Results 1 to 17 of 17

Thread: Question for the ladies

  1. #1
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2003
    Location
    illinois
    Posts
    2,346
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Blog Entries
    2

    Default Question for the ladies

    Ok there's this woman I like and we have been spending time together. After telling her how I felt, I want to be more than friends, she told me she's not sure what she wants and that she's scared. I told her I'm scared too ( we both have came out of a bad break up) and if what I said to her was too much I'm sorry and this is what she told me, "Hey it's not problem you are cool with me and I like it, just be your self and lets have fun! No more sorrys!" So my question is what do I do now? I really like her and we have a good time together. I know I can't make her like me but what can I do to better my chances of her liking me???????
    "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."

  2. #2
    Yekhefah
    Guest

    Default Re: Question for the ladies

    Yup, just be yourself. It's all you can do if you want long-term results.

  3. #3
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2003
    Location
    illinois
    Posts
    2,346
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Blog Entries
    2

    Default Re: Question for the ladies

    Thanks!! That's what I planned on doing!
    "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."

  4. #4
    God/dess jaizaine's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2006
    Location
    melbourne australia
    Posts
    10,144
    Thanks
    328
    Thanked 219 Times in 133 Posts

    Default Re: Question for the ladies

    Play it cool, dont come on too strong or pressure her or anything. If she likes u then u will prob end up together. But it doesnt sound like either of u are ready to rush into any sort of relationship.
    Quote Originally Posted by Corgan View Post
    when regulars turn cheap, it's time to kill em off.
    Quote Originally Posted by Lysondra View Post
    You're still a vagina.
    There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.

    Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.

  5. #5
    Member DeftonesGrl's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2008
    Location
    Midtown, SW
    Posts
    26
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Question for the ladies

    Don't overthink things too much. If you do that, you stop having fun and start obsessing, which isn't very fun for her either. You both like each other. Build from that.

    Just remember, she may not be the one. Don't think in terms of 'the one'. Think in terms of enjoyment.

  6. #6
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2003
    Location
    illinois
    Posts
    2,346
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Blog Entries
    2

    Default Re: Question for the ladies

    Ok I asked a friend and she tells me to play hard to get. That's not how I am I think I will go with you ladies!!!!
    "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."

  7. #7
    Member DeftonesGrl's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2008
    Location
    Midtown, SW
    Posts
    26
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Question for the ladies

    Don't bother playing games hun, it's not worth it. Just be straight with her and have fun!

  8. #8
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2003
    Location
    illinois
    Posts
    2,346
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Blog Entries
    2

    Default Re: Question for the ladies

    Thats what I'm going to do!!! Just be me!
    "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."

  9. #9
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2006
    Location
    Dear God plz send money to Oregon K luv you bye
    Posts
    2,238
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 6 Times in 5 Posts

    Default Re: Question for the ladies

    So wait, have you guys been spending time together in a romantic sense? Or just as friends? To me that's an important distinction before I can tell you what I think. Also, what did you say to her when you told her how you felt? That you like her, love her, what exactly?

  10. #10
    God/dess fancygirl's Avatar
    Joined
    Feb 2005
    Location
    California
    Posts
    3,776
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts

    Default Re: Question for the ladies

    if you told her you like her and she didn't freak out, and then she just said that she's just scared because of her breakup, then I would say that she likes you back.

    so it's not about making her like you.
    Nor is it about her trusting you (though in getting to know you better she will.)

    it's more about getting to trust herself after such a bad breakup.

    bad breakups make most people feel like morons-- like we've got bad judgement, and are trying to figure out how to avoid ever doing that again.

    so-- you really just have to keep doing what you're doing and slowly she (and you) will heal and hopefully get to the point of committment (or whatever you're after, I'm assuming it's commitment).

    I say you're already in a good position.

    It's just the label that she's probably worried about. if you guys have been romantic, then likely you guys already are like "dating," just don't put the label on it.

