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    Default Opinions desperately wanted! Long post.

    I thought I got a new job (hence the ticker), I actually made it to the second interview, which most people have not yet.

    Here is the deal.

    I want to quit dancing and go back to cooking. I LOVE TO COOK! I did the kitchen manager thing and that's the job I applied for. The main reason I want to quit is because of the issues I am having at work. Psycho bitch and her minions.

    She has all the girls believing that I am the anti-christ. She says I talk shit, steal, lie, etc. She says behind my back that I am fat and ugly and bitches about me to the customers. I show up late, she screams at the top of her lungs. She tells the other girls that I say hateful things, making them in turn, threaten my life. I have had 2 girls threaten to kill me. One is no longer working there and the other is buddy buddy with psycho.

    Psycho had a guy in the dressing room and went off on me when I had to get the manager to make him leave. Then she and one of her minions left the door to the dressing room wide open while I was naked. It's a topless club and the DR is right next to the restrooms. At least it was closing time.

    She thinks she runs the club, thinks she is top bitch there. WRONG! With her screaming and acts of stupidity, bar regulars are not coming back in when she works. I get calls from friends and regulars wondering where I am and when I am coming back. They won't come in if I am not there and she is.

    My bosses are sick of her shit. They want to fire her but if I leave, they have to keep her. She calls them and tells them there are too many girls, we HAVE to do shorter sets. My boss refused to answer her calls one day, so the bitch sends her a text message that if she does not answer her phone, her and her friends are walking out. Same friends that want to kill me, steal my clothes, and write nasty messages on my mirror in the DR.

    Psycho says she hates it here, that she is going to leave. She has been saying that for a year and has made no attempt to leave. Her excuse is her 6 year old daughter. Doesn't want to take her out of the school she likes. Um, she's SIX!! She won't remember it in a few years, leave already.

    When psycho is not there and her minions are, they tend to leave me alone for the most part. BUT psycho can go out on boat rides and out to dinner with customers and god knows what else. We are not supposed to give out our numbers!!!!! I got my ass chewed out for leaving with a good friend of mine on my birthday last year. I kinda had to leave with him, I was really drunk and he took my keys. After, I got my ass chewed I told my boss who he was and she let it slide.

    When my bosses decide it's time for a dancer meeting, they lay down the law and and tear into the girls, including me. After the other girls leave, they tell me it was ment for them, not me. Thing is, they don't put their foot down when shit happens, no follow through.

    She accuses me of of trying new clubs only because she was there first. Says I got my boob job at HER doctor because she got them there. Um, she and I used to be kinda friends and she TOLD me to go to her doctor.

    I love dancing here! I make great money! I have a blast! I really don't want to quit but I do not want to deal with psycho anymore. I can't! I tried other clubs, I am too settled where I am at to start over. I cannot put up with the bitches shit anymore but if I quit, they have to keep her because no one wants to work there BECAUSE OF HER! She tells other girls at other clubs that our club is really bad.

    I have already spoke to the police about the threats. They told me that if it happens again to call them immediately. I don't want to have to do that. I will tell my boss, one more incident and I will walk out the door. Customers will leave if I do.

    OH MY GOD!! It's too much pressure! I want to stay but yet I don't. I want the new job but I love dancing.

    I am not going to confront psycho. I am not going down to her level. My bosses, the bartenders, and the bouncers do not want me to leave.

    I don't know what to do. I am going to work on Monday. When I see my bosses, I will tell them, one more incident and I leave or I call the police. They better give me a damn good work reference if I am forced to leave.

    Can anyone make fucking sense of this because I can't?

    New job 40 hours a week $500 pay check
    Dancing 65 hours a week $400 pay check and keep all my tips.
    Having to check into the mental hospital because of a psycho conceited bitch.... priceless.


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    well, my advice is rile her up so she takes a swing at you so she gets fired.

    you can just do that by being sickningly sweet to her.

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    It sounds like your management/staff is being two faced. If she's so much drama, why don't they just fire her?

