I've been dating a girl who I met at her club. We've been together for eight months. We have a great time together, lots of common interests, always make each other laugh, and strong attraction. She's become my best friend. We've even used the "L" word to each other.
Here's the problem, though. At times, we talk about everything. She's told me about her very messed-up childhood (abuse, foster care) and her problems with drugs and alcohol. She still has strained relations with her family. Yet, just when we seem to get really close, she shuts down on me and pushes me away.
We went away for a weekend together about a month ago.
When we got back, she didn't call for several days. When I finally talked to her, she accused me of going to her club and picking up other girls. I would never do that. She is the most amazing woman I've ever known. Everyone there knows me as her bf. Besides, I live almost 200 miles from her and have a full-time job. She said "You don't know me at all. You don't understand what I go through every day." She has basically refused to talk to me since.
I just don't understand her behavior. I tried to give her plenty of space. I've treated her with kindness, respect, tried to make her feel special--and she still can't trust me. I'm worried about drugs and alcohol. I love her and I'd do anything for her. How do I show her that she can TRUST me and COMMUNICATE with me?
Thank you for your replies.



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How would you feel if I made this generalization about a foster kid or a male friend of yours? Anyway...
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