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    Default Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    I have been searching for a job for about a month and half, almost two months and am empty handed.
    My employment gap is what's doing it, I just have a gut feeling. The one job I was really hopeful for, and even had a recommondation from a director at the the hotel (I applied for housekeeping at a Hilton, and my friend is a super high-up there) turned me down. I asked them why and all she said was "we passed on your application to pursue other candidates" WTF. I hate that. I know it's the employment gap. That was the only thing throughout the whole interview that didn't go so well.

    Target turned me down, but I have a feeling it's more cause of those weird questions that I probably didn't answer right.
    I have also been turned down by:
    Safeway (a grocery store)
    Walgreens
    Another small local hotel here called "Hotel Congress"
    A thrift store
    Starbucks
    Fry's (another grocery store)
    And the other ten thousand online apps that I've filed out and still haven't heard a word back, I'm assuming those are a no-go too.
    I wish the days of being able to go in, fill out on app on paper, and talk to a real person would come back. Now, 75% percent of places you go just shoo you out the door and say "you have to go online"

    All of these except for the thrift store and the local hotel were on-line applications. What sucks is they don't even give you an area to explain gaps in employment. I guess even if they did, it wouldn't matter.
    All these places, BTW, are places that have "Now hiring" plastered everywhere, so it's not like I am chasing dead leads.

    Right now I am feeling like stripping has fucked up my life, and I don't know how to bounce back from it. I am trying so hard and just keep getting shat on. If I would have just toughed it out in the restaurant biz I would never have been in this position. Looking back, it wasn't even worth it. I have nothing to show expect a year-long employment gap that is hindering me from being able to work.
    I know this issue has been discussed on here and there are plenty of girls who have gone on to other jobs after stripping successfully with no problem, with longer gaps in employment than me!
    My heart and soul are dead. I'm dead. I just feel so fucking hopeless.

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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    Shit now you have me scared . I've never had any other job than stripping. Right now im not doing anything I have taken a break for about 4-5 months now and have gained some weight I need to lose before I go back but I kind of want a job because im so bored out of my mind, you know?

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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    I'm sorry I'm sure something will come along, just try to stay positive. I don't get to spend a lot of time on here so I don't know your situation, but can you continue to dance while looking for a job so that you'll have some income coming in? I can understand if you don't want anyone to know what you've been doing for the past year, and I know that everyone reacts differently, but my employer knows I used to dance. They even mentioned recruiting other dancers because we're good in sales. They're all men though...wouldn't suggest telling that to a woman. I hope you find something soon

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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    I feel you! Trying to find a job, even with my padded resume (embellished slightly to hide my gap!), has been really hard.
    It seems like everywhere that has online applications ignores them or something...I try to just go in and talk to people but it's still hard.

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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    Why can't you strip to make some money, and try to meet a nice and trustworthy customer (while you're sober) who might be hiring? Personality goes a long way! That worked for me, and now I have a 9-5 that I really enjoy. I saw it work for a lot of girls too...

    Love it!

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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    Is there any community center in your town where you can get help with applying for jobs? You can fib to them (the resume helpers) about why you have an employment gap while you're getting help with brushing up your resume. Not having seen your stuff I don't know, but there might be something fundamental other than your employment gap that you are not able to see with your own eyes?

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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    I have good news and bad news- I've bullshited employment gaps successfully. That's the good news. The bad news is that the BS-ing worked because I was applying for crappy jobs so they were willing to overlook the gaps on behalf of "needing a body" to fill said crappy job. Life is seriously a bitch most of the time.

    Keeping looking and be more forceful (in a nice way) about your urgency to work. Even feed them a b.s. story about "Mah babies will STARVE!" Cry if you have to. ONCE you have A job, it's easier to jump to another- the odds are in your favor if you are leaving one job to go to another (better) job. (Dumb Catch-22, I know.)

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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    I fixed up my resume to fill in the gaps and leave the stripping part out and I'm still having a hard time too.. it's not just you .. Have you tried an employment agency?


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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    ^^That might be a good idea, esp. if you have good typing skills. When I first stopped dancing I enlisted in a temp agency in town. They had me come in and do a 1/2 hr computer test and some spellchecking. They told me to call every Monday and that they would try to place me every week. Luckily right after that I landed a job posted on a Portland livejournal. While I had that job, I applied for my current one that I really like.

    So yeah. After dancing, it took a couple steps to get to my current job. Good luck and definitely try an agency.