  11. #11
    Featured Member
    Joined
    Dec 2007
    Location
    Riding my man's D*ck
    Posts
    914
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts

    Default Re: Question for the ladies

    Quote Originally Posted by big_daddy View Post
    Thats what I'm going to do!!! Just be me!
    You're doing the right thing.

  12. #12
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2003
    Location
    illinois
    Posts
    2,346
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Blog Entries
    2

    Default Re: Question for the ladies

    I told her I am falling for her and would really like to be with her more. And no she has never freaked out about anything I say she always tells me to say what I want that life is to short to keep it in! We have went on 2 dates and have hung out, we kiss but not deep romantic kisses, not yet anyway! Thanks for all the help, you ladies are the best!!!!!!!!!!!!
    "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."

  13. #13
    Featured Member Perry's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2008
    Location
    Margaritaville
    Posts
    1,168
    Thanks
    43
    Thanked 105 Times in 54 Posts

    Default Re: Question for the ladies

    Lol! My boyfriend and I had the same conversation! For months he was trying to get me to be his girlfriend and I kept saying "No - I like being single. I'm busy with work/school. I don't want you getting hurt. We're just friends. Ect..." But he just kept being my best friend and a great guy and next week we're celibrating our year anniversery

    It would have come a lot early if I'd given in sooner - so hang in there

  14. #14
    Veteran Member TheLioness's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2006
    Posts
    534
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post

    Default Re: Question for the ladies

    Just keep doing what you're doing...don't be pushy. Don't say things like "have you thought any more about what I told you", things like that. Don't give any ultimatums such as "if I can't have you as a gf then I can't be around you" etc. I'm sure you know all these things and would never do them, but I had someone do that to me in the past, and it turned me completely against him...couldn't stand to be around him anymore.

  15. #15
    God/dess
    Joined
    Oct 2003
    Location
    illinois
    Posts
    2,346
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Blog Entries
    2

    Default Re: Question for the ladies

    Good news!!!!! We were texting and I asked her what kind of man she thought I was and she said superman and I said so are you my lois lane and she did not know what that ment so I told her supermans crush that I'm not going to lie I have a crush on her and she said "I like the truth and I like you too"!!!!!!!!
    "The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."

  16. #16
    Featured Member Perry's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2008
    Location
    Margaritaville
    Posts
    1,168
    Thanks
    43
    Thanked 105 Times in 54 Posts

    Default Re: Question for the ladies

    ^^ Sounds like she's flirting. Enjoy that butterflyies-in-the-stomach feeling!

  17. #17
    God/dess GoldCoastGirl's Avatar
    Joined
    Oct 2002
    Location
    ...hehehe... email me to ask me where i am ! (i dare you!)
    Posts
    11,486
    Thanks
    42
    Thanked 127 Times in 51 Posts

    Default Re: Question for the ladies

    Go with it big_daddy .. go with it!

    This is exactly what I'm enjoying about my boyfriend and myself right now... we talked for awhile ( a month or two ) and just seems to be 'clicking' (on the same wavelength) via chat... that when we finally met... everything just fell into place so easily... and it has been going awesome since

    Yeah, some people might say we are "rushing" things or "going fast" .. yet honestly.. I don't feel we are... I feel we are just .. well.. enjoying it all so much... that it just seems to work.

    Now YOU have to trust in YOU that you are awesome, that you are WORTHY

    She obviously is liking you A LOT so just go with it. Enjoy it.


    enter: E3167322D9 for your 10% discount

Similar Threads

  1. Question for the ladies here:)
    By Labonte in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 31
    Last Post: 09-29-2009, 12:27 PM
  2. Question for you ladies
    By Kandy04 in forum Stripping (was Stripping General)
    Replies: 16
    Last Post: 01-18-2007, 03:25 PM
  3. A Question for the ladies!
    By SexeJaz in forum Club Chat
    Replies: 1
    Last Post: 11-03-2004, 08:41 AM
  4. Ladies, I have a question
    By vivalv2001 in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 10
    Last Post: 09-13-2003, 05:39 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •