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    Default I did my first shift ... it didn't go as smooth as I hoped, but I'm glad I did it!

    As a few of you know ... I've run around a bit auditioning everywhere hunting for the perfect club ... and recently I got realistic and just worked.

    I'm a little down on myself right now. I had great interactions with some genuinely nice customers. I don't think one person said a single rude thing and one string of dances was particularly lovely.

    And ..... I'm still feeling kind of yucky.

    The contact levels where I was were not bad ( it was sensual cuddly touching, nothing that made me want to run/retch ).

    I think I am just way too paranoid and touchy for this. The worst point came when I ran into a customer that works in the same industry I do in my day job. I got really paranoid about being recognized OTC and bailed an hour early. I realize now that there is probably a .001 % chance I'd see the dude again and if I'd did .... I wouldn't be wearing a stripper outfit so the chance he'd recognize me is pretty slim.

    Anyway ... that's all for now. More details to come.
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    Default Re: I did my first shift and I'm not really sure how I feel about it.

    My stomache is still churning from the sm. chance I could run into that guy. I shouldn't worry about it ( I mean really ... what would the odds be? ). This is making me want to run to the salon and chop my hair off or dye it ( it's long and blonde even though it looks red in the avatar ). I feel like you could spot me a mile away with it. I think I just need to calm down. That might be my first and only night dancing. I can see that the $ potential is there ... I just don't know if the stress is worth it.

    I guess I'm still just sorting through things and wish I had someone to talk to , but I don't since I neglected to tell anyone about this venture.

    I feel like such a wuss posting this. I really wanted to post a " I had so much fun and made great money and LOVE it" thread instead of this lame story.

    Maybe I just need a little more processing time or something.


    ;(
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    Default Re: I did my first shift and I'm not really sure how I feel about it.

    well if you don't love it honey don't force it. well, if you feel that uncomfortable it's a sign. but i do say try one more night. when you make big bucks and you still feel uncomfortable then you know its not for you

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    Default Re: I did my first shift and I'm not really sure how I feel about it.

    This job definately isn't for everyone Carmen.
    Why is someone recognizing you from the club so stressing to you? Is it just because it would be 'embarrassing'? That a family member could find out you're a dancer?

    if you can determine what is bothering you, maybe we can help

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    Default Re: I did my first shift and I'm not really sure how I feel about it.

    ^ Basically ... he could be a client of mine ( of sorts ). The chance is so slim and I think I've solved the problem by looking inside my suitcase ( and then pulling out a baggy and completely unflattering sweater which I'll wear during the weekend. The stress was just coming from thinking about literally meeting someone on their lap ( his friend bought a dance for him so I met him by hopping on his lap ) and then hearing later on what they were here for.

    Anyway .... the chance is slim ..... and the airport sweater adds 20 fake pounds to my frame. I'll just pull my hair back and go with that to feel secure. Like I said, I think I'm just being paranoid. I've calmed down today .... and paid for everything I've bought today with stripper money !

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    Default Re: I did my first shift and I'm not really sure how I feel about it.

    Honey, two things.

    First of all BREATHE. I know when you first start dancing the thought of running into somebody you know is terrifying...but its kind of one of those things...HE was there too...What's he going to say? I mean, put it in a different perspective...say you met him at a swinger's party...what's he going to say, I'm a swinger and so is Carmen?

    Second, people don't really recognize you in the club. I did a lap dance for a guy I knew from highschool...he didn't know who I was til I told him. (btw my graduating class had 40 kids so its not like he didn't remember me, and the only difference in my looks is now I am blonde)

    Third, if the job makes you uncomfortable, then don't do it. It doesn't sound like you're that desperate for money or anything anyway...right? I would give it one or two more chances tho. After all, you have been looking forward to this for a long time now...why try it once and quit?
    Sexy Jasmine after getting fucked over at work:

    God loves strippers and when guys do things like that its an automatic ticket to HELL!


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    Perhaps you stopped spending money on her. Strippers need money to operate. They are like coin operated juke-boxes of love.

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    Default Re: I did my first shift and I'm not really sure how I feel about it.

