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    This is something I'm still trying to figure out.

    Following the DW advice, I have always been sure to make my follow-ups with the "maybe later" guys. I have usually been quick about it when I return but my success rate with these guys was much lower than with the fresh crowd.

    So I stopped following up and it's helped me. Now I say "I'm sorry, I don't do that, but maybe another day!" Doesn't sound like good advice to me, but since it's making me more money, I've been doing it.

    How do you deal with the "maybe later" guys?

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    Default Re: "Maybe later"

    i come back once about a half hour later, if they arent interested then i do not go back.

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    it depends how many other options i have. on a slower night, i'm more likely to go back. but i don't sit and chit chat either.. it doesnt hurt me to take the time it says to walk over and say "you're ready now, right? you told me to come back later.. lets go!"

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    I was always under the imptression that when a customer says "Maybe later" it meant "NO", so I really dont bother going back unless there is nobody else around.

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    I too follow the DW method on this issue. I only make 1-3 return trips depending on how busy it is/amount of already spending customers. I ask them when they will be ready for me/me naked/topless or something along those lines.

    If they say maybe later that last trip I flat out ask them, "do you REALLY want a dance in a little while, or are you just saying it? Because if you honestly don't want one for me, I won't come back. No time in wasting both our time"

    If the guy genuinely wants a dance he'll either get one right there or the spot or tell you that he's so serious about actually getting a dance.

    If he doesn't want the dance after you've said this, this allows him to be honest and tell you no.
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    If a guy tells me maybe later, I usually mean to come back, but get too busy to actually do it. I have had guys tell me (the next time they come in) I waited for you!! Oh well, shouldn't have sent me away in the first place!

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    Read my thread at the top - i totally address this and i don't think going back just once is the way to go.

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    Quote Originally Posted by haleym View Post
    If a guy tells me maybe later, I usually mean to come back, but get too busy to actually do it. I have had guys tell me (the next time they come in) I waited for you!! Oh well, shouldn't have sent me away in the first place!
    That's the best! I love having a guy tell me maybe later, maybe later..I usually explain to them that I am one of the most demanded girls in the club (usually is true) and I'm hot and ready now.

    The ones who feel like that's just "game" and don't believe me stay firm on waiting it out..or waiting on me to break down and offer a 2-4er (wrong) and when they see me in demand, they try to follow me around (yes, lol it happens all the time) walking around my table, checking in on me in lapdance room area to get a dance. By then, I'm just to busy for them...

    Its such a great feeling to be in demand. Men who missed the boat. They find themselves kicking themselves for trying to play hard to get.







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    Re: "Maybe later"

    i just keep on going up to the time after time until he does a dance or a room. i have done that many times. i am a hardcore hustler as well....

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    Default Re: "Maybe later"

    I ask in how many songs. Sometimes they say, "give me like 3 songs to catch up with my buddies."
    Sometimes they say, "I'll find you." (That means no)

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    I usually only ask again if I happen to pass by- like, what the hell. might as well, right? But oddly one guy on sat gave me maybe laters twice so I didn't bother again even when I passed by, then he was offended that I didn't ask again. I told him I'm used to maybe being used instead of no, so I wasnt going to bother wasting my time. He got dances! I take the time to ask when, should I come back, etc., but I think they just dont know what they want.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Chrissy68 View Post
    Read my thread at the top - i totally address this and i don't think going back just once is the way to go.
    I read your thread and what I got from it was that you go back, remind them they suggested you come back and then make an assumptive statement that you are going to dance for them. This works for me about 25% of the time wheras when I hustle new guys I have a success rate of 50-67%. Why hustle "maybe later" guys when there are lots of new guys in the club? Obviously on a slow shift, I will go back but on the busy Fri and Sat nights, is there any way I can get them to go RIGHT NOW. I've started saying "Oh hun, I'll be busy later. I'm ready for you now if you're ready for me " but it only works a fraction of the time.

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    I guess my point was that sometimes you hit everyone in a club and the majority are maybe laters, so then you should go back, always. But I always believe in going back, I totally snagged regs that way. But to each their own.

