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    Angry i'm so frustrated. i'm in tears.

    i almost never cry and yet i'm on the verge right now. i know i've posted about health and financial woes before, mostly due to lack of health insurance. i'm sorry for the ranting... but i'm just so overwhelmed right now and i don't talk about this kind of "personal shit" with people irl.

    right now, i feel truly hopeless.

    things were back on track and going ok lately. we're paying all our bills (always have) and although i -still- need to go to the doctor for this 4 month long knee pain (i cant put any pressure on it at all and it goes numb) we were doing alright.

    we were able to get a new mattress which we severely needed (old one was over 15 years old, broken in many places). i was able to get my dog an emergency surgery she needed (cost me 1,400.00). we were able to fix my boyfriends car when it broke down (TWICE). i was -just- about to make an apt for the doctor for myself because of my knee and a few other things... when my boyfriend suddenly notices a hole in his tooth. the next day, the hole is 2 times bigger, the 3rd day it's even bigger than that. an obvious problem.

    so we make him an apt for the dentist. i drop him off today and go to my school to fill out financial aid papers for next semester. when i pick him up he tells me they didn't do anything. they won't give him a regular cleaning because he needs a "deep cleaning". the regular cleaning costs 100.00... the deep cleaning costs ONE THOUSAND EIGHT HUNDRED. on top of that he needs a root canal and a crown. grand total??? "ABOUT 3 TO 4 THOUSAND DOLLARS".

    ok. fucking FANTASTIC. so we paid 200 for the visit today (office fee and xrays) and he's no better off, other than knowing we need 3-4 fucking grand so that he doesn't have to be in severe pain since it's headed right to the nerve.

    how the fuck does anyone afford that? we were going to save up to finally go on vacation in a couple months (i posted about it recently) but now i don't think that's happening. i seriously don't see any way possible we're going to get 4k together. not to mention -i- still need to start seeing doctors about things.

    i know i sound like a pussy, but tears are welding up as i type this. i know i'm not special and there's a billion other people in these situations all over the country right now, but i don't care at the moment. i feel ripped off. i feel like it's not fair. i've worked my ass off since i was 16 (so has he). i have no major debt... and yet i have almost nothing (besides my car) to show for it... and i can't even get basic health problems taken care of. i feel like i'm always fixing or taking care of something. people always say "shit happens when you least expect it" well i feel like "shit happens all the time, especially when you think things are looking up".

    i'm about ready to drop out of school so i can take two jobs. i don't know wtf else to do anymore. the only reason i dance in the first place is because i wanted to go back to school.

    uhhhgg.

    i probably wouldn't be so upset if i had any kind of reasonable plan of action. i'm a logic-based person. i like to make detailed plans to fix things, and when i don't even know where to start, i get really frustrated. i feel angry and i don't even know who to be angry at. i want find someone i can deem responsible , shake them, and scream "IF TWO PEOPLE WORK THEIR ASSES OFF ALL THE TIME AND TRY TO BETTER THEMSELVES, WHY SHOULD THEY HAVE TO WALK AROUND IN PAIN AND WORRY!?!?!?"

    goddamn it. i feel like a loser.

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    i have a couple friends in your situation.

    have you looked into care credit? its run by crapital one bank but they offer low or no interest loans for medical and dental reasons you should check and see if you guys qualify.

    best luck hun.

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    thanx.

    he can't get care credit because of he defaulted on his student loans. he just started paying them back and got them out of collections (see? we WERE moving foward) but they said it will take 9 months before it shows up on his credit.

    i can't get credit because i have no credit. i've never owned a credit card. i've always paid my bills but UNFORTUNATELY that "doesn't count". i'm going to have to get a secured visa when i ever have 5 hundred (the minimum for my credit union) to put on hold and say "bye" to for awhile. yes i've tried applying for store credit cards (target and etc). i've been denied for everything because of "lack of credit history".

    we both applied for care credit when my dog needed surgery. we were denied and i had to bust-ass to make the money.

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    *sigh* where is my indecent proposal? i will -totally- fuck a guy for a million bucks right now.

    i bet demi moore can't even clap her ass.

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    that sucks

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    I know exactly how you feel.
    A year and a half ago, an under-insured man hit me with his truck in a crosswalk. It broke my jaw and several teeth. It also left me with nearly $100K in debt to a couple of hospitals. While I've been trying to find out how to get treated, of course I discover all the intense back-work that needs to be done (deep cleanings, root canals) before any cosmetic work can take effect. I'm looking at well over $50K in costs if I ever want to smile like normal again.
    There is no easy solution. Your boyfriend may have to wait with rotted teeth until he can come up with money to fix them. My solution is working and going over-seas for dental work to cut the costs. There's no way I'm paying what dentists here charge for people with no insurance. It just seems like robbery.
    Good, luck dear. It seems like a very long-term goal but you'll make it.
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    are they back teeth? is it possible to get them pulled? that is a lot cheaper.

