I just signed onto my myspace account in what seems like forever and sent out a bunch of messages to people I haven't talked to in awhile.
On a hunch, I checked my ex's profile and he just got married to the girl he started dating a couple months after I broke up with him.
I couldn't help but grin at all their happy wedding photos.
But God was he wearing an ugly tux
so, I write this because I'm glad that he got what he wanted, although I'm sad that he didn't realize his dream of getting married on his parents patio (they got married at a nice casual winery.)
I hope he gets what he wants, in terms of wanting to get married to fix what he saw as the problems in his parents marriage. Obviously, it's more than that, since he's genuinely happy with this woman.
but I remember when he was pressuring me about marriage and kids and how I kept telling him I didn't want that and he kept telling me I'd change my mind (this while he was initially dating this girl.) So I hope that at the deepest level he's marrying her because she's his soulmate rather than that he found a girl to love him completely and say yes, although that second one is nothing to sniff at.
plus 24 just seems so young to get married though they've been dating for (I think) 2 and a half years.
I hope they get their happy ending.
and yet part of me hopes he realizes the part I felt he wanted more (if only he'd had the courage to pursue it): the life of the independent wood furniture making bachelor as opposed to the married engineer.
ah well-- perhaps I'm just cynical about the chances any marriage has these days.
mazel tov!




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Holy shit!
Maybe they'll marry, and if they do, I'll send them a gift or something 

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