I have sort of made friends with a girl from school who is/was an esthiology student. She just graduated last week. She's 42 and single. She asks me to do things with her a couple times a week but because she lives about 40 miles from me and about 20 miles from the school I can't do it all the time. Plus I just don't like being up anyone's ass. I enjoy my "alone" time.
Well, when we go out she is EXTREMELY nitpicky and critical. She talks pretty bad about some of the girls at school that aren't like her which I try to overlook. But when we go to the restaurant and we do go to some nice ones, she's always asking if the ingredients are fresh. Like when she orders a margarita she asks for it a certain way and has sent a couple back. When we order wine she always asked for a bottle that has been opened that day. She is vegetarian which I respect because I eat all veggies except fish and occasionally chicken. But she complained that her salad had too many olives or we didn't get enough appetizer. Just every little thing. She finds fault in everything. I think she really means well but she likes things a certain way and expects it. It wears me down though when people complain a lot. My grandmother complains a lot but I deal with it because she's old and plus she's my grandma. I mean some things I understand but I feel as though she goes overboard with it. She even criticized me for returning a guy's phone call while we were together. Now she wants me to go out-of-town with her. I don't think I can stand it for a weekend. She called me at 8am this morning ready to make plans.
Anybody else have experiences with people who complain a lot or are just very critical in general? How should I deal? Should I just be upfront with her like she is to others?



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