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    Default question on visiting a friend at her club and tipping

    After reading some of the threads on here it has got me thinking and I am looking for some dancer and customer input.

    I've always tipped very well while at clubs while a customer. If I was watching the stage I would tip and even if I wasn't I would sometimes walk up and tip the dancer, especially if things were slow in the club.

    Here is the thing. I occasionally go and visit a friend who is a dancer at her club while she is working. It is always when things are slow and early in the evening and we arrange it. We just hang out, talk or play pool. The bar is far from the stage and I don't go up to the stage or even sit in the stage area (I stay in the bar) even when my friend is dancing.

    After reading some posts on here I am feeling guilty that I haven't been tipping anyone who is on stage. So I was wondering should I be? I just can't see leaving my friend and walking over to the stage to give a dancer I have not been watching a few bucks. If I tip other dancers than I will have to tip my friend which I don't mind doing but it isn't something I do. (I should mention we are friends and not customer and dancer who use the term "friends"). I've also thought to give money to my friend and tell her to tip the dancers she wants to tip. Or should I just get over the guilt and not tip since I am not watching the show? Or does someone have a better idea or some personal experience?

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    Default Re: question on visiting a friend at her club and tipping

    If you are friends why are you visiting her at her club? Do you see her as a friend outside of the strip club? I have friends who are dancers. When I go to see them at work it is with the intent of spending money on them-they are at work. If I don't want to spend money on them I invite them out to lunch or dinner or some non-club activity.

    As far as tipping the other girls, I would give them each a few bucks if I was hanging around the club all the time simply as a gesture. But that's just me. If you are not sitting at the stage and watching the show I would say you are not obligated. Of course, obligation is in the eye of the beholder sometimes. If it's a place you enjoy spending time and you are treated well spreading a little cash around never hurts.
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    Default Re: question on visiting a friend at her club and tipping

    Sounds to me like you are enjoying the ambiance of the club on the cheap. It is bad form to go to a strip club with no intention of spending money on the strippers there. Even if you are not specifically sitting at the stage you are enjoying the benefit of scantily clad women walking around and the whole sexual atmosphere there.

    As yoda sugggested you should hang out with your "friend" somewhere else. A park, her place or yours, Starbucks or whatever. If you go to the club act like a frikkin customer.

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    Yea, I kind of was thinking along these lines in regards to tipping. I always tip the bartender, it sure wouldn't hurt to tip the dancers too.

    Yes we do "hang out" at many different places when our schedules allow. She goes to work about the time I get done with work and in order to spend more time together she invites me to the club. The other dancers know why I am there so they are not asking me for dances. If I am going to go to a club as a customer (to get dances) I will go a different club and I have no questions about tipping then.

    This is about tipping not about friendship.

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    Default Re: question on visiting a friend at her club and tipping

    I say it depends on the size of the club...

    If it's a big club, then who cares? he isn't watching the show, just hanging out with his friend...

    If it's a little club with few custies, you should occassionally tip.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dance Fan View Post

    This is about tipping not about friendship.
    OK, but here is how it works: You post it and, once it's out there on a public forum, we respond to it with our opinions.

    Honestly, friends don't waste their friend's time when they are at work. That being said, if you and your dancer friend are both OK with you wasting her time at work then I guess my opinion doesn't really matter.

    Of course, I will express it anyway...
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    Default Re: question on visiting a friend at her club and tipping

    sorry dude but i think your putting WAY too much thought into all of this.
    If your at the bar, tip the bartender obviously and leave it at that.
    If you sit at the stage, tip the girls.
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    Default Re: question on visiting a friend at her club and tipping

    I'm with jennahoff...you've thought this way too deeply. Whatever arrangement you have with your friend is between you and her. And as long as the other dancers in her club know the score and leave you be, it doesn't sound like it's skin off anyone's back.

    (Though in my own experience, I'm *more* likely to tip a dancer that is my friend, for the reasons given by others.)
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    Default Re: question on visiting a friend at her club and tipping

    If you are friends, why don't you ask her? She would know what she wants a lot better than we would.

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