.You hit the nail on the head exactly.
Well, without any judgement on your beliefs/the beliefs of others (from that I can only condone doing what you think is best for you), I'll come back to your original problem: you're a virgin and you're having trouble responding to customers who ask you about your sex life.
I had a similar problem when I first started dancing, because I was 17 and VERY unexperienced sexually. I think many customers assumed that I was a lot more experienced than I was, simply because of the nature of the business.
What I found though, was that I could play that to my advantage. Since I didn't feel comfortable being explicit with them or launching into dirty details (oh my god! I remember my first amateur night and they asked what my favorite sexual position was... I didn't know ANY of them!), I began to state the truth, adding some innocent wide eyes and a smile. And it worked REALLY well. I made a TON of money by playing my innocence and my lack of experience to my advantage, and customers LOVE that fantasy.
I don't know if you'd feel comfortable doing that kind of thing, but maybe you could tell them that you're a virgin (without going into details about religion or anything, or if you do- recalling a kind of archetype- either an innocent girl or a religious girl "fallen from grace", so to speak), and see if that's a turn-on to some customers? You might find you'll make more money than you would if you lied about it! Like the expression, "What you can't fix, you feature".
A stripping virgin might seem like a dichotomy, but it's the two opposites coming together tht could in fact be advantageous for you if you play it up.
And no, I don't think it's "odd and rare", as you say. To each their own, right?
xoxo
getting in a religous debate with mos.......good luck.........
I Would Never Belong To Any Club That Would Have Me As A Member - Groucho Marx
I guess I'm just annoyed that customers assume I'm sexually active & horny just because I strip. I had this 1 customer who I was having a normal convo with but all of a sudden, turned into dirty talk. He was like "you have very soft hands" & I started to tell him what type of lotion I use & then he goes "oh yeah? Well I've very good with my hands...VERY good..." & I was like "...okay." I had no idea what to say! I wasn't sure if I should play along but because of my inexperience, I just excused myself. & even though I'm a full grown adult, I'm sorta immature & when customers talk dirty like that, I laugh.
Out of all the customers I've talked to, I've only told 1 I'm a virgin & plan to wait till marriage & yup, he was very turned on
^ see that's a perfect example...
A customer sayign how nice your hands are is a perfect opportunity to sell a VIP room.
" Wait till you see what my hands can do to you in the VIP room. I give the best back rubs ever.....
But instead, you went nonsexual and talked about hand lotion. Sorry, but boring! not what a customer came in to hear about.
Customers just assume your horney because you are a stripper. They are horney, that's why they are there. They assume your horney for them. hat's the fantasy. You have to play into that fantasy in order to be sucessful. They want to think yoru horney for them.
yes, use yoru virginity to yoru advantage, it'll give guys all kinds of naughty fantasies.
One thing I can think of off the top of my head, a tactic I used as a new stripper...guys love to educate you, and think they are teachgin you the "ways" So tell guys yoru a virgin, and started strippign to learn more about sexuality and how to be sexy and whatever. Tell them your inexperienced and want details on how to act sexy, and how to give the best lapdance or whatever. Your stripping ot learn what guys want and like, so you can please yoru furture husband.
Warning**** they will try to take advantage of this by telling your that grinding is ok or the norm, or that berast touching is the norm...pretending to be naive is good, but actualyl being naive is not good. They will try to get one over on you and if you dont know what's up they will suceed.
I guess...act stupid, bat your eyelashs at them and give them doe eyes...but dont be stupid.





They assume that because it's the role we play while we're at work. We're supposed to be their fantasy girls, and most of the time that includes being horny/sexy to some degree.
ETA: Posted same time as PB
Noted: act stupid but don't actually be stupid. Act horny because it's all a fantasy. I guess I still need to break it into my head to act & pretend
not to thread jack but....yeah ...SUPOSED to being the key word...
I Would Never Belong To Any Club That Would Have Me As A Member - Groucho Marx
Hmmm..interesting....
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=adyhvp-8pk0








This chick is alright in my book, This is from her youtube profile:
Originally I hail from Leavenworth Kansas where the only person that wanted out of there more then the inmates was yours truly. Currently I'm trying to unite Kansas City Missouri with Kansas City Kansas and raise a small army of bi sexual women to take back the government.
I also work as a Christian missionary at the local strip clubs (Stripper for Life Baby!). It's what Jesus would do, if he had a body like I do. I like stripping because it coincides with my deep deep hated of wearing clothes.
I'm a Christian (Lutheran), active in my church, and a strip club patron.
Miabella, if you are so literal in believing the Bible, you might want to wrestle for a few moments with Matthew 7:1 and John 8:7.
In my belief, I am a sinner. Sinfulness is built into my being. If I stop going to strip clubs, I will still be a sinner. God has forgiven me for my sinfulness. If God has forgiven me, narrow minded hypocritical Christians who rail at others for their behavior are of no consequence. If God has forgiven me, who are they to criticize me?
When Jesus spoke about sitting in judgment in Matthew 25, he did not separate those on his right and left on the basis of sexual morality, but on the basis of how they had treated the poor and needy. In America today, we have decided that sin is nothing but sex. We have confused it with morals. Lots of stuff that is not moral is not sinful. And lots of stuff that is sinful is not illegal. People are way too concerned about getting the mote out of their fellow's eye than the Beam out of their own. (Matthew 7:3-5)
Now, to Sexyi86, you can be a Christian and a virgin and an exotic dancer. Keep up your standards. King David was an adulterer and a murderer, but he was faithful to God and God forgave him his sins. Don't be ashamed to be a Christian. But you don't have to push it in people's faces, either. If someone asks you about your religion (or anything else you don't want to discuss), just tell them "That subject is off limits, sorry." And guys will be very excited to know that you are a virgin, if you decide that you want to tell them.
And, you can tell them to respect your limits, too. Lots of dancers here won't let guys touch them or say rude things, and you don't have to put up with it either. This has nothing at all to do with being a Christian. There are lots of posts and threads on SW where dancers have said such things as, "Other girls in my club give extras, but I don't, and I still bank." Draw the line where YOU are comfortable drawing it.
Pray every day for forgiveness, not because you are an exotic dancer. Pray for forgiveness because you are human. We are saved by the grace of God (Romans 3:23-24), not because of our sexual purity.
So, sin boldly, knowing that you are forgiven.
>>Steps down off soapbox.<<
I'm too drunk off of heathen wine and homosexual sex to make a meaningfiul argument, but I think miabella should get the fuck off of this site and never look back. Like a big ass pillar of salt or some shit. Buh-bye!
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