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    Default I feel bad :(

    Never once have I ever felt bad for dancing for a married guy. I have always figured that it's his choice and his responsibility.

    I just saw a picture of my customer and his wife together and it made me feel REALLY REALLY bad. I have never felt this way before.

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    awe I totally understand how that could happen.

    At the same time, like you said, it's his decision and he's a grown man. Also, maybe his wife doesn't mind he goes to a strip club, who knows.

    Try not to think about it too much, remind yourself that he loves his wife very much and even if he thinks you re hot as hell and likes to spend money on you, that doesn't mean he's not happy with her and doesn't treat her well.

    The relationship he has with you as a dancer is nothing compared to the one he has with his wife, on an emotional level I mean.

    That's what I try to remind myself when I all of a sudden feel bad, it usually helps

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    Default Re: I feel bad :(

    Totally understand as well.........been there a few times myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jewel21 View Post
    awe I totally understand how that could happen.

    At the same time, like you said, it's his decision and he's a grown man. Also, maybe his wife doesn't mind he goes to a strip club, who knows.

    Try not to think about it too much, remind yourself that he loves his wife very much and even if he thinks you re hot as hell and likes to spend money on you, that doesn't mean he's not happy with her and doesn't treat her well.

    The relationship he has with you as a dancer is nothing compared to the one he has with his wife, on an emotional level I mean.

    That's what I try to remind myself when I all of a sudden feel bad, it usually helps
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    I try to think along the same lines when I run into really charming, married men. As a stripper and wife to a guy who loves strip clubs, I remind myself not to take the job or interactions too seriously. When the night is through, we all go home to our families and prioritize what's important.
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    NewMoon...as a married guy who loves beautiful, sexy entertainers...don't even think twice about it...believe me when I say that you are providing him with something that is missing in his life...without women like you, our lives would be sooooooo boring and uneventful...thank you for all you do for us

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    Dude, a guy can go to a strip club without something missing in his life. I totally let my partner's go. Strip clubs are fun!


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    He's not cheating on her though. At least he going to a stripclub instead of a regular bar where is more likely to get laid.

    You are going to have married men proposition you for more than dance at some point. When you say no they are probably going to continue to proposition other girls as well. You can't control someone's lifestyle and morals. Just focus on making your money. If you didn't dance for him another girl would. You can't control the choices other people make in life, only the ones you make.

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    You are probably spicing up his sex life at home. We all need new things and variety and you are probably giving him a confidance boost in bed with his wife, who I'm sure really appreciates it.

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    Honestly, it's his life, his decisions. If I were to say 'No' to every man spending money on me/ getting dances who probably shouldn't be...well, I'd be broke. I think it's the nature of the beast. He's not having an affair with you.

    On a personal note, my dad is a cheater. It fucked with me for years. I still kind of hate the bitch who used to (or still does, I dunno) sleep with him. I think both my mom and I would feel far less betrayed if he were a strip club patron. Dancing isn't an affair. It doesn't even touch the same level of betrayal, you know? I'll be honest, I can see why it might still suck for some wives. It's not something I've ever felt bad about though. I feel worse about dancing for guys who can't afford it/ are a little mentally disabled...like the 'slower' guys, who somehow have money, but....ehh. I feel bad about taking their money sometimes. Because maybe they don't get the game. THIS guy gets it, know what I mean? You're not responsible for his choices at all. It's not anywhere near the same as being the 'other woman', in my opinion.

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    To the OP, dont feel bad. If you werent dancing, someone else would be.
    Your not doing anything wrong!

    <<.as a married guy who loves beautiful, sexy entertainers...don't even think twice about it...believe me when I say that you are providing him with something that is missing in his life...without women like you, our lives would be sooooooo boring and uneventful...thank you for all you do for us>>

    as for that post...um WOW.
    I dont think a guy neccessarily needs to have something missing from his life to hit up the strip joint.
    Ive had a few boyfriends who seriously never went, and im pretty sure theyre lives were fufilling and quite eventful.
    ~jenna~

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    I know it sounds horrible..but sometimes if a guy tells me he is married..it almost turns me on a little during a dance...depends on the man though. I know it sounds horrible but it always has been a weird fantasy of mine to be the "other" woman.(I read way too many trashy novels lol) Although giving a guy a dance is not really much of a relationship but I guess stripping is fantasy.. But when I first started as a naive 20 year old my heart kinda dipped down into my stomach if a guy was getting dances from me when I saw a wedding ring on his finger...but when you get a little older you realise things aren't so black and white. But I understand where you are coming from.

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