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    do you think its a good thing or a bad thing to date someone who is a lot like you? when i say a lot like you i mean you both have the same faults as well as the other traits in your personality and likes and dislikes.

    i have found that people who arent like me arent good to date becuase i feel i have nothing in common with them, so what about the opposite of the spectrum?

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    maybe im being vague....

    theres a guy that i have everything in common with, and while im not up to dating so soon after a breakup i might down the line. the thing is we both have bad anxiety problems. while its nice to know someone who understands that side of me so well, i wonder if it could create problems.

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    Honestly, as a person who has experienced mental health issues, I would never date someone who had them. If they come back I need someone to be strong for me. I couldn't deal with my own issues and his as well. But that is just me.

    If it's alike in other ways like lifestyle, interests, ect. then that is awesome

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    Quote Originally Posted by NewMoon View Post
    Honestly, as a person who has experienced mental health issues, I would never date someone who had them. If they come back I need someone to be strong for me. I couldn't deal with my own issues and his as well. But that is just me.

    If it's alike in other ways like lifestyle, interests, ect. then that is awesome
    I agree. I haven't had experiences with that, but I don't think you should try to be with someone with the same problems as you. Eventually, that could cause some kind of terrible co-dependency, and nobody wants that. Like if you're an alcoholic or an addict, you don't want to be with someone who is the same, even if you're 'recovered'. Not to say you shouldn't follow your heart, but be careful.

    As far as personalities and interests, it could be fun to be with someone you have everything in common with. My bf and I have lived together for over 2 years, and lately I've come to realize we have like nothing in common. But I'm crazy for him, so who cares? Like I said, follow your heart. An anxiety problem, while it can be serious, may not hinder a relationship. I'm no doctor.

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    well i over think things (what person with anxiety doesnt? lol)

    i think o gee down the road we will just enable each other and never leave the house haha.

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    hmmm....I've dated a lot of people who were the opposite of me, and while it was nice to be pushed harder because they were more "business minded" (ha! virgos) I kind of wish I'd been more with guys who could just kick it on a couch playing slugbug.

    I hate always being the one dragging the other person into bed to sleep a little bit longer...

    so, I feel you about weaknesses, and in a way wanted that weakness in others, but also not.

    so maybe you just need someone who has a specific anxiety that doesn't correlate with yours?

    because if you both have general anxiety-- ya, ya'all are going to be homebound in no time unless you both have the ability to spontaneously be like "hey! let's go do something we've never done ever before! like! ummm....? paintballing! (or something else)"

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    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    do you think its a good thing or a bad thing to date someone who is a lot like you? when i say a lot like you i mean you both have the same faults as well as the other traits in your personality and likes and dislikes.

    i have found that people who arent like me arent good to date becuase i feel i have nothing in common with them, so what about the opposite of the spectrum?
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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldCoastGirl View Post
    thanks for your valuable input....really, its golden.

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    yeeeaaaah,

    so back on topic--
    What's your thinking thus far?

    is this guy really super duper? because if he's just super (or duper) then maybe it's not worth it in the long run.

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    Quote Originally Posted by fancygirl View Post
    yeeeaaaah,

    so back on topic--
    What's your thinking thus far?

    is this guy really super duper? because if he's just super (or duper) then maybe it's not worth it in the long run.

    wow, i mean i have spent the past 3 days with him. we are sooo much alike. hes also a scorpio and im a capricorn and thats good (if you believe in all that which i do).

    we have this really wierd connection and niether of us can deny it. im giving it a shot whats the worst that could happen. its awkward timing but now at this point its not even an issue it just feels right.

    however ive been wrong before.

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    that's cool. watch out about those scorpios though-- they suck you in, and are super sexy but can be emotional black holes.

    not saying that some of them aren't worth it because they arrrre super sexy, but yeah-- you just always have to be aware with them because they've got that dark side that's fun to play with....but on the other hand, I found that they can whine a bit too much for me.

    but then again, I'm a pisces....so perhaps it's just that.

    I'm a huge fan of Rob Brezny (though I find that tarot.com's writer is more accurate for me) since I think anyone can benefit from any of the signs because of the way he writes:

    This week:

    Scorpio:
    I'm not a big fan of Disneyland, but that doesn't mean I can't borrow its ideas for your use. The fact is, Scorpio, the coming weeks will be an excellent time for you to identify your own personal versions of frontierland, adventureland, or tomorrowland. I'm not talking about experiences and places that resemble glitzy theme-parks, but rather the wild and thrilling things that gently shock your mind into expanding. You're in a phase of your cycle when you'll tend to generate good luck and helpful synchronicity by pushing your imagination beyond its usual fantasies.

    Capricorn:
    By the year 2100, some human beings will be married to sophisticated robots. So concludes David Levy, who got a doctorate from a Dutch university for his thesis, "Intimate Relationships with Artificial Partners." Let's use his prophecy as a jumping-off point for your meditation, Capricorn. In your fantasies about togetherness, are you unconsciously harboring any unrealistic desires for robotic perfection? If so, are they interfering with your ability to have deep and satisfying relationships with interesting but flawed people? Take inventory of any tendencies you might have to want artificial partners. Then dissolve those delusions.

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    well i have always been attracted to taurus's but they never seem to work out, always too indipendent. im sort of an emotionally needy person in relationships and i can admit that, but he is too so i think that also would work good.

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    The good side about dating likes are that you understand each other the bad side is you might get bored quickly or get tired of compromising.

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    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    thanks for your valuable input....really, its golden.

    no problems! I thought so too...


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    Personally, I'm in a relationship with someone who is and is not similar to me. I like the similarities and differences... for instance, i'm a talker and he isn't generally. a similarity is our taste in music as well as what we like to do. another similarity which might be our downfall is " What do you want for dinner?" "I dunno, what do you feel like eating?" "I dunno, was wondering what you felt like and will have that.." oh dear... yes.. we have had that conversation a couple of times

    In the end, it is working out really well between us. He's a sag and I'm a scorp. In chinese horoscopes, I'm a horse and he's a rat.

    Here is my 'love match' reading -- http://love.astrology.com/features/a...gittarius.html

    Here is yours - scorpio and capricorn - http://love.astrology.com/features/a...capricorn.html


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    In social psychology there's two relationship sayings: Birds of a feather flock together; and Opposites Attract. I think a little of both are true and the best relationships involve a mixture of differences and sameness.

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    epic fail....the guy is a classic case of an alcoholic....twice he got drunk and twice he was not himself and it bothered me a lot. he blamed me. i wont stand for that. ever. ever. again. not after the myrtle beach guy.....

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