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    Okay. So I just started dancing a week ago, and was asked to graduate to the night shift (high-five!) this week - my first one is tomorrow night and

    A) I am nervous about dancing with "the big girls"

    B) My husband's company is sponsoring an event happening that night, so he will be popping in, and while he's trying reaaaalllly hard to be supportive, we've had some fights about it

    C) My husband's Big Kahuna boss is flying out from FL to go account-hopping with him that night because he's been doing such a good job lately, and will be with him

    !!!!!

    We're both trying to be cool about it, but I started thinking about all the hustle and trying not to freak out that it may go really, really bad....

    Any advice??
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    Wow, I don't think this is a good idea!

    A. If you're husband gets angry, you will be upset...PLUS on top of that you know most clubs have rules about your significant other not being allowed in right...I wouldn't advise he come in that nite....

    B.What if your husband gets angry and makes an ass out of himself to his boss....

    C. Do you really want everybody at your hubbies work to know you're a dancer, honestly, they might razz him about it....


    On the other hand, it might be positive....as long as you are SURE your hubby wubby won't be a jealous maniac! You know his boss is probably going to buy a dance or two from you right? Is that going to frek him out...

    Finally, why does he HAVE to go to the club that nite?
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    No, no, no. Not only your husband will be there but his boss? That's just weird. Tell them to stay out of the club that night.. it sounds like your husband has a pretty good corporate job, and of course I don't see anything wrong with dancing, but it probably shouldn't get out about you being a dancer in your husband's corporate life. My husband is a defense contractor and he's obviously ok with me dancing but we still have to keep it really secret.

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    I have a question. Did you know that you would soon be moving over into the "big girl" shift? Also, I take it you've known for a while about your husbands job going to be throwing this event in your club. Why did you decide to make that night, of ALL nights...as the night you start your night shift.

    To answer your question, yes you should be freaking out. If it were me, I'd explain my situation with the manager and start night shift another time..OR i'd be ending my night shift (work some of dayshift that spills over into night) as soon as hubby is supposed to be starting his event.

    But yea, making an attempt (which is weird for any dancer ESPECIALLY a newbie) to work a club while your husband is there is just not going to work out good imo.

    Good luck with whatever you decide,
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    ^ Nope. Got my schedule and the event was scheduled the next day. (He's in the liquor industry so it's pretty common to have things last-minute.)

    Fuck this. I called the manager and explained, he was very understanding and is trying to see if another girl can cover/switch shifts with me.

    Good advice ladies.
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    Good thing...if hubby is already squeamish and argumentative about it..no WAY will it be good for he to actually SEE you flirting,being hit on,etc by other guys...not to mention how insane he'd get if his boss hit on you!

    Plus,like others said..its usually a good thing to keep dancing on the down low from other employers. They arent always understanding.

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    I'd be so uncomfortable with that. I tried to play Devil's advocate and come up with some pros...but I can't really think of any. Except that they might tip well because they know you...?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Renegade View Post
    Okay. So I just started dancing a week ago, and was asked to graduate to the night shift (high-five!)
    i'm happy for you, really....

    but that kind of wording (as well as "big girl" shift for nights) makes it sound like dayshift is a punishment for girls who aren't "good enough" for nights. while i understand some clubs make new girls work days first... that kind of mentality is what makes people think dayshift girls are somehow defective.

    for the 100th time, there are PLENTY of us who could/have worked nights and CHOOSE to work dayshift.

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    Does the big fish KNOW you're his wife? Why can't you keep that bit on the down low? Fuck, maybe it'll make you some money. "Wow, look at that girl over there!" LOL.

    OTOH, not being sure how your hubby will react is the wild card. It would suck to be relegated to days cause of some dumb drama.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cherry_sin View Post
    Does the big fish KNOW you're his wife? Why can't you keep that bit on the down low? Fuck, maybe it'll make you some money. "Wow, look at that girl over there!" LOL.

    OTOH, not being sure how your hubby will react is the wild card. It would suck to be relegated to days cause of some dumb drama.
    it could also backlash if the "big fish" says something not-so-nice about her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pretty_Penny View Post
    i'm happy for you, really....

    but that kind of wording (as well as "big girl" shift for nights) makes it sound like dayshift is a punishment for girls who aren't "good enough" for nights. while i understand some clubs make new girls work days first... that kind of mentality is what makes people think dayshift girls are somehow defective.

    for the 100th time, there are PLENTY of us who could/have worked nights and CHOOSE to work dayshift.

    Look I'm not trying to ruffle any feathers, and I apologize if it came off badly - I was in a panic and trying to get my question out, without really explaining the dynamics of my club, where it seems to me that while "good enough" girls absolutely work the day shifts, and many intentionally so, but they DO seem to have, in my opinion, very talented girls working the nights and for me it was a huge compliment to be asked to join. Again, this is just the club that I work at and obviously there are many exceptions, most notably Vegas, as I have seen in many other threads. So I'm sorry for rubbing you the wrong way.

