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    I just started dancing two weeks ago. First noone believes I've never danced before because I can actually dance and do some pole tricks and I'm attractive with good curves. At first the girls just didn't talk to me, with the exception of a few really sweet ones but now some of them are being down right thug ass bitches!! Trying to eff with my money and customer hustle. I can't stand it, I'm a really sweet girl, hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil. I don't want to play their game but I'm not sure what to do.

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    Jealousy.

    Be glad- if everyone liked you, that would mean you weren't taking their money.

    Ignore the other girls and become great friends with the staff and management.

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    Just ignore them. Focus all of your attention on the men in the club and how to pry the money from their wallets. Your sanity will thank you later. And your bank account, lol.

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    Take it as a compliment.

    (PS Not all dancers are like this. Most lay off after a while. Just figure out who you have to watch out for....this happens in regular workplaces too.)

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    It seems like a lot of dancers want to be "top dog" in the club and try to make other dancers submissive to them and need to show up the new girls. When I start out at a club, I generally keep to myself but I'm still friendly when dancers come up to me.

    I don't go out of my way to be nice to the new girls. I would never be mean to them and if they start talking to me, unless I get a bad vibe, I'll be friendly back but I've seen so many new girls come in and be a shitty person that it's just not worth my energy to be nice to someone new when I don't know them yet.

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    It's like this for every "new girl" at every club I've been to. Dont take it personally. They're threatened by you and worried that you're going to cut into their money, yes, but also they probably don't trust you because you're a stranger to them and in this business there are a lot of shady ass bitches who will steal your shit...so it takes awhile for people to warm up to you and decide you're OK. Seems to take about a month to 6 weeks at the places I've worked, though the super mean shit only lasts a couple weeks, usually. If someone really fucks with you directly, like tries to bully you or cuts into a sale, then say something to the manager and stand up for yourself to the girl's face. It's kind of like prison in a sense -- some people test you just to see if you're tough enough to tell them to fuck off. And once you do they decide you're worthy of respect and they leave you alone.
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    Oh and btw for whatever reason, maybe just strip club culture, people dont like it if a new girl tries too hard to be friendly. It somehow annoys them. The preferred attitude is "mind your own business."
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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine View Post
    Take it as a compliment.

    (PS Not all dancers are like this. Most lay off after a while. Just figure out who you have to watch out for....this happens in regular workplaces too.)
    Man, sooo true!


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    Thanks girls!

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    Quote Originally Posted by BrodieLux View Post
    Oh and btw for whatever reason, maybe just strip club culture, people dont like it if a new girl tries too hard to be friendly. It somehow annoys them. The preferred attitude is "mind your own business."
    When I go to a new club, I don't talk to anyone. I just work. I'll be friendly if someone talks to me first, but in general just focus on work and eventually people will realize you're OK and their guards will come down.

    IMHO it's better not to be too friendly with people at work anyway...it always seems to distract me from hustling. Maybe I've just been in some really laid-back clubs, but I always find myself fooling around, talking and being silly with other girls in the DR. That may be fun but it's never good for money!

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    Quote Originally Posted by iseestars View Post
    I don't go out of my way to be nice to the new girls. I would never be mean to them and if they start talking to me, unless I get a bad vibe, I'll be friendly back but I've seen so many new girls come in and be a shitty person that it's just not worth my energy to be nice to someone new when I don't know them yet.
    Same here. I'm would never be mean either, but I am not going out of my way to interact with them. Plus, you never know if new girls are there to stay or if they'll disappear in two weeks. I'm wary of them until I've seen how they handle themselves and how they work.

    You might be taking indifference as meanness. Just go about your business, be friendly, and eventually they will get to know you. And once you've been dancing for awhile you might begin to understand why new girls are treated like that.

    That said, you shouldn't have to put up with "thug" behavior from anyone. I would just ignore girls like that the best I could, and if they got too threatening I might talk to management. But I wouldn't do that as a first resort.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl View Post
    Same here. I'm would never be mean either, but I am not going out of my way to interact with them. Plus, you never know if new girls are there to stay or if they'll disappear in two weeks. I'm wary of them until I've seen how they handle themselves and how they work.

    You might be taking indifference as meanness. Just go about your business, be friendly, and eventually they will get to know you. And once you've been dancing for awhile you might begin to understand why new girls are treated like that.

    That said, you shouldn't have to put up with "thug" behavior from anyone. I would just ignore girls like that the best I could, and if they got too threatening I might talk to management. But I wouldn't do that as a first resort.

    i agree fully.

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    Welcome to the strip club.

