^^ Good post. I never thought of it that way.




^^ Good post. I never thought of it that way.





After reading almost this whole thread, I believe that he was legit and that he should have found much less derision in SW. I wish I had gotten here before 7/8 because I missed responding to him. But he did find some support. I believe he is gone and I don't blame him. I guess this tells me what to expect from whom here in the future.
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I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.
Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.
NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.




I think you have a point, I think he was legit, and I think the collective was a little harsh.
However, when you show up with just another variation on "how should I act when I date a stripper", and that variation consists of I'd like to go play live music for her in the club.....well, I'm not sure you should expect much more, that scenario presents a perfect target.
I have never observed live music in a strip club. I know that they performed to a piano back in the thirties, but I don't think you will find it anywhere today.


UtahMike...I have seen movies of small jazz/blues combos in burlesque clubs back in the day. It was nice because they could accentuate bumps with cymbals, and that sort of thing.
Sadly, it was all before my time.
Lynn


I had another thought about MrTenPercent's unease with his would-be gf's profession...
When I was more unenlightened that I am today, I used to think it would be difficult having a relationship with a stripper because they spend all day (or night, or whatever) putting on a false front, making custies think they are thrilled as hell to be dancing for them, when frequently that is not the case. I always worried that this would carry over into the relationship.
After being on SW for a few years, I have come to the conclusion that most strippers are well aware of when they are at work and when they are at home.
I wonder if MrTenPercent is having this same worry.
Be well...
Lynn
I think my advice to dump his bohemian lifestyle, get a real job and take her away from all this was sound. I mean, he claims he is taking over the family business soon and presumably will be making really good money when that happens. If he is smart enough to successfully run the business he should be smart enough to play the money card with his stripper girlfriend. If he is not I feel sorry for his future employees as they will be looking for a leader after the transfer of ownership of the company.
FBR
Once again I have embraced my addiction and have put off the moral dilemma to another day.


Maybe it's because I'm old, but the idea of "I'm going to take over the family business so I'll go off and be a bum for a while first" doesn't seem like the road to big money. I would think "I'm going to take over the family business so I'll stick around and *learn* the family business" might be a more sound approach.
Lynn




He asked a stupid question. Really, he couldn't just lurk in the lounge, CC or stripping general to get some insight on strippers? Or even do a SEARCH and see what sort of answers the 508 others got about this sort of question? No. He HAD to ask. He was just so unique and special - what with the guitar and everything. And then he got all butt hurt when he realized he was just #509.


Well, I can give him a little bit of a break, considering that he is sliding into this relationship, and has lots of questions, and not a lot of time to lurk. So he might not have realized that his question would sound like all the "How I took a hot stripper to bed" posts on the blue side.
But, as was mentioned before, a lot of his questions would best be answered by asking *her*.
And barging into a room full of strippers and saying "Hey! Do you people take a shower after work or what?" is just rude, and guaranteed not to get a welcoming response. If she is happy with the cleanliness of her skin when she gets home from work, he ought to be, or they have a problem. And even the business of having a bath ready for her when she gets home still seems to send message "I think you are unclean when you get home from work."
And, of course, coming into a forum as a newbie, asking a question, and then hurling insults at everybody as you storm out in a huff because you don't like the answer you got, is never good form.
I was thinking that the romance might have a chance, if he plays his cards right. The more I think about it, the more I think he doesn't have enough of a clue for it to work out.
Lynn




...#509 with a guitar and a dental plan.
"Peter, did you take Stewie to a strip-club? He smells like sweat and fear." - Lois and Stewie (Family Guy) ... "Through early morning fog I see, Visions of the things to be, The pains that are withheld for me, I realize and I can see..."







Yeah, I was thinking the same thing, even as I was posting. I'm gonna shut up.


I can see it now...lap dancing to In-A-Gadda-Da-Vida. (OK...I'm old.)
Lynn
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