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    I got up to do a practice speech today. It was without warning as they were supposed to be tomorrow but since I had mine there she wanted me to do it today. Another girl went up and was giving an awesome speech. (She went today because she wont be at school tomorrow) I guess she wanted me to go so she wouldnt feel alone? I dunno.

    A few times the teacher stopped her to speak of things like she was fidgeting and to ask the students if they had any input. She got great reviews, etc which helped her feel more comfortable as she went on. Her confidence got better each time she was stopped because she was given great input from students.

    I get up there and the teacher stops me - tells me to take my hands from behind my back and put them to the front. Because I was stopped I lost my place. I then expected her to ask the class for their input but she didnt. So Im thinking I suck And I start losing my place again and then start stumbling over my words and my eyes teared up and she told me to breathe. (Hadnt had the chance to add that to my speech or to read it outloud or practice the ad libbing) So, Im expecting here again to ask for input - something to make me feel a little better. Maybe help with MY confidence? Nope. Next thing I just start crying and Im trying not to and really start stumbling and rambling before she FINALLY asks me if Id like to stop.

    OMG Im crying just writing about it.

    I thought this teacher was nice but I can tell she doesnt like it. I felt it Thurs but pushed it off. Not only did that happen but we were paired up looking over a speech and had to find the main points. She stopped at every single table to ask if they knew where the mains were except my table. Totally skipped us...

    I did have one sweet guy come up and tell me my speech was good. I know he said it to make me feel better and that was sweet of him...

    I dunno about this class. Im just so upset over it now. I love my history class but I was still upset from this that I couldnt even pay attention. After class my professor asked me if something was wrong because every class Im very attentive and ask a lot of questions, etc.

    I just hope this Comm class doesnt make me upset so I dont do well in my History class either. Today is the last day to drop via online and Im seriously debating doing it.

    ETA: The reason she knew I had mine done is she had said last week if we bring them in early (today instead of tomorrow) shell look them over and let us know if anything should be changed. She looked over the other girls but when I asked about mine I got a mean look and was then made to stand up and read it. Oh man, I feel like such a failure to want to drop but I really think a teacher hating you doesnt typically end up with a great grade...
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    Default Re: I cried in class today...

    i HATE public speaking... i cry when i am embarrassed/frustrated.

    about dropping the class... i'd go with your gut.

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    aww. How terrible. and How Rude of her to stop you mid speech and inturrupt. As if you aren't nervous enough as it is, to be inturrupted..She is just tryign to make it more difficult on you. She should have held all comments and input until you were finished.

    I'm sorry hun

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    any class that required a speech i would never take unless i had to. public speaking isnt for me. luckily all my classes were small and it wasnt so bad..

    i did a 75 min presentation my last semester of school, though. ick.

    i say drop it. especially if you know shes going to pick on you. try to take it with a diff teacher.

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    Because its a summer session I cannot drop (deadline was 3rd day of class) - Id have to withdrawl.... how bad is that?

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    Default Re: I cried in class today...

    Can you transfer to a different section with a different teacher.

    Interrupting a speech to critique is, IMHO, very poor teaching technique. But if she does it, and you are stuck with that teacher, you may have to endure it.

    Next time, if you lose your place, ask if you can start over. And if the teacher is reviewing papers and skips you, raise your hand and say, "Excuse me, but did you accidentally miss looking at my paper?"

    Do you have a couple of friends that you be an audience as you rehearse? That might help you, too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AudreyLeigh View Post
    Because its a summer session I cannot drop (deadline was 3rd day of class) - Id have to withdrawl.... how bad is that?

    On your report card, it will give you a W instead of a grade.

    If you get to many W's, that can affect yoru financial aid if yoru recieving any...but I dont think W's matter beyond that....

    OPh, and you wont get a refund for the class

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    What a bitch, I hope Karma get's her.

    Mayb u should wait it out a bit an c if it get's better.

    Man, I woul've wanted to have smacked her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AudreyLeigh View Post
    Because its a summer session I cannot drop (deadline was 3rd day of class) - Id have to withdrawl.... how bad is that?
    i never withdrew from a class until the last semester of college. i signed up for a history class so i would be a full time student and get my parents health insurance, and then withdrew so i would still have the credit count but not have to take the class and write the papers when i realized how hardcore the teacher was. still had to pay for it but it didnt give me any problems.. it was my last semester, though, so i dont know.

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    Refunds $60... no biggie. Book was $100... so thats not much lost.

    Im not getting financial aid and dont plan to anytime soon so I guess the W doesnt matter that much.

    I just dont want to go to class everyday and worry about if Im going to be upset. I did that for a year in cosmo school and Im just not going to deal with it again.

    Im going to find out the last day to withdrawl... I have 3 more days this week then have next week off. If this week goes the same as today and last Thurs Im going to withdrawl over break.

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    ^ why dont you try talking to her? that may make all the difference in the world. my crazy teacher drama i dealt with, she went back and forth between being a nutty bitch, and giving me credit for coming to talk to her. you never know, it might help.. and if not, you can still withdraw.

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    LOL. Really. I shouldnt worry about a W.