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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    Hmmm... I ordinarily wouldn't advocate dishonesty, but if your employment gap is causing so many problems, why not just LIE? For example, for the past year you have been:

    Nannying
    Providing in-home care for a now-deceased elderly person
    Editing undergrad papers
    Tutoring
    Doing freelance web design
    Cleaning private homes
    Volunteering with an organization in another country (this might sound shitty, but seriously, no one has EVER called Costa Rica to find out if I really did trail maintenance in 2001. Who's going to go through the trouble? Not Starbucks or Safeway.)

    ...Etc. People assume that others have been making a living SOMEHOW, so just give them what they want. Invent something pedestrian, responsible, not too skilled, and difficult to check up on. Seriously... I think employment gaps only become really suspect when you claim to have been doing NOTHING.
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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    CherryBomb954, where in the desert are you, Vegas?

    On you year long gap, was it after dancing, and are you still in it?

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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    What about working for a temp agency? I guess a lot of places that hire temps use it as a hiring pool as well...

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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    Wow, an hour and already 11 responses! Thanks everyone, SW is all I have right now, it's so nice to just be able to talk to someone. Sometimes that's all it takes to feel better.


    Quote Originally Posted by Dixie_Vancouver View Post
    It seems like everywhere that has online applications ignores them or something...I try to just go in and talk to people but it's still hard.
    Yup. I'd say 75% of all places now don't even have paper applications at all. I try to talk to people too, regardless that they've already told me to go online, but it is hard. All that happens is they tell me it doesn't matter, no one can do anything or tell me anything until I've gone online.

    Quote Originally Posted by anomar View Post
    Is there any community center in your town where you can get help with applying for jobs? You can fib to them (the resume helpers) about why you have an employment gap while you're getting help with brushing up your resume. Not having seen your stuff I don't know, but there might be something fundamental other than your employment gap that you are not able to see with your own eyes?
    I dunno! My resume consists of restaurant jobs and a few receptionist jobs sprinkled in. I've tried applying for several receptionist jobs but they all want me to be "proficient in all microsoft office applications" Ya know, like Excel and whatnot. Alot of times too they want experience in the specific area, like construction or whatever. I've only been a receptionist at a salon and a vet hospital. It's not the same. Other than that it's all server jobs on the resume.
    Serving is so out of the question in this town right now, too. I donlt think I'd even make back the gas money it took to get there. That's why I am focusing on hourly-paid positions.

    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine View Post
    I have good news and bad news- I've bullshited employment gaps successfully. That's the good news. The bad news is that the BS-ing worked because I was applying for crappy jobs so they were willing to overlook the gaps on behalf of "needing a body" to fill said crappy job. Life is seriously a bitch most of the time.
    That's the thing....the jobs I've been applying for are not even big-time serious jobs! I mean Target, come on, right? Grocery stores? It seems like nowadays places are being pickier than ever for bullshit jobs.



    Quote Originally Posted by TheLioness View Post
    I'm sorry I'm sure something will come along, just try to stay positive. I don't get to spend a lot of time on here so I don't know your situation, but can you continue to dance while looking for a job so that you'll have some income coming in?
    Dancing is completely out of the question. I am pretty much out of options for clubs in my town, and evenif I wasn't I live 30 minutes away from civilization right now and have no car.

    Quote Originally Posted by Jeska View Post
    I fixed up my resume to fill in the gaps and leave the stripping part out and I'm still having a hard time too.. it's not just you .. Have you tried an employment agency?
    I failed all their tests.

    Quote Originally Posted by glambman View Post
    CherryBomb954, where in the desert are you, Vegas?

    On you year long gap, was it after dancing, and are you still in it?
    I'm in the greatest city on earth......Tucson.

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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    OK, I'm probably going to get flamed for this, but I see nothing wrong with lying here when your livelihood is at stake and telling the truth doesn't seem to be working.

    Do you have any friends or relatives that could pretend that you worked for them? One of my uncles is a financial consultant and he's helped me get a receptionist job before by vouching that I was his secretary/personal assistant. If you've got anyone close to you that's in a position to be a reference (i.e. pretend that you worked for them as a receptionist/secretary), and they're willing to do it, then take advantage of it.

    Otherwise...ANY job that one could do as self-employed will work to cover a gap. Do you play a musical instrument or know a foreign language? Then you were self-employed as a music instructor or language tutor during your gap period. Or you were self-employed as a professional organizer. Or a pet-sitter. Or a nanny (again, do you have anyone that's willing to confirm that you nannied for their imaginary children? )

    The temp agency idea is a great one, too. You can get jobs from that to build up a work history, and then use that to find a steady full time office job, with no lying necessary.
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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    i've said i nannied. i got the job. i quit it to go back to stripping.

