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    I work at a co-op that is about a mile from my club.

    The co-op is member owned, although we do have managers hired outside the co-op membership.

    I, myself, am one of those managers. I manage all the cashiers, and when a manager for any other department isn't in the store, I, by default, take on the responsibility of that department. My boyfriend also happens to work at the co-op, and has proudly told quite a few people what my night job is. I don't mind much, TBH...except for one person......

    Our personnel and owner services department is run by a woman whose nickname is the "Ass Kicker." Mainly because she would think nothing of kicking anyone's ass to the curb. I happen to know, from her daughter, no less, that the Ass Kicker is very conservative when it comes to sexual matters.

    If I were to get fired, it would be through the Ass Kicker.

    However, because the store is a co-op, and is, technically, owned BY the members, do you think there would be a way around a possible firing? Do you think the Board of Directors could go around it?

    I know it's a tough question to answer, since this isn't a regular store, but a co-op with by-laws written by the owners, themselves, which is why I couldn't find an answer in the search feature. I want to know if anyone has any experience with how, exactly, a co-op is run.

    Can anyone quote an anti-discrimination law or anything as well?

    I'm just a little paranoid about it. :/ If I get fired, I want to be well prepared with a defense. The reason I want to keep my job is so that I have something on my resume while I dance.

    so, just a rundown of what I DO know:
    - Nowhere in the employee handbook nor in the by-laws does it state that you can not be a dancer
    - The only statement anywhere about sexual activity is that it is prohibited on the premises and that sexual harassment is illegal.
    - The store is a co-op by law

    If anyone can help me out, that would be awesome.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Leona_Anne View Post
    My boyfriend also happens to work at the co-op, and has proudly told quite a few people what my night job is. I don't mind much, TBH...except for one person......

    Our personnel and owner services department is run by a woman whose nickname is the "Ass Kicker." Mainly because she would think nothing of kicking anyone's ass to the curb. I happen to know, from her daughter, no less, that the Ass Kicker is very conservative when it comes to sexual matters.

    If I were to get fired, it would be through the Ass Kicker.
    Your boyfriend needs to know when to keep his mouth shut. If anything happens to YOUR job I would promptly kick HIS ass to the curb.
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    I have no answer, but I agree with Sophia...he needs to let the telling of your job to YOU.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Starina View Post
    Your boyfriend needs to know when to keep his mouth shut. If anything happens to YOUR job I would promptly kick HIS ass to the curb.
    I should clarify - he never told anyone without asking me first if it was OK and I told him that I didn't care (which I honestly don't. The people he told are ohana, so I doubt they would intentionally backstab). He also never told the Ass Kicker, but I believe someone that my boyfriend told may have told her, without realizing what her feelings are.
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    I wouldn't give him permission to tell. Even if they technically can't fire you, just trying will cause you a lot of unecessary trouble.

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    How has Ass Kicker succeeded in throwing out other folks? Does your co-op have a (grievance) procedure stated in your contract that you can use to your advantage (perhaps by taking the offensive)?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Leona_Anne View Post
    I should clarify - he never told anyone without asking me first if it was OK and I told him that I didn't care (which I honestly don't. The people he told are ohana, so I doubt they would intentionally backstab). He also never told the Ass Kicker, but I believe someone that my boyfriend told may have told her, without realizing what her feelings are.
    Why your boyfriend would need to tell ANYONE about your business is beyond me. I'm gonna file this under "guy trying to score cool-points by telling everyone he dates a stripper".

    I'm sorry that you permitted/condoned this type of behavior. Hopefully nothing bad happens to your job. If it does, take it as a lesson. The more people know the more you stand to lose.

    Good luck.
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    Quote Originally Posted by CuriousSeeker View Post
    How has Ass Kicker succeeded in throwing out other folks? Does your co-op have a (grievance) procedure stated in your contract that you can use to your advantage (perhaps by taking the offensive)?
    She fired one guy because he had a family emergency and had to fly back to the mainland for 2 and a half weeks. She said that if he was gone for 2 weeks, it would be acceptable, but the extra few days was unacceptable. She is seriously psycho.

    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Starina View Post
    Why your boyfriend would need to tell ANYONE about your business is beyond me. I'm gonna file this under "guy trying to score cool-points by telling everyone he dates a stripper".

    I'm sorry that you permitted/condoned this type of behavior. Hopefully nothing bad happens to your job. If it does, take it as a lesson. The more people know the more you stand to lose.

    Good luck.
    I doubt it's the "cool points." I've been with him for 2 years and change and he is not exactly that type of guy. He is a sXe guy - no drugs, no alcohol, no smoking. He is going for his Master's right now, and so he only works two days a week, which brought up a lot of questions on how we manage to afford living in Hawaii, since my manager position is only $9/hr and I work less than 20 hrs a week. He doesn't believe in lying, which is why he wanted my permission. I guess you have to know my guy to understand why I'm fine with him telling anyone. He is proud of the fact that I can support myself, which is cool with me.
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    Couldn't termination for dancing be framed as sexual harassment?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sophia_Starina View Post
    Your boyfriend needs to know when to keep his mouth shut. If anything happens to YOUR job I would promptly kick HIS ass to the curb.
    Same thing I was thinking!! Sorry I can't offer more advice.







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    Default Re: can my day job fire me?

    Seems to me that what your boyfriend says would be classed as "hearsay" evidence and should not be used for action. You know he is telling the truth, but nobody else does unless you confirm it. he could be lying, bragging, exaggerating, looking for attention, etc.

    Come to think of it, he might be in more danger of being fired than you are.

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