    My transcripts (2002-2004) I got 5 Fs and a W. Thats when I signed up but didnt actually go. I wasnt ready to go and shouldnt have signed up in the first place.

    And I guess ^^^^ thats why I feel so bad about thinking about dropping this class. Like Im repeating old acts and I should suck it up and do it.

    I sucked it up and finished beauty school when I hated it so I guess I can do it here too. The only difference is theres no grades in beauty school and this one if Im hated by a professor Im screwed.

    Thing is I have no idea why she doesnt like me. I dont talk in class, I pay attention, I input in discussion, etc. I dont get it.....

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    ^ why dont you try talking to her? that may make all the difference in the world. my crazy teacher drama i dealt with, she went back and forth between being a nutty bitch, and giving me credit for coming to talk to her. you never know, it might help.. and if not, you can still withdraw.
    Im afraid to draw attention to myself by talking to her. Im afraid shell look at me like its all in my head. Maybe Im just too sensitive....

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    Quote Originally Posted by AudreyLeigh View Post
    Im afraid to draw attention to myself by talking to her. Im afraid shell look at me like its all in my head. Maybe Im just too sensitive....
    thats true too i guess. some professors just suck and theres not much you can do

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    Default Re: I cried in class today...

    If it makes you feel any better, I have dropped out of every speaking class I've ever tried to take I can't even stand up and introduce myself when the class begins.. I'm such a wuss. I'm sure you'll get better with practice


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    My history teacher said he tried to take public speaking three times and dropped each time. He went on to say the class is a waste and he has no clue why its still offered. I like my history prof.

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    if you're grade is good in the class don't drop it. Do you really want to go start over again?

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    My husband is helping me re-write my speech to make it more positive and more funny so I dont cry... ugh...

    ^^^ This is only my 5th day - its a 7 week summer course. I dont have a grade yet but Im going to stick it out.

    He said to talk to my professor after class tomorrow so I guess I will be taking Britts advice.

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    I'm sorry, but I say tough it out. I think you need some thicker skin, and you should look at this as practice. You need to learn how to breathe, steel yourself, and simply COMMIT. You signed up for school, I say finish it. If you have a good grade and it's not impossibly hard and the schedule isn't hampering your sleep schedule, then finish it and show yourself you can stand up to some adversity.

    But I do think you should politely ask the teacher to withhold her comments until the end of your speeches.

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    I will say this much. I used to be a terrible student. It really took being in the working world for several years, then going back to school, to get the most out of school. During work, I had to learn how to ask for help, find the information I needed, be responsible for my work and yes, speak in front of a group (though certainly sitting in a meeting is a less formal setting than standing up in front of people).

    When I did go back to class, I spoke up all the time, asked questions, essentially treated the professor like an equal (I mean, I respected her authority, but we were both adults and I spoke to her like one, instead of from a "child" perspective) and I got SO much more out of the class.

    Think of the class like you would a job. Were you a dancer? If so, surely speaking in front of a group can't be more difficult than stripping in front of one, and if you need to, put on some of that dancer hustle persona and think of it as selling the crowd. (Because that actually is what you're doing.) If you weren't a dancer, then try to think of it as purchasing a service. You're buying a class on how to speak more effectively in public. You have expectations of the professor, just like she has of you, and you should certainly consult with her on how to make the class better for both of you.

    As for being afraid to speak in public, being nervous and not doing very well, hey, I'm pretty sure that's the vast majority of people. For every person who's good at public speaking, there are probably about 500 who suck at it, and I bet even many of those who are good at it still don't like to actually DO it.

    Just try to remember that you're in a room of equals and you have no reason to be afraid. If you suck, so the fuck what? Unless you're going into public speaking or politics, it's never going to matter in your life. Besides, once you get used to the class, get to know some of the other people in it, and aren't so intimidated, you'll loosen up and it'll get a lot easier.

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    If so, surely speaking in front of a group can't be more difficult than stripping in front of one,
    speaking is far, far more difficult.

    I have absolutly no problem being naked in a room of 500 on a stage...but I cannot speak to a room of 10 people.

    And it actually never got easier for me, I was as nervous for my first speech as I was for my last.

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    Ugh, teachers suck sometimes.

    Would you be comfortable going up to her and saying you have bad anxiety about speaking, you are taking the class to get over it, and you would apprecaite if she could be supportive or helpful?
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    ^^That's a really good idea. Hopefully it would make her be a little bit more understanding and feel like a douche for the way she acted.

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    *hugs*

    Part of public speaking is dealing with a lack of positive reinforcement from an unreceptive or hostile audience, though. Try teaching classes full of uni students that don't want to be there...
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    I had a very similair situation with an english lit class It was a filler class for e (as we had o take two additional classes in case we change our mind about the main subject) and was made even worse by the fact that whenever i put forth an opinion i was told it was WRONG!! This was in informal disussions as well. then someone ese would say the same thing as me but in different words and get told "thats so insightful" etc.
    I came out crying quite a few times. But i stuck with it, scenarios like that can often cause an "i'll show them" attitude so i stuck it out and passed.

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