Have you??
How long did you live at home and dance?
Were your parents aware of your job?
If no, did you ever get "caught"?
If yes, how did you get caught?
What are some things you had to do to hide it?
Yes
No
Have you??
How long did you live at home and dance?
Were your parents aware of your job?
If no, did you ever get "caught"?
If yes, how did you get caught?
What are some things you had to do to hide it?
Last edited by keira0304; 07-04-2008 at 02:34 PM.



I lived at home for about a month when I first started and I just said my hours at work changed.
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i just started but i currently live at home and will continue to for the next couple of months. i said i got a job nannying to explain the cash (she could see my bank deposits--cause they're linked--if she wanted to). for night shifts i just say i'm going out cause i can pretty much stay out as late as i want and she could care less. i hate lying but i'm definitely not telling her.
well sort of when i moved back to ohio from sc i had nowhere to stay so i stayed at my grandmas for 3 months till i got back on my feet. she knows i dance, shes kind of intregued by it.




I did while I was in school and they found out because they read my journal and then it was just in the open.
um...a year
no but I ended up telling my mom she hated it but accepted it because i was 19 and she had no choice
my dad didn't know or he would've disowned me
left my bag in the locker at work came to work at day shift grabbed my stuff and walked down the block from my job to wash my clothes and told my parents i was a bartender that explained the late and long hours




Yes.
For only a few months. At first I told my parents I was waitressing at a nightclub, but right before one of my auditions I was incredibly nervous and blurted it out to my mom.How long did you live at home and dance?
See above. She wasn't mad, just told me to do what I felt I had to do and be safe. Dad found out from someone else, don't remember who. He wasn't pleased, but he didn't kick me out or anything. However when I moved out and then needed to move back in, they made it clear that I was NOT going to dance and live under their roof anymore. I was to get a 'real job'. They said I was better than dancing.Were your parents aware of your job?If yes, how did you get caught?
Told them i was waitressing at the SC before previously saying it was a nightclub.. Hid my dancer gear in the trunk of my car. Washed off the pound of stripper makeup I had on before coming home.What are some things you had to do to hide it?





hell no. if i'm dancing, i don't need to be under my parents' roof. dancing + school signify adulthood and independence. i'm making my way in the world. they support my choices, but i'd never dance and live at home. i left when i was 17, anyway.
^um yea. i moved out when i was 17 and have been on my own ever since. however.. due to some recent trauma--I have to live at my parent's right now, only for about 2 more months though, until I have enough saved up to leave again. It's not like I'm living here by choice. I had no where else to go. I would much rather find a cheap apartment and live on my own, but I only have 300 dollars to my name at the moment.




CC, there's a difference between living there for years, and living there for weeks/a month or so while you recover from a hard time and get back on your feet. Falling on a hard time and needing a bit of help to get back together doesn't mean you're not an adult--it means you're human.
Few jobs will get you back on your feet faster than dancing, so if becoming independent again as fast as possible is your goal, then it makes sense to accept the offer of a temporary roof over your head. And also dance to get back on your own feet sooner rather than later, so that staying with your parents IS a temporary thing.




Yes. I had been in Guam for several months. I came home to stay with and care for my father. My parents had separated and my father was very ill. I was 23 yrs. old at the time. I hadn't lived at home since I was 17 yrs. old
I started working almost immediately from June through December until I was hit by a car.
I'm still not sure if my dad ever caught on to what I was doing for work. I had taken him with me while I bartended at Sturgis so he bought the story about how I was a highly-paid bartender. He'd seen me dress skimpy and pour booze so he got why I wore a bunch of makeup and had a bag of hoochie-clothes. I just came home and would hand him a bunch of cash. I'd tell him to deposit it so I could write the checks for bills. He never really pried as to where I worked, specifically. He's a recovered alcoholic so I never was afraid of him coming to my bars or anything. If he ever knew, he never let on. He'd tell other family that I was working in Guam as a bartender and came home to do the same.
My mom asked me once if I was a drug-dealer.
I've never really been "caught". My parents and I have never addressed the fact that I'm a dancer.
I try not to let on how much money I really make. I don't flash cash because parents/siblings will inevitably ask for it or ask where it came from. The only thing I've done to really avoid a confrontation is to HIDE THE SHOES!! LOL! I can make excuses about just about anything I own but there's really no excuse for 8" platform stilettos. After that, its deny, deny, deny.
The biggest lie I'll ever tell my family in relation to stripping will probably be when I talk about how I met my husband. I don't think I'll ever really get into the details of where we were or how we got to know each other. I guess I won't lie so much as I'll just omit certain details.
"SS=stripper shit, in the same spectrum as CS=customer shit, which is within the spectrum of SaS=sales shit, which is all contained in the universe of BS=bullshit." -- Jay Zeno (mod)
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i never said it was a monsterly inhumane thing to do... or that others shouldn't... i just said i wouldn't want to (for MYSelf). and yes, there was 2 months post-move-out where i was on medical leave from school and had to move home as well. i do understand... but i was not dancing, either. i dunno, i guess i just have conflicting views about pursuing adult jobs under ones' parents roof. which is somewhat ironic, since mine would probably be supportive. i dunno.




