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    i might give it up with my club. i'm done dealing with drama. my ex is most definately trying everything he can to "make my life miserable" like he said he would. the other manager told me to try and deal with it best i can and my best friend said just wait it out and it will blow over. but.. i'm done putting up a fight. its wasted energy and anything logical i say to him falls on deaf ears because he is not a logical person and does not understand logic.

    i texted him to tell him i'll be there at 8 instead of 7, and he said we have to talk when i get there. no. we don't. he already tried it with the other manager and the other manager told him to give it up. so depending what he says to me im getting my stuff and peacing out.

    i danced at scores back when i first started dancing 2 years ago and i already talked to the manager today and he said i can come back tonight. he's been telling me i could come back since the last time i had drama with my crazy ex. i told him i wont get there til late bc i would have to go get my stuff and then drive to baltimore and he said thats fine, he'll waive my payout for tonight.



    i havent tried a new club in a year. i used to do it every few months and i still got nervous. but then i had alcohol to calm my nerves. but ive had knots in my stomach all day from the anxiety of dealing with my crazy ex tonight, and theyre gone now that i have another option.

    i havent worked at a club where i had to do more than a slightly longer version of "wanna dance?" in a year. i havent had to hustle vip or anything. and im nervous about being in a club that serves alcohol and where i did massive amounts of cocaine. but im just so OVER the drama.

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    Switch clubs and file a restraining order. Seriously, protect your mind and self.

    And then bad-review particular members of management online or something if you really want to be vindictive.

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    That sucks that he's being such an ass, because I know you really liked your club. Maybe try scores temporarily, until things settle down and blow over at your club, and then come back? It sucks that he "won" by running you out of the club, but your peace of mind is more important.

    I know you say everyone's like a family and the managers would never fire him even though they know he's a lying shit-stirrer...but if they lose one of their top money-making girls, who knows--they might re-consider that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sveta View Post
    That sucks that he's being such an ass, because I know you really liked your club. Maybe try scores temporarily, until things settle down and blow over at your club, and then come back? It sucks that he "won" by running you out of the club, but your peace of mind is more important.

    I know you say everyone's like a family and the managers would never fire him even though they know he's a lying shit-stirrer...but if they lose one of their top money-making girls, who knows--they might re-consider that.
    you know, i have thought to myself a hundred times that maybe george will learn. in the last few months 3 of the top girls have quit.. he said before he didnt want me to leave but i just feel like its putting up a fight for nothing. he's out of town right now and he isnt a good problem solver. he is a people pleaser and will tell each person what they want to hear.

    and i dunno if he even wants me to quit. my ex, i mean. i think he'd rather me be there so he can try to get to me. if i walked away, he wouldnt be able to do that. and that might get to him even more.

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    I suggested you switch clubs months ago and you snapped at me for even giving the suggestion, but it sounds like you are ready to give a new club a chance now and I think that's a really good idea.

    No one needs the drama he's been giving you so I do hope you change your situation and try a new place. A fresh start can do wonders so for your sake I do hope you'll give it a try.

    Good luck with whatever you choose.
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    sigh.

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    Girl, I think maybe this is a good idea. While they do have booze there, I'm under the impression that you don't have a drinking problem, it's just cause of your DUI you don't drink right? Which is good. I do still drink at work because well, I have no social life and it's fun for me lol but I make sure to get a ride there and back. Maybe you could meet up with somebody there and carpool and offer to pay gas money? I'm not saying get wasted at work, but if you want to have champagne in the champagne room or whatever...not sure if that is an option or not.

    If you're really nevervous take a valium when you get there and it will wear off before you have to drive home. I think that it will be a positive change for you, just leave your club on such a term that if you want to go back they'll take you back!
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    so. i get to work, fully prepared to get my shoes and leave, and i walk in the office, and he tells me nevermind. the other manager told me to go get dressed.

    so im like oooook

    come to find out that because my ex backed up this other girl on something (that isnt true), the owner was pissed at me! so it wasnt even my ex instigating really, he just shouldnt have backed this chick up. but i got really upset and started crying and said im sick of going into a place where girls hate me because they hate my best friend. which is what it is.. so many girls have said to me that it isnt me, they dont like her, she brings out the worst in me, whatever. she and i are very much alike and we AREN'T like these other girls. there's a crop of new girls coming in and changing the club dynamics and a lot of the older girls are getting fed up.

    i had a long talk with the other manager and told him i wanted to work somewhere else, that i wasnt dealing with this anymore, it isnt fair that hes backing this girl up on a lie because he's pissed at me.. and i dunno what it was but i think my ex must have actually felt bad because he went out of his way to be nice to me the rest of the night.

    so.. i'm not going to quit. i havent heard good money things about scores in a while, and a few girls from there work at my club now.. they told me that you either make 2000, or leave with nothing. and im not adding that stress to my life. as long as he lets me be everything will be fine. i'm back to my old stance that i'm not letting him run me out of a place where i enjoy working.

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    Babe that sounds like more drama than it's worth. But if u like working there and u can deal with it then u know what you're doing.
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