    I was on stage once to collect a tip and when I got the $$ I realized that I just put my tits in some sleezy guy's face who I used to work with when I was a server. And he had on the nastiest little smirk on his face and kept asking me what my name was, which I insisted was my stage name. Yuck. Thank God for him not speaking much English! My big worry was it going back to my son's father, who knew him too. So I know how you feel about the "embarrassment". I dance a half hour away from my city (because no one knows I dance) and I still see people I've worked with/met/etc from time to time. It took a while but I got over it and stopped caring. Why the hell should I feel embarrassed when these men are the ones who are coming into the club to pay women to tease them? I still don't tell people what I do, but if they find out, fine.
    About you feeling uncomfortable...most of us do when we started. But being close to different men is part of the job, and like Alessandra said, it isn't for everyone. Give yourself some time but if you still don't feel right about it, it might be time to look for something else. Good luck!

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    Default Re: I did my first shift and I'm not really sure how I feel about it.

    ^ I didn't have problems being close. I actually thought the lap dances were very sensual and fun.
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    Default Re: I did my first shift and I'm not really sure how I feel about it.

    ^^^ they are for the guy...but for the dancer.... thats another story.




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    Default Re: I did my first shift and I'm not really sure how I feel about it.

    Maybe I phrased that wrong. I just wanted to illustrate that yes, there was contact , but it was light / non scary contact. It was work of course ( it would have been a lot easier to just squish down on him with my full weight for example ... my legs muscles were actually sore and they almost never get sore since I work out a lot ) .

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    Default Re: I did my first shift and I'm not really sure how I feel about it.

    I'm feeling a lot better. I can't possibly judge with just one night. I only earned half of what I'd hoped, but that was my fault ( I was only there half the time ). I also didn't know you could do $20 dances right there out on the open floor. The house mom explained things really really fast and it took me about 2 hours until I figured out that you could dance for $20 a song on the floor. I thought you had to sell sets of dances in another area . I only figured it out when I tried to set the small set of dances and a customer said " Can we do one of the $20 ones right here ? " . I'm like " Oh can we ? " .... lol

    Oh well .... there is a learning curve for sure.

    I wanted to explain to that I'm not a wuss about contact , I'm just used to the club set up where I was a waitress. It's stage only. There are no lapdances ( you can actually get in trouble for sitting on someones lap ). When I started on this idea of dancing myself I actually thought that ALL clubs were set up as stage only. It was through SW that I figured out how things work. It might seem strange to not know that clubs had contact dances ... but I'd just never seen it ... so I didn't.
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    Default Re: I did my first shift and I'm not really sure how I feel about it.

    if money is your main worry right now, dont let it be. youll take a while to learn to hustle, and how to worka room and guys. right now get comfortable with things, work on your look, talking to people etc. the money will come the more you work at it.

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    Default Re: I did my first shift and I'm not really sure how I feel about it.

    I know , but my other job has a sales portion to it and I'm a fanatic about tracking earnings and hourly averages.

    Thank you so much for your responses ladies. I work my day job today and then I think I'll do a day shift at the club tomorrow.

    I'm in a city now that I actually rarely travel to ( a different place than I was in when I posted this thread ) and I'm just curious to see what the clubs here are like ( more curious to see what a weekend is like , but I may have to settle for a Sun. day shift ) .
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    Default Re: I did my first shift and I'm not really sure how I feel about it.

    Quote Originally Posted by carmen_b View Post
    I know , but I am in sales for my other gig and I'm a finactic about tracking earnings / commisions.
    i was ins ales before i started dancing, and let me tell you its going to give you an edge other girls wont have.

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    Default Re: I did my first shift and I'm not really sure how I feel about it.

    I did not get outed. I met everyone today that I'm going to be working with at my day gig and the dude in the club wasn't in there. He did have a striking similarity to one of the clients so I got pretty nervous when meeting everyone.

    Wanted to update. Obviously I'm feeling a lot better now . Worked a 15 hour day. Way tired. Good night.
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    Default Re: I did my first shift and I'm not really sure how I feel about it.

    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    i was ins ales before i started dancing, and let me tell you its going to give you an edge other girls wont have.
    I hope so ! I've been doing sales related stuff since 20 , but I feel like I just got decent at it in the last few years.

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