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    I feel your pain..I DO have insurance and I STILL cant afford everything I need done.

    But I researched a bit and maybe this can help your bf:

    http://www.tbnweekly.com/content_art...707_pco-05.txt

    http://www.sptimes.com/2007/11/28/Pa...e_on_the.shtml


    http://www.ada.org/ada/organizations...nizationID=559

    http://www.dental.ufl.edu/patients/ ( I know this is a little far...but if you can get it done for next to nothing it may be worth it)

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    ^^
    Sometimes it is less expensive but not always. Depends on how many need pulled and what kind of painkillers you decide you want for the surgery.
    I don't know about your guy, P_P, but all my teeth are fucked up in the front. I had one pulled right after the accident and it sorely needs replaced.
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    Wtf is a "deep cleaning"? I've never heard of that before. Also... $100 for a cleaning?! Check your pennysaver... Root canal's aren't cheap, but maybe you should try another dentist for it? One that's cheaper?
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    yeah, i have to say the numbers sound a little fishy, especially for 'deep cleaning'. but if he's got that kind of severe tooth pain, i wouldn't wait. people die from tooth infections. i lost someone very close to me because of a tooth infection left untreated. there are dentists who are cheaper and who will work with you, but you'll have to tour the phonebook and also be willing to head to student dental programs as well.

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    Where does your BF work? Are you able to work with this knee pain? Teeth problems can be really serious, but if the dentist says it isn't vital to get it done NOW I would get you taken care of first. I assume you can bring in more money than your bf can in a shorter period of time if you pull really long shifts stripping.

    I know Florida isn't the best place to be dancing, but if it's mostly grinding you could just do that not use the hurt leg. Sit down when ever possible and have the guys buy you food. Try not to go on stage.

    Be prepared that the knee thing isn't going to be fixed right away. Are you seeing a GP, or a knee specialist? If you seeing a regular doctor you're just going to get told to make an appointment with a knee doctor. There you will have to pay for x-rays and THEN they will get to your problem. I would try to see if I could figure out a general cause of the pain online or even ask doctor strip club guys. Obviously, this isn't the same as getting x-rays but hopefully you can bypass a lot of extra fees.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bella21 View Post
    Wtf is a "deep cleaning"? I've never heard of that before. Also... $100 for a cleaning?! Check your pennysaver... Root canal's aren't cheap, but maybe you should try another dentist for it? One that's cheaper?
    It's the same as a normal cleaning. I fucking hate dentists. They said I needed that and I refused and they said they wouldn't do a normal one. Again I said well do you want money for the normal one or none at all and they accepted. Then they tried to charge me for a deep cleaning when it was a NORMAL cleaning. No way. URGH!!! Infuriating.

    It's really unfortunate you have to deal with dentists of all the health people.

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    Honey, is there a dental school in your area? I just ask because I know in Wisconsin, Marquette University has a dental program and you can get work done for very very very little money by the dental students. It's all supervised by dentists so I wouldn't worry about the quality of the care....Just a thought?
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    Quote Originally Posted by vivianbear View Post
    I know exactly how you feel.
    A year and a half ago, an under-insured man hit me with his truck in a crosswalk. It broke my jaw and several teeth. It also left me with nearly $100K in debt to a couple of hospitals. While I've been trying to find out how to get treated, of course I discover all the intense back-work that needs to be done (deep cleanings, root canals) before any cosmetic work can take effect. I'm looking at well over $50K in costs if I ever want to smile like normal again.
    There is no easy solution. Your boyfriend may have to wait with rotted teeth until he can come up with money to fix them. My solution is working and going over-seas for dental work to cut the costs. There's no way I'm paying what dentists here charge for people with no insurance. It just seems like robbery.
    Good, luck dear. It seems like a very long-term goal but you'll make it.
    uuuhggg jesus christ. i'm so sorry.

    the thing is, i don't see us "coming up with" the money. like, where the hell is it gonna come from? even if -nothing- else goes wrong, it's still going to take like a freaking year to get that together.

    and of course, OF COURSE, shit goes wrong.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VegasPrincess View Post
    Honey, is there a dental school in your area? I just ask because I know in Wisconsin, Marquette University has a dental program and you can get work done for very very very little money by the dental students. It's all supervised by dentists so I wouldn't worry about the quality of the care....Just a thought?
    i will look into it. i havent heard of anything though.

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    ^^^
    Check this out, I found one!

    I don't know if it's close to you or not but maybe you could call for a refferal?

    http://www.dental.ufl.edu/patients/
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    Quote Originally Posted by Joplin View Post
    Where does your BF work? Are you able to work with this knee pain? Teeth problems can be really serious, but if the dentist says it isn't vital to get it done NOW I would get you taken care of first. I assume you can bring in more money than your bf can in a shorter period of time if you pull really long shifts stripping.

