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    hmph. i felt lonely before because i'm not used to being so alone. my schedule is usually pretty jam packed. but i feel even more alone right now. a bunch of people from work are going to see tiesto tomorrow night in dc and i was supposed to go, but i know im not going to feel up to being out all night so i told the guy who was organizing it to give my spot to somebody who could enjoy it more. i cant change my mind tomorrow and decide i want to go because only 18 people can go since they have a private section and everything.

    im depressed.. i was really looking forward to it. i just didnt think i'd be feeling so blah still.. its only been 5 days though so i guess i underestimated that. not to mention i have nothing cute to wear to cover the surgical bra, i have no clue how i'd do my hair bc it takes a while to blowdry, and i obviously would have to stay sober. why pay $100 for a section with drinks included when i can't drink, everyone else will be rolling or eating weed cookies or something.. that just wouldnt be fun for me.

    but i was so excited about it. i think i'm going to go out to dinner with one of my friends and her daughter who i LOOOVE, because her husband is going to the club. my best friend is missing it too, bc shes leaving on vacation with her family after work tonight. so i wont be the only one not there.. it just sucks and im over emotional and i dont feel good and i need a hug.

    sorry, i just needed to vent a little

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    Default Re: im just feeling sad and lonely :(

    and have a good time!

    me? i'll be spending tomorrow spring-cleaning the house with my son and helping my cousin move in for a few months stay (or longer? ).

    so yes, you can be jealous.

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    well cleaning is no fun either! but have a good time doing what? i guess you meant going to dinner? i hope she doesnt flake on me. i dont think she will because she's the type that loves to help people out and shes been asking me way in advance if i needed her to do anything for me.

    i feel fat, too. i havent been eating much and what i am eating isnt the healthiest. im letting myself slide because i'm unhappy. i just want to be healed.

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    Default Re: im just feeling sad and lonely :(

    awee , it's only one event there will be many more... you got boobs!! I got depressed after my BA too. Going out to dinner should cheer you up. How long do you have to wear the surgery bra? I went to JcPenney about 2 days after my surgery and bought a bunch of bras and a few little going out shirts to tide me over for a week or two while I was bloated. I didn't want to spend much on something that i wasnt gonna use very long but, those bras are awesome , I am still using a few and that was 3 years ago.

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    they told me to wear the bra they sent me home in until i go back for my 1 week check up, which will be wednesday. i dont really even feel good enough to go shopping yet. probably from being on all this medicine. i havent taken any of the nausea pills though i probably should.. i'd probably feel worlds better.

    not to mention my cats hate me right now im not giving them as much attention as they want, and my girl is good about curling up on my lap but the boy likes to sleep right up on my chest. i have to keep moving him back down, and he does not like that, lol.

    i feel like im being a burden to my parents, too. theyre having to drive me around (to go for my breathalyzer today), and come check on me and stuff. so i feel like a big bitch for not wanting my dad there for the actual surgery, even though he was cranky the whole time and i know he didnt WANT to be.

    im just a mess right now. haha.. sorry. im whining like crazy. nobody has to read this.. i just need to babble on a little bit.

    maybe i'll try to take pictures and post those in a little bit.

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    Don't really know what to say Britt,


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    {{{{{{Britt}}}}}}

    But you sound a lot more positive than you did, say, six months ago.

    It's only a few weeks down time, and then you will be jet setting it again.

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    I know it sucks hon but its worth missing one event for the sake of your lovely new boobies. I know what you mean about those stupid sports bras, I had to wear mone for 6 weeks and hardly anything I wore looked good with them. A bit of depression is normal after surgery, it will pass soon, sending you some big hugs honey.



