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    i don't want to see a psychiatrist, i just want to go to a therapist.

    my insurance will not cover it at all, and i dont wanna pay like crazy. but these sliding scale people, what do i tell them?! i mean, i cant say "oh i'm a stripper and i blah blah but i cant afford to pay you more" because really, i CAN afford it and i did pay $100 a session first every week then every other week for a few months when i saw a woman after my dui. i just would rather not have that added expense.

    i need to find someone good. the first guy i saw was HORRIBLE, ive posted about him before so i wont go into too much detail but he basically told me stripping would ruin me, when i mentioned that my mom and i had already discussed medication and i did NOT want to go that route at that point (this was 2 years ago), he said "well your parents must love you if they're worried about that, but they still allowed you to work at hooters?" and i walked out the door with a script for paxil even though i was very adamant about NOT wanting drugs. he was very judgemental.

    i genuinely liked my therapist i saw after my dui. it was court ordered but i was happy to be going to someone. but.. she didn't do anything for me. she agreed with everything i said. like literally, everything. it was like i could do no wrong. that's not helpful. when i asked her about how long i would be seeing her, since i had to tell my probation officer, she said we could have 1 more session and be finished because "well, you have anxiety issues, but those are just going to be there." um, ok. i have a feeling she didn't like me.

    so. how do i find a good one? it's time. i have enough issues and it's issue enough that i can write you a book of my flaws and crazy things i do but I DONT EVEN WANT TO CHANGE. i just dont want to go through (and honestly with my schedule i dont have the time) a million people, spending money, and getting frustrated and giving up.

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    Default Re: where do i find a GOOD therapist?

    I got lucky cause a friend referred me to her pyschologist.
    I am on meds but get them through a family doc since my pysch. cannot prescribe meds.
    If your near Philly, i can PM you with her info.

    I dont know how one finds a good dr though honestly. Like you can look on the internet or whatever but its tough to say if their personality will mesh with yours, what type of therapy they use etc. Its like trial and error and that sucks especially when you need help ASAP ya know.
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    Default Re: where do i find a GOOD therapist?

    ^ nah, i'm in maryland. thanks though.

    i already have my meds (i take xanax) from a regular dr. i'm happy with that. i just need a therapist otherwise what am i gonna do, pop a pill 3-4 nights a week for the rest of my life? that's what i was trying to avoid 2 years ago, and i had bad therapy experiences so i gave up.

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    Default Re: where do i find a GOOD therapist?

    Sorry for your frustration. Im not the expert, but I have just been asking around different friends and family members for referals. I have flipped through the phone book and saw all the "free consul ads' and "Sliding fee scales" as well, but i would not feel comfortable without a personal referal.

    Also, this is just a guess but maybe your primary doctor can lead you to some good therapists?

    Im not sure about the money issue myself because i am still searching. I would think you may have to pay more for a better therapist that can actually root through and help you instead of telling you canned ways to fix yourself. Thats just my guess.

    I hope all works out for you but i def understand how you feel!

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    Default Re: where do i find a GOOD therapist?

    you find out you let me know too. it seems impossible.

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    Honestly the only one I had who actually helped me was a referral from a friend.

    I went to some guy in the yellowpages once, and that motherfucker sucked ass. Everytime I would talk about something at work he would be like, "I've worked with a lot of prostitutes before so I know how you are feeling." WTF? I'm not a prostitute! Anywho....

    Maybe google psychologist + anxiety + maryland? In fact I'll go do it right now I'm not exactly busy today lol

    http://www.bradpiergrossi.com/index.html

    Well shit, this guy is all I found but at least his page is kind of good for a laugh! I wouldn't reccommend going to somebody like this who says they treat EVERYBODY. It's been my experience that a good therapist specializes in one thing or the other.....like when I saw my therapist for my ED, all she did was EDs and body issues.....
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    i used to go to a therapist. (psychologist not psychiatrist.) i loved her. she was very good and i'm actually thinking about going back.

    but she was kind of expensive. how much does your insurance cover? i used to pay 135 per session. i really liked her though, i would def recomend her if you can afford it or if your insurance will cover some of it.

    her name is Dr. Linda Huganir, and she was in towson.

    let me know if you have any other questions.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Silky View Post
    Also, this is just a guess but maybe your primary doctor can lead you to some good therapists?
    the problem with that is my "primary dr" if you can call him that is just someone that i went to to get xanax. he writes scripts for whatever you want, and i found out about him through girls at work. so i'm not sure how much i'd trust his judgement. up til then i still saw my pediatrician til i was out of college lol. i don't do well with change and theyre right across the street!

    Quote Originally Posted by betterthaneden View Post
    i used to go to a therapist. (psychologist not psychiatrist.) i loved her. she was very good and i'm actually thinking about going back.

    but she was kind of expensive. how much does your insurance cover? i used to pay 135 per session. i really liked her though, i would def recomend her if you can afford it or if your insurance will cover some of it.

    her name is Dr. Linda Huganir, and she was in towson.

    let me know if you have any other questions.
    i'll look her up. insurance covers nothing. i guess if i found someone really good and i felt they were helping me, or COULD help me, the money might not be such an issue as when i felt i was paying $100 for nothing. thanks

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    Default Re: where do i find a GOOD therapist?

    The only therapist that I've ever gotten help from is the one I am seeing now. The 12+ before that sucked ass and I was normally sent to them by whatever psychiatrist I was seeing at the time or where my insurance told me to go. I was required to go to my current psychologist after leaving an inpatient facility and I didn't get a say so in who I saw. He basically gets sent all the patients that nobody else wants to deal with, but he's the best therapist EVER.

    I think it really is just trial and error. Either that or get a rec from a friend that you trust. There are good ones out there, just few and far between.

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    Default Re: where do i find a GOOD therapist?

    Anyone know a good therapist in LA who is comfortable with someone who works in the industry? So far I feel the judgement dripping from their clinched brows.

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    Default Re: where do i find a GOOD therapist?

    Go to apa.org and search their directory

    Also if you're tight on funds - go to a local grad school and get therapy from psych grad students as they are low cost and supervised by licensed therapists/psychologists.

    Call around and try one out. Think of finding a good therapist like finding a good pair of heels or jeans (try a few before you find a good fit)
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    Default Re: where do i find a GOOD therapist?

    I've posted this list before, and I know it's not specifically relevant to sex work, but these therapists are sex-positive and aware of alternative sexual practices, so they tend to be pro-sex work. https://ncsfreedom.org/key-programs/...gram-page.html
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    Default Re: where do i find a GOOD therapist?

    I used talkspace.com and really liked it. It's online therapy but I prefer that anyway because I can't open up as much face to face. It's like $100 a month and you can message your therapist whenever and the girl I was assigned to would respond multiple times a day sometimes. She would also check up on me if I didn't say anything for a few days. She also wasn't judgmental about me being a dancer. Definitely recommend it! They also have a $50 option where you choose one day out of the week for you and your therapist to talk if you don't want to spend $100.

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