    UPDATE: hubby was actually disappointed that I had canceled my shift, and said he had been looking forward to seeing me perform, and his boss is actually quite young (31), not the older, greying and balding boss I had pictured....but I still feel I made the best decision, for my own nerves, and if things had gone very badly, for the sake of his job (and mine).

    Thank you all very much for your input - priceless!! Cheers!

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    UPDATE: hubby was actually disappointed that I had canceled my shift, and said he had been looking forward to seeing me perform,
    Not surprising. It seems like he just wanted to watch you right? And maybe show you off. I mean, why else was he going to go? There are a ton of clubs in Portland, so to go to yours isn't coincidence or anything.
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    I'm just going to play devil's advocate for a minute, although I agree with everything that has been said thus far.

    Well, I'm a navy wife, and its not uncommon for my husband's superiors (same goes for pretty much any military couple) to come over for dinner, when considering promoting him. They look at his house, his wife, kids, and just generally how he lives his life. It helps them see what kind of a man the guy is, and some bonding takes place too. If they are undecided, a really good experience at his home can get him the promotion.

    One could draw a comparison with your hubby's boss visiting the club. If his wife is this totally confident, rockin chick that shows them a good time and gets them VIP treatment while they're there, it could give the boss a really good view of your hubby. I mean, come on, he's got to be a huge f***ing stud to have married a sexy stripper chick like you. Instant cool points for him.

    Overall, I'd say that now, in your first week, might not be the best time, unless you are already totally confident and have your act down. You should work out the issues with your hunny first. Later on in your stripping career, I'd say go for it. I used to dance for my hubby's shipmates all the time, but of course, sailors are a little different. If you do for some reason still dance that night, try to make it clear that this is just work. Say things like, "well, I gotta go make some money now, I'll check in on you in a little while." "Time to go make the rounds"

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    EXCELLENT advice, ec. I didn't really want him to see me anyways until I feel "good enough", you know? Having the boss there, the pressure of a first night shift, worrying about hustling in front of him...just not ready yet to pull it off. Mark my words though, it's coming. .
    "...It was part of a lecture about how I should save my money so I could get out of the biz one day. I finally told him, "Every day I work I shove a $20 bill up my pussy. There's thousands of dollars in there. I call it my Rainy Day Fund." - xoxoGracexoxo

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    Quote Originally Posted by Renegade View Post
    EXCELLENT advice, ec. I didn't really want him to see me anyways until I feel "good enough", you know? Having the boss there, the pressure of a first night shift, worrying about hustling in front of him...just not ready yet to pull it off. Mark my words though, it's coming. .
    I hated when my husbands/boyfriends came in (am I the only one??!). I usually packed up and left shortly after they arrived or I completely choked. In almost all cases they got severely pissed seeing me talk to other men. Not trying to say yours will do it, just giving you a heads up in case...it's just not always a good idea. Guys say they can handle it but a lot of them really can't. It seems like one and hell it did to me at first at one time, but once they have a few drinks and/or see you do a few lap dances it usually turns into a nightmare.

    One actually got so drunk and beligerent the managers asked me to never come back. I liked that club too....

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    You're at work to work! My boyfriend always wants to visit me at work, and I tell him "Then why don't I just gussy up and stay home?" Because I'd make about the same amount either way (as in, nothing).

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    I've only ever had one boyfriend come into my work, and I got in trouble for giving him too much contact during a dance...NEVER AGAIN ! lol
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    ^ Yeah, I got busted for making out with my husband in a VIP booth. It was pretty funny when I look back on it.

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    UPDATE: Well, I DID end up working last night - turns out the big boss is actually really young and cool, so it wasn't a big deal at all. But...they left before I started my shift, and all night I worked hard and around 2:10 when I was super tired, they walk back in. I suddenly got so, so, SO nervous - it was like a mini panic attack. It was my turn to go on stage next, so I got to do a set for my husband which was cool, except he had this look on his face like he was trying not to laugh . After that I thought I heard the dj say it was my last set, so I went downstairs to change and got ready to leave, only to come back up and find out no, I should still be dancing for another 20 minutes! I thought my husband & co. were leaving, so I asked the other girls to cover for me so I could go, and then no, they want to stay and hang out. I couldn't just sit there and hang out when I asked those girls to work for me, and I felt so stupid and tired I just went out to my car and sat and cried. Fucking amateur.
    "...It was part of a lecture about how I should save my money so I could get out of the biz one day. I finally told him, "Every day I work I shove a $20 bill up my pussy. There's thousands of dollars in there. I call it my Rainy Day Fund." - xoxoGracexoxo

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    Aw sweetie, don't be hard on yourself! I think it wasn't cool at all of your husband to come in like that, when you weren't ready for him too. He should have been more considerate of you, it was really selfish to bring someone in with him to gawk at you.

    And EVERYONE was an amateur when they started. All of us. Don't sweat it. Move on.
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    Ugh, tell your husband to stay away from your work.

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    Aww, honey I was a little worried about you. Everything ok now?
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    Licked a bruised ego but back in the game

    ...thanks.
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