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    i know its only one event. but its a big one, and what would be a really fun one. we dont do stuff like that all the time, either. honestly the last time was new years.. so i guess thats why im disappointed. who knows when we'll do it again.

    and UGH i just thought of something.. im going to the beach at the end of july and if i cant get away with a normal bra im not going to be able to wear anything cute!

    i'm a little upset at my best friend, too. after work last night, she texted me that she was dropping her boyfriend off at home and then had to drive to her parents house 3 hours away bc they were leaving for vacation in the morning. she said (her suggestion) that after dropping off her bf she'd come stop by and see me if i was still up. i told her i was sleeping on and off, but if she called on her way, i'd be up. she said she'd call when she was leaving her house. and she never did. no text saying she wasnt coming, nothing.

    a girl im not very close with from work called to check on me, and said if i needed anything to call them. another girl at work gave my best friend a message to tell me she was thinking of me and praying for me. a girl at work that i HATE even left me a comment on myspace saying she hoped things went well. so why cant my CLOSE friends do the same?

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    a girl im not very close with from work called to check on me, and said if i needed anything to call them. another girl at work gave my best friend a message to tell me she was thinking of me and praying for me. a girl at work that i HATE even left me a comment on myspace saying she hoped things went well. so why cant my CLOSE friends do the same?
    i think it's that we all tend take things (and friends) for granted. e.g. my friends and i can go a year without even speaking/emailing but the next time we meet for a get-together it'll just be like school days all over again. we've all just gravitated to being low-maintenance friends, i guess.

    but your best friend might've thought you were too tired or she was too busy. she did call/text in the first place, take solace with that.

    as for the other people, that's nice too. maybe you can open up new friendships with them, not to say to forget the old (not as responsive) friends though.

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    Quote Originally Posted by snoopy View Post
    but your best friend might've thought you were too tired or she was too busy. she did call/text in the first place, take solace with that.
    i know, it's just a little irritating that she suggested it, said she'd call me in a little bit, and didnt even text me to say she changed her mind. i would never have asked her to stop by with all the driving she had to do, it just bugs me because it was her idea.

    i've still talked to her daily since ive gotten it done, and she was the first person to call and check on me on the first day. i just havent seen her. that kinda hurts. she has to drive past my exit, and my apt is literally 30 seconds off the exit, to get to work every day. one of the girls at the farm she boards her horses at got hurt last week, and she was telling me how she made her a care package and bought her a nintendo ds, some books, candy, blah blah blah.. and here i am telling her how lonely i am. it just makes me sad, thats all.

    i just feel so out of the loop right now! lol. im used to being in the middle of everything so this is hard for me! (notice my novel length posts on here lately.. that hasnt happened in a while! )

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    one of the girls at the farm she boards her horses at got hurt last week, and she was telling me how she made her a care package and bought her a nintendo ds, some books, candy, blah blah blah.. and here i am telling her how lonely i am. it just makes me sad, thats all.
    WTF?!?! she got a DS?!! kick that biatch to the curb. best friend-status warrants similar treatment! it's friend-law.

    but seriously, ok, i can definitely see a disparity there. sorry, about that. meh, people are going to treat people differently depending on the situation. it could be your friend thinks the other person is necessarily higher maintenance. the person caring for her horses might treat them differently with gifts and such. it might be 'getting' your friend more favors/good treatment for her horses, i.e. buying that friendship.

    whereas for you, you're more of a true friend and thus not 'needing' gifts and such extra attention.

    sometimes you wish your friendship could be rented at least though, right?

    nah, it's better to be a "true" friend than a "fair-weather" one.

    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    i just feel so out of the loop right now! lol. im used to being in the middle of everything so this is hard for me! (notice my novel length posts on here lately.. that hasnt happened in a while! )
    yeah, i hadn't seen you (your posts) around in a while. or maybe you were just staying in the other sub-forums? i didn't even know you had a BA, from that i'd assume you spent some time in body forum for research and such. nice to see you around again!

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    Quote Originally Posted by snoopy View Post
    yeah, i hadn't seen you (your posts) around in a while. or maybe you were just staying in the other sub-forums? i didn't even know you had a BA, from that i'd assume you spent some time in body forum for research and such. nice to see you around again!
    thank ya its the lonliness, i tell ya! i never have this much time on my hands! im sleeping and watching tv and sw-ing and thats about it!

    i dont want presents, i just wanted a visit! oh well. i texted her and told her she couldve told me she changed her mind. she said she didnt want to wake me up. im not gonna hold it against her..