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    Sorry, I wasn't trying to contradict you. I'm just trying to find a way to get them to go right now.

    Also, I meant 33-50% success rate above but somehow 1/3 got translated into 66% in my brain LOL

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    Hey contradict away! I'm not always right... just 90% of the time. ok, i keed i keed!

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    Well I think you're right in most situations which is why I don't want to come across as contradicting you. I didn't want to come across as advising people to not go back later. It just doesn't work for me on the busy weekend nights.

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    I interpreted "maybe later" as a polite "no", because a soon as I walked away the guys would get a dance with someone else.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tmlsuperspice View Post
    I interpreted "maybe later" as a polite "no", because a soon as I walked away the guys would get a dance with someone else.
    Sure, that happens sometimes to all of us. For some guys, it is a polite way of saying 'no' But, there are other guys who are still interested and you need to follow-up. It can be so frustrating to hear 'maybe' later a few times over and over..but just know the man who wants to give you his whole paycheck and maxx his credit cards is in there...he's waiting for you

    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses View Post
    I too follow the DW method on this issue. I only make 1-3 return trips depending on how busy it is/amount of already spending customers. I ask them when they will be ready for me/me naked/topless or something along those lines.

    If they say maybe later that last trip I flat out ask them, "do you REALLY want a dance in a little while, or are you just saying it? Because if you honestly don't want one for me, I won't come back. No time in wasting both our time"

    If the guy genuinely wants a dance he'll either get one right there or the spot or tell you that he's so serious about actually getting a dance.

    If he doesn't want the dance after you've said this, this allows him to be honest and tell you no.







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    In my club, 99 percent of the time it means no. At my old club it was actually usually pretty genuine, and coming back was a tough habit to break. The girls here have pretty much all agreed it's not worth it & just kills your dignity to keep checking.

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    I tell the "maybe later" guys to man up or grow a pair and just admit they're not interested instead of using the "maybe later" b.s. They'll respond by either buying 1 or more dances on the spot, be honest or continue trying to b.s. Its rare but once in a while a "maybe later" guy is honest and will actually seek me out to get his dances.

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    try and pick up on their eye contact and posture when they say "maybe later". MOST of the time they DO mean "no" but occasionally they really do want you to come back.

    if he says "maybe later" in a round-a-bout way while looking at everything else in the room but your eyes, and his hands are folded or his fiddling with his phone...
    chances are he means "no".

    if he says "maybe later" with an expression of interested (his eyebrows might be raised, he could be smiling, his voice sounds positive) and he makes eye contact with you/turns to face you... that's a good sign. even better if he say, grabs your hand or something like that.

    you just have to try and get better at filtering bullshit. none of us are ever 100%, but you can learn to pick up on little things.

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    there's a diff between "maybe later" and "come back and see me". that's not say that all customers who say "maybe later" absolutely mean no.... but i find that MORE of them "mean it" when they say something along the lines of "come back and see me", especially if they give a time frame. just the other day a customer said to me "i need to talk business with my friend here, but could you please come back in about 15-20 minutes?"

    i did.. and i made about 100 from him.

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    PP - I agree there is a huge difference between "Maybe later" and "I can't now because....... could you come back in X minutes? I'd love to get dances from you then."

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    It's funny, because 'later' and 'no' become synonymous in my mind. If I'm not busy, I still come back later, depending on the definite-tone of voice. A 'no' can easily be a 'yes' a few beers later.

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    It may mean yes, normally I think it means no, but generally....why waste your time trying to figure it out? I say go about your business, if you happen to be free for a minute later, go back to him all smiles and say something like, "Well I guess it's later! Let's get frisky baby!" or some other such line. If he's still not interested, I wouldn't go back again unless there were really no other prospects in the club.
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    I was joking with a friend the other day how one day they are going to find the body of a customer with his nuts bitten off in the parking lot of a strip club, and his last words will have been "Maybe later."

    -- this is not to say that I lose my shit and snap at them, or don't go back or try to persuade them, because I do, but you know how it is on a slow night when you hear a lot of no, and that one more "maybe later" might push you over the edge . . .

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