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    That sucks that you aren't at one of those clubs where girls do go outta their way to make you feel comfortable...especially since you're just starting out. Yes, there are clubs like this where I've been, where girls tell me how things work, constantly compliment me, etc, and yes, they end up being nice to me until I leave the club, so I know they're not being fake.

    To be honest, if you said you were new and you busted out the pole tricks, I might think you were lying, too, but I wouldn't really care...and I don't see what having curves has to do w/having danced before.

    Just don't let them know they get to you, cuz that will really affect your hustle. Watch your stuff so it doesn't get stolen/messed with. I agree when people say to just concentrate on the guys and make friends w/management...but don't be up their asses lol.

    Personally, I wouldn't tell them to fuck off. I guess I'm not just a confrontational kind of person. I would rather let them not know they got to me, and have them waste a bunch of energy on me, while I'm walking away and smiling/laughing at them. However, there are some exceptions, like if they threaten to physically harm you or w/e, in which case I'd go to the manager that you've "become on good terms with."

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    Quote Originally Posted by exotica268 View Post
    To be honest, if you said you were new and you busted out the pole tricks, I might think you were lying
    I already knew a couple pole tricks before I even thought about dancing. My friend has had a pole in his house forever and I taught myself some moves.
    Plus I'd hung out in SC's for years before becoming a dancer and was very familiar with how to give a LD, move on stage, etc....
    Nobody believed me (customers included) when I said I'd never danced before but I didn't care.

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    [quote=exotica268;1601092. Yes, there are clubs like this where I've been, where girls tell me how things work, constantly compliment me, etc, and yes, they end up being nice to me until I leave the club, so I know they're not being fake.with.[/quote]

    I can't stand clubs like this. I guess I'm a loner and or have trust issues since the club you described seems like my worst nightmare. When I'm working, especially at a new club, I like to be left alone.

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    Quote from a girl in the dressing room, "I love haters, I collect them."

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    Well, at my club when I first started no one but a few girls talked to me and I would not talk to anyone unless they talked to me first, that is a rule I live by in this business! Now, I have been there for about a month and everyone talks to me and it's great! And I do make a lot of money, so just because they like me doesn't mean I don't make money!

    Another thing to remember is DON'T SUCK UP! You are just as good as they are and you not don't have to impress anyone but the customers!
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    Smile, focus on your customers, and ignore the haters. The more they try to get to you, the more you should take it as a compliment. They are obviously jealous and threatened by you, so you must be have it going on. Yay!

    If you do have to verbally interact with them, just be polite and professional, but don't go out of your way to be super friendly.

    You do have to take the initiative and keep your guard up and your stuff protected. Lock up your stuff. And don't believe anything the girls tell you. And if you are physically threatened, then I would tell mgmnt.

    In time they will knock it off. Just ignore them and they will quit it. And smile.

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    its not always about jealousy. sometimes being new, you dont know the laws of the land in stripperworld so you may be stepping on toes and not realize it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by made_of_sequins View Post
    When I go to a new club, I don't talk to anyone. I just work. I'll be friendly if someone talks to me first, but in general just focus on work and eventually people will realize you're OK and their guards will come down.

    IMHO it's better not to be too friendly with people at work anyway...it always seems to distract me from hustling. Maybe I've just been in some really laid-back clubs, but I always find myself fooling around, talking and being silly with other girls in the DR. That may be fun but it's never good for money!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Bella_xo_xo View Post
    Trying to eff with my money and customer hustle.
    What exact things happened?
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    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    its not always about jealousy. sometimes being new, you dont know the laws of the land in stripperworld so you may be stepping on toes and not realize it.
    Yeah, this is true too.

    Keep reading SW and make sure you pay attention to your surroundings at work so you don't inadvertently step on toes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    its not always about jealousy. sometimes being new, you dont know the laws of the land in stripperworld so you may be stepping on toes and not realize it.
    Oh, but don't you know that any time a female has a conflict with another female it is rooted in jealousy?

    That seems to be the "go to" explanation anytime someone posts about a problem they are having with another girl. I think it's bullshit. People are motivated by a lot of things, and yes, jealousy is one of them, but there are also about 50 other explanations that are just as plausible in most situations. I would never flatter myself by thinking or saying that someone is jealous of me just because we have a conflict.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Andygirl View Post
    Oh, but don't you know that any time a female has a conflict with another female it is rooted in jealousy?

    That seems to be the "go to" explanation anytime someone posts about a problem they are having with another girl. I think it's bullshit. People are motivated by a lot of things, and yes, jealousy is one of them, but there are also about 50 other explanations that are just as plausible in most situations. I would never flatter myself by thinking or saying that someone is jealous of me just because we have a conflict.
    agreed.

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