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    im feeling a bit better.. had a normal talk with the ex (yeah, shush. he's a jerk and it's over but occasionally he can be good to talk to), a friend called to say he wants to go out to lunch tuesday, and i got a little bit of stuff done. not much, but i showered, shaved, washed my hair (and that makes me feel better already) and emptied and reloaded the dishwasher. being a little more self reliant instead of depending on my parents cheered me up a bit.

    i havent heard from the girl i was supposed to go to dinner with, though.. i don't really mind. i dont know how up to it i really feel anyway. i didnt take a nap today and im getting sleepy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    im feeling a bit better.. had a normal talk with the ex (yeah, shush. he's a jerk and it's over but occasionally he can be good to talk to),
    that just saved me 5 minutes for repremanding you

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    Quote Originally Posted by G-Real View Post
    that just saved me 5 minutes for repremanding you
    well i hate him and he made me cry. i fucking hate my life right now. i am so sick of everything. nothing good ever happens to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    nothing good ever happens to me.
    Boobies have happened to you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by UtahMike View Post
    Boobies have happened to you!
    and now theyre making me depressed! people should be happy after plastic surgery, not sad.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    and now theyre making me depressed! people should be happy after plastic surgery, not sad.
    Britt, RIGHT NOW call the surgeon who did your BA and tell him/her about your feelings of depression. Post surgery depression is common, and there is medication that can be prescribed that will help.

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    ^ i cant call him at 10:30 on a sunday night silly! im feeling a little better bc i took another painkiller. i think i overexerted myself today. i think i was expecting it to be a bit faster than it is going, and so even the little things i did today were too much. i didnt nap at all, either, which didnt help.

    i go back for my 1 week on wednesday, so we'll see how things go until then.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lexi View Post
    It is very normal and it will start to go away soon. You can be 100% confident in that. I got very depressed too!
    how come it happens, do you think?

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    well i hate him and he made me cry. i fucking hate my life right now. i am so sick of everything. nothing good ever happens to me.


    It is very normal and it will start to go away soon. You can be 100% confident in that. I got very depressed too!
    I'm sure you have read about it. Many people report depression after any kind of major surgery. So atleast you know its a normal thing.
    Plus, the boobs look amazing. Thats reason enough to smile.


    eta:

    I had to delete my post because when I tried to edit it, it wasnt saving. LOL

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    ^ yeah, i know its normal. i just wish it wasnt, lol.

    thank you for saying they look good, btw.

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    Quote Originally Posted by britt244 View Post
    how come it happens, do you think?

    I don't know why, actually. I just know that soooo many people go through it. I was actually expecting it before I got my surgery since I have anxiety issues and such. I said to myself, "I'm going to be the "lucky" SOB who gets depressed and ends up hating her boobs, life, etc" And after my surgery I pretty much did. (well, hated my life, not the boobs lol)

    And in a few weeks, I felt 100% better. I honestly think its because you are an independant person and having to rely on people to do your everyday things make you feel like you aren't that person at the moment.

    But soon enough, you will be moving around, reaching up high without wincing in pain, and you will be so much happier.

    Wait till those bad boys start to relax and drop. You are going to be ecstatic! They already look great, and it's been what? 5 days?

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    ^ yeah, its been 6 days. i think maybe its worse too bc i was supposed to have my period this week (i just kept taking the pills so i didnt have to deal with that) so that could be adding to my mood swings.

    its strange for me to have so much down time, and i think also part of it is like they say a bride is depressed after the wedding. you look forward to it for so long and then it happens and its like ok.. now what? even though now i get to do fun stuff like buy new clothes and stuff once i feel better.

    i do feel like a burden to people, too. my parents are having to do so much for me and its making me feel bad, even though i know i shouldnt.

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