    I know Florida isn't the best place to be dancing, but if it's mostly grinding you could just do that not use the hurt leg. Sit down when ever possible and have the guys buy you food. Try not to go on stage.

    Be prepared that the knee thing isn't going to be fixed right away. Are you seeing a GP, or a knee specialist? If you seeing a regular doctor you're just going to get told to make an appointment with a knee doctor. There you will have to pay for x-rays and THEN they will get to your problem. I would try to see if I could figure out a general cause of the pain online or even ask doctor strip club guys. Obviously, this isn't the same as getting x-rays but hopefully you can bypass a lot of extra fees.
    i'm not seeing any doctor for my knee. i don't see the point because i know they'e going to have to do xrays and i know already i can't afford it. i can work with it, i just can't do 1/2 the stuff i used to. i can't kneel or put any pressure on it at all, and there are days when it hurts to touch it.

    my boyfriend is an electronic repair tech. he makes about 15 an hour. they offer insurance, but he'd have to pay something like 250.00 a month, it doesn't cover much dental, and he can't afford that anyway considering he just started paying back his student loans so they wouldnt wage garnish. they already "intercepted" his tax return.

    i'm working a lot right now because i have to. it isn't helping, physically, but what am i gonna do? also, there's no grinding at my club. i work low-contact. i can't handle high contact anymore.

    i have no time for my art or pursing anything of that sort right now either. i took the summer off from school so i'd be able to do that.... but the only thing that happened is i wound up working more. figures.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miabella View Post
    yeah, i have to say the numbers sound a little fishy, especially for 'deep cleaning'. but if he's got that kind of severe tooth pain, i wouldn't wait. people die from tooth infections. i lost someone very close to me because of a tooth infection left untreated. there are dentists who are cheaper and who will work with you, but you'll have to tour the phonebook and also be willing to head to student dental programs as well.
    he's called around and the prices are pretty standard.

    also, that's great about the dying.

    great.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CKXXX View Post
    I feel your pain..I DO have insurance and I STILL cant afford everything I need done.

    But I researched a bit and maybe this can help your bf:

    http://www.tbnweekly.com/content_art...707_pco-05.txt

    http://www.sptimes.com/2007/11/28/Pa...e_on_the.shtml


    http://www.ada.org/ada/organizations...nizationID=559

    http://www.dental.ufl.edu/patients/ ( I know this is a little far...but if you can get it done for next to nothing it may be worth it)
    thanx.

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    What about doing phone sex or webcam, something that could give that knee a rest? Is yall's rent really high? Or your electricity? What takes up most of his income?

    Could you shut off your cable or turn off your AC until it's later in the day? I'm not trying to be really nosy I'm just trying to think of things you can cut back on for the sake of health.

    Do you think you'll get pretty sizable student loans? If you still have core classes see if you can test out of them and use the money you'd save on health stuff. That way your still progressing in school, have more money and time?

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    Deep cleaning is not the same as dental cleaning.


    What school are you going to? UofT? Full-time?

    There are several dental schools in your metro area.

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    checked that link for the low-cost dental care, it looks like you have to be sent there by a shelter/welfare or pretty much be homeless.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Joplin View Post
    What about doing phone sex or webcam, something that could give that knee a rest? Is yall's rent really high? Or your electricity? What takes up most of his income?

    Could you shut off your cable or turn off your AC until it's later in the day? I'm not trying to be really nosy I'm just trying to think of things you can cut back on for the sake of health.

    Do you think you'll get pretty sizable student loans? If you still have core classes see if you can test out of them and use the money you'd save on health stuff. That way your still progressing in school, have more money and time?
    our rent and bills are actually average to low. i have a car payment, we have car insurance, rent, then he has a student loan payment, and i have to pay for some of my classes (what aid doesnt cover) school supplies (which is a lot considering i'm an art major) books and etc.

    also, he just got this job a couple months ago. before that he was making 9 an hour because this company he started working for basically promised him a lot more. he was making 15 at the place before the 9 an hour place, but left because he was unhappy and the 9 an hour place promised him he'd be making "just as much or more" within 2 months. never happened.. and they kept begging him to stay while he looked for another job (which took 2 years before there aren't a lot of openings in his specific field).

    as far as webcaming: i'd rather not have video around of myself doing sexual things. i used to teach and i MAY go back to it at some point if "all else fails". if i did anything like that i'd be screwed. and... phone sex doesn't pay much.

    as far as cutting back, our bills are included in our rent (cable/electric) so it's not really an option. the AC is set to only come on pretty high during the day. it's only set for cooler temps when we're here. i'm not going totally without AC though. i live in florida. heh

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    Quote Originally Posted by glambman View Post
    Deep cleaning is not the same as dental cleaning.


    What school are you going to? UofT? Full-time?

    There are several dental schools in your metro area.
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