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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    If you really want a straight job you should talk to a call center. They hire almost everyone - seriously. Night shifts, regular raises, office job, great benefits. And having our wonderful people skills and the ability to tune out dumbassness is a great asset. It's a stressful job if you let it be cause people yell at you. But. . . put your stripper skills to work, girl!

    I am jumping on the nanny train as well. No one checks that stuff.

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    ^^^ Yeah. If you're at all competent, then a call center will also provide you good references to the next employer.
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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    but since she failed temp agency tests, then she should probably hit up a local unemployment center and learn MS Office well enough to pass the temp agency tests in the first place.

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    Quote Originally Posted by miabella View Post
    but since she failed temp agency tests, then she should probably hit up a local unemployment center and learn MS Office well enough to pass the temp agency tests in the first place.

    I talked to my aunt on the phone today, and she suggested the unemployment office. I'm gonna try it on Monday.

    I haven't thought about the nanny thing. I know a few people with kids that might be willing to help out.

    It doesn't help that everyone checks credit now to get a job, either. I mean fuck, if they're going to choose to employ me or not based on my FICO score....I'm fucked all the way around,.

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    Don't be mad, but if you don't want to do stripping any more & all the retails shops and hotels won't hire you... Have you tried fast food? Or janitorial work?? I know that sounds awful, but that could help you for now.

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    Make sure to check Craigslist for jobs too. If you look everyday and weed out the spam, there are some pretty good offers there.



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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    also, if you're just leaving a year-long gap in your applications online, etc, it hurts you most when you're applying for 'crap' jobs, because at the lower rungs, any gap over 3-6 months indicates 'unreliability'. and at entry/low-level stuff, they want people who are always employed in a crap job, because at least they are reliable and will be there a year from now, or two, or five.

    if you're feeling bold, try for higher paying jobs when you see them on craigslist or in the paper. once you get above a certain hourly minimum(usually around 15-20/hr, but there is some regional variance higher or lower), 1-2 year gaps are basically nothing really. essentially, the higher up you go, the less people care about a year or two out of the 'straight job' market.

    also, cleaning people's houses is VERY good money (particularly once you have other people doing it under your business name). not merry maids stuff, but hanging out your own shingle. if you're willing to do 'deep' cleaning (grungy stuff and commercial residential buildings like duplexes and apartments), you can command some pretty nice hourly amounts. again, this also varies regionally, but you can do pretty well if you work hard and apply those sales skills to get the business built up.

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    Default Re: Wow. I really don't know what I'm going to do.

    Just lie. Say you were nannying or something. What were your previous jobs? Unless safeway was already full they don't care about gaps (they hire 16 year olds!). If your OVER qualified they'll turn you down for that (seen it happen personally).

    My bf works at a call center and it's great. I'm actually thinking of picking up a part time sales job there on top of stripping and school, it's THAT attractive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Joplin View Post
    Just lie. Say you were nannying or something. What were your previous jobs? Unless safeway was already full they don't care about gaps (they hire 16 year olds!). If your OVER qualified they'll turn you down for that (seen it happen personally).

    My bf works at a call center and it's great. I'm actually thinking of picking up a part time sales job there on top of stripping and school, it's THAT attractive.
    Really? See, I was confused about the Safeway thing, cause every one you go to here has "Now Hiring" plastered all around the store, and they've been posting that they need people on Jobing.com, too. I really wonder why they turned me down. Do they cater to a younger applicant? Maybe I'm too old....? haha

    I actually did apply with a call center, really good money they start you at $9.50 and you pretty much set your own hours.
    The lady said they weren't going to start reviewing the next batch of applications till the 22nd, though...booo. It could be next month before they call. I have been keeping my eye out for other ones though.

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    You could always put an ad in your local paper cleaning people's houses for $50-$75 a day. That's what I would do if I could commit to a schedule. Or do dog walking/bathing. You might have more options than you think if you look outside of corporate settings.

    There are also a lot of work from home jobs online where you take or make calls using your own phone and computer.

    You should also probably think about going to school at some point. Something that will bring you some security and something you don't hate. Something you feel proud of doing. You can always apply for student loans/grants and even live off of that money if you have to. Just a suggestion, one that people have made to me many times over the years.
    My issue is that I can't stand working to make someone else rich. I have a problem obeying authority figures and being told what to do. So my 'career' choices fall under stripping, independent dominatrix work and freelance web design, some modeling. I just find what I can tolerate and try to make money off of it. lol

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