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    So tonight I go into work, already having a headache that I woke up with, so not off to a good start. I start talking w/this guy and we get on the subject of what time it is. He pulls out his cell phone, and normally I wouldn't look, as it seems rude to do so, but I thought he was just looking @ the time, so I glanced over. I see a text that says to stop talking to me. Then I see him look up in a certain direction. Sure enough this other dancer texted him; she later comes over, kisses him on the cheek, then walks away.

    Now, I already didn't think this girl liked me from the way she acts towards me. But I gave her the benefit of the doubt. Another incident...a couple of weeks ago, she was in front of me waiting for a red light to turn green, and when it did, she kept BACKING UP, as though she were going to hit my car. The thought crossed my mind that she did it on purpose, but then I thought she might be drunk (even though she shouldn't be b/c she's only 19). I brushed that off, too. But tonight, that message...I know I'm not just imagining things.

    I haven't done anything to this girl. I'm usually quiet at work, but if I talk, I say nice things...nothing to offend people. I don't know what her damn problem is.

    So my question is...should I worry that she'll try to slash my tires or something, or am I jumping to crazy conclusions? The only thing that makes me think that is b/c many dancers seem to have had their tires slashed, and she almost backed into my car (which prolly would've made it look like I had hit her). Should I tell mngmt so I have something to back up other actions she might take, or am I making a mtn outta a molehill? Btw, managment likes this girl...then again, they also seem to like me, so I dunno. She's fairly new, too.

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    What a bitch! Stay away from her..she is just full of trouble.







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    Default Re: Should I say anything?

    Yeah, it sucks :-/ I usually don't have enemies in strip clubs. Usually people are really nice to me. Do you think I should worry, tho...about the tire thing?

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    Quote Originally Posted by exotica268 View Post
    Yeah, it sucks :-/ I usually don't have enemies in strip clubs. Usually people are really nice to me. Do you think I should worry, tho...about the tire thing?
    My manager at work likes me too. If this was my situation, I'd pull him to the side and say something like, "hey, I have a problem and I really wanna get your opinion on it" Then I'd tell him the story.

    After he listens, and responds then you'll know how he's gonna handle the situation. If he doesn't sound like he will, I'd keep talking saying like, "I mean when she was backing up into my car the other night, I really thought she was gonna hit me. And plus, now with all these different cars' tires being slashed..the last thing I need is for that to be me"

    That's how I'd handle it.

    Hope that helps,
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    Okay, thanks

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    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses View Post
    My manager at work likes me too. If this was my situation, I'd pull him to the side and say something like, "hey, I have a problem and I really wanna get your opinion on it" Then I'd tell him the story.

    After he listens, and responds then you'll know how he's gonna handle the situation. If he doesn't sound like he will, I'd keep talking saying like, "I mean when she was backing up into my car the other night, I really thought she was gonna hit me. And plus, now with all these different cars' tires being slashed..the last thing I need is for that to be me"

    That's how I'd handle it.

    Hope that helps,
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    that is great advice. Also reinforcing your view on things and testing his true reaction before adding the reactors. So he cant be bias between you two.

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    That is true. I guess the main thing I'm worried about is looking like I'm causing drama or something...or crying wolf.

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    um I think SHE's making a mountain out of a molehill, I mean is this guy your man, are you trying to get at him, or was he just a custy you were chatting up? I hate when girls get so f-in territorial.. is he paying? or is this dancer just madly in love with him, or full of haterade(ha ha so millenium)
    Before talking to management, cuz it seems like she wants to make it an issue, I think maybe mention it to the dude, like after your talking to him and she texts or walks by with a dirty look, just say something to him like "Oh do you want me to try and come back later, I don't want to get your girl upset. " Say it as realistically as possible , but see if he reacts to the "your girl" part. If he isn't even feelin her like that.... like "please, that bitch is crazy" then maybe throw it out there like "she isn't gonna slash my tires or anything crazy like that, is she"
    Obviously there's something between them, or she thinks there is, but don't go to management on assumptions or accusations, sometimes they make it into something its not,,,, or me I start analyzing and putting way too much on it, like when I think oh someone stole my stuff and then I find it..... if you have to maybe mention to a good manager, FYI I dont think that girl is feeling me, I have a weird feeling.
    I try to choose my battles so that when the shit really does go down they tend to side with you because you're not usually involved in the drama. And then if your tire gets slashed you don't have to do any accusing, everyone will think your gut feeling was right.
    Once again, ignoring ignorance always works for me, they seem to disappear if you don't acknowledge their games.
    Don't get me wrong though, if the bitch swings first ,, hey do some "self-defense" on her ass.

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    Honestly..if it were me I'd have taken the guys phone and showed her text to management. But its too late for that.

    Def.talk to them. Dont be accusing..just mention whats happened and that you are worried she will escalate it.

    Ask if there is somewhere you can park your car where it will be on camera or someone can watch it all nigh( like in front of the door,esp if your doorgirl sits outside like my old club)

    At worst,if something happens...you'll have some ammunition to go with(I TOLD you this would happen and now it has)

    I'd also have a word with her and ask what her issue with you is. But that all depends on you and her...if you think it will do nothing but cause drama,dont. But if you approach it as "I've obviously done something to piss you off and I cant figure out what...can we work this out" maybe you can accomplish something.

    But some girls just like to start shit...so if she isnt the type you can reason with,dont try it.

    Maybe ask the girls who had their tires slashed who they thought did it and why?

    With multiple girls having had that done lately..management should be upping security in the parking lot anyway.

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    Jazz, when I thought back, last night, I realized that he IS her customer b/c I remembered her getting rooms with him the last time. I honestly thought he was her bf or something, after that incident, b/c he was young and cute. After she kissed him I laughed and asked if she was his gf or something (lightheartedly), and he said no...then he was like, "waiit, what did you hear, tho?!" You're like me, tho...trying to choose your battles so when you actually do speak up, people listen.

    CKXXX, the weird part about her is that she's not the type that I would think would want to start shit. I don't get it.

    I did talk to some of the girls whose tires got slashed. I should mention that it didn't happen recently, though. The thing that scares me is that from what they say, trying to prove what happened didn't go over so well...I think it was a separate person on each occasion, tho, who they weren't on good terms with.

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    ^ he's not her customer. no one is anyone's customer. they are not property. every time a guy walks through the door he can choose who he dances with. it doesnt matter if it was the same girl the first 100 times, the 101st time, or the 357th time, or the 5000th time, he's going to choose someone else. it's not YOUR problem, and he if was waiting for her he shouldve said so.

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