I moved out at 19 and didn't start dancing until I was 26, so no.




I'm really shocked at the yes responses. I never have. I would have got caught in an instant and probably shot.





Not a chance in hell. My mother would have put my stuff on the front porch and changed the locks. Actually....she did do that when I was 17, so I guess she would have done it regardless of what I was doing to earn money.
Even though I was living on my own and making my own money, when my mom figured it out she flipped. She wouldn't even let me come visit because 'a girl that could be such a whore' was not walking in her door. So yeah, I was one of those girls that tried to hide it for a while but she ended up knowing anyway. Now that I look back when I started, I wish I had not tried to hide it from her, because honestly there wasn't a damn thing she could do about it. I'm a bitch that doesn't mind not talking to her parents though.
I started when I went away to college, and continued doing so at a different club when I visited for breaks for freshmen and sophomore year. I worked literally 2 blocks down the street for a while! I never "moved back" permanently, just for summers or Christmas Break.





i lived at home when i first started, and when i was going back and forth from cananda to the us.




i haven't (yet), but if i ever am going through a tough time & need to move home i would just use the excuse i use now: that i'm an alcohol promotions girl or work for a promotor.




I moved back in with my dad when i was working at the same club you are at. I never hid the fact that i was a dancer because my family is pretty much all guys and i never wanted any of them to walk into a club i worked at. Good luck even though i am no help with your questions.
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i lived at home last summer. i was coming up on my year mark of dancing and my parents didnt "know" but i'm sure they knew. they saw me take a suitcase to work every day, come home with way more money than a bartender was possibly making, and have an incredibly lax schedule of "well i might go to work tonight." they officially knew after my dui.
my mom didnt take it well.. she said no one would respect me, and asked a lot of questions. now though, she'll make jokes or whatever.. it's not really a big deal. my dad i'm sure didn't take it well either but he kind of didn't really comment. he's pretty quiet about stuff like that... i don't actually remember what he said.
-Yes
-When I was 19 home for college break, I tried it as an amatuer just as a joke for my friends. But when I saw how much money a stage set was, and realized how I had no fucken money from my 3 jobs, I knew I was gonna do it again. I did it a bunch of times around my home town that summer, but not really taking it seriously, just doing it to get money when I wanted something. Ha!
Then I sort of lived with them again when I was 21, moved home after living in LA for a while. I was more living at my boyfriends house, just slept at home once a week and visited almost every day. I worked at a diner for 6 months, had like 8 grand in debt which grew to 12 grand because I just COULD NOT pay it. I was a lot skinnier and prettier than I was at 19, so I felt a lot better about taking it seriously. I wanted a place to call my own, knew I couldn't do it without dancing. Went to the Go go rama in NJ and made like 1200 on my first night back. I never ever went back to the diner after that night. Me and my bf started renting our house like, the next week.
-They were never aware of it. When I danced at 21, I was pretty much living with my boyfriend though, so it was very easy to just come to his house after work.
-Never got caught. But I know the reaction wouldn't exactly be positive. Have nightmares about it nightly
-Well the first time around my outfits were very simple, shit you could get at VS. I didn't have a catholic school girl outfit or anything. They saw the shoes. They were clear plastics with $100 bills in them, I said I got them for a Halloween "pimp" outfit hahaha.





About 3 months.
Yes.
I told her when my grandma wanted to eat at my 'restaurant'. This was about a week into the job.
Put my shoes in a closet. Not really much else. I didn't have to lie long and didn't like it anyway.
What I don't get now is some people who have linked bank accounts or who's mum's have tracking on their phone. EEEK! Invasion of privacy mums!!
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Have you??
Yes
How long did you live at home and dance?
About 6 months
Were your parents aware of your job?
Not at first - they knew I was a coctail waitress when I started (which is true)
If yes, how did you get caught?
I told them and my mom goes "Yea, we already figured that out." lol No biggie.
What are some things you had to do to hide it?
I didnt try to hide it, I just waited to tell. Obviously Im bad at hiding stuff.
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