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    Just leave. Management is not supporting you and it doesn't seem like they will start any time soon. But don't burn any bridges because eventually she will move on to another club and when she does, you can go back. Try to get numbers for your regulars if possible, and let them know that you will be back when you feel better about the environment there.
    Another option--if management really does recognize your assets, you could do just a few nights at the club and also do the new job, and only agree to work in the club when psycho is not scheduled.
    Also, don't worry about the other girls and their boat rides or whatever. As long as you are making the money you want, their actions OTC don't really matter.

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    Default Re: Opinions desperately wanted! Long post.

    That sucks! I agree deliver an ultimatum to management. Is the sole reason you want to start a new job, due to the psycho or because you just want a regular job outside of dancing?

    I wouldn't let anything mess with my money but it sounds like you want to work a regular job and dance and you should have the freedom to do whatever you want.

    Lay down the facts to management. She's running off customers, running off dancers that make the club money, causes customers to spend money OTC ect...

    Also, if you start working a regular job and still dance when you want to; I think you'll find yourself less affected by her drama just cause it's not the only brick you have in the fire.

    Good Luck!

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    WTF? They say shes so much trouble they want to fire her....but they dont fire her??? Why????

    What happened that she has it in for you? Did you make more money then her? Did some of her regs like you better? Are you new(er..I know you've been there awhile,but if shes been there say 5 yrs and you've been ther 1 and are the newest adn esp quitest girl..she might see you as an easy target)

    If you want to stay,I'd call the head guys in(manager,GM,owner,etc...) go over everything...including testimony from custies who wont come in if shes there if they are willing to say it..write it out or leave a voice mail or email or SOMETHING so you can prove it...and tell them that this is it...it's her or you.Are there any other girls she does this too that will go in with you?

    If they still wont fire her...walk. Especially if you are only making $400 a week because of that shit...SO not worth it.Thats def NOT good money!!

    Can you make sure you dont go in when shes there? Or is it just as much trouble with her little army of skanks?

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    Quote Originally Posted by CKXXX View Post
    Especially if you are only making $400 a week because of that shit...SO not worth it.
    ^ I think she meant $400/week is her base pay, not her total weekly earnings.

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    Get contact info for all your regulars, move to a new club and take them with you. No matter how much you like this club, being psycho-free is going to be worth leaving.

    Please don't stay here. It's too much drama and as others have said, management is not doing its job regardless of what they may say to your face. The bad energy there is bringing you down, bringing your customers down, and making everyone that matters feel terrible -- and that's horrible. It's like an abusive relationship -- you might want to stay because you're comfortable and change is scary, but that's not a good idea.

    But before you go, put that dumb bitch in her place. She is a bully and she needs to know that there are consequences. Don't take her shit. Next time she says something or does something, get her alone in the dressing room and tell her she is scumbag and you're not gonna take it and in fact you have no problem getting into a brawl because you're a tough bitch and you have nothign to lose, no kid to worry about if you get fired. Basically you bluff. I did that exact thing to this bully at my club and she completely stopped giving me trouble. She backed down because she was afraid to get suspended. I suspect that this psycho will act similarly. This might work so well that you dont have to leave! But make sure that if you do this, dont let her or management know you're gonna leave yet. Leave after. And of course there's a chance you could actually end up fighting. but it probably wouldnt be that bad since there are bouncers and cameras to break it up, right?
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    Quote Originally Posted by BrodieLux View Post
    Get contact info for all your regulars, move to a new club and take them with you. No matter how much you like this club, being psycho-free is going to be worth leaving.
    Very much what I was going to say. No club or job for that matter is worth dealing with massive drama. Life is too short for all that crap. Take the positive approach and make a change for the better instead. Go for it!
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    It sounds to me like the psychotic bitch is very jealous of you and her "friends" are along for the ride because they don't have a backbone and need her to tell them what to think. As for management, I'd like to know why the hell they're not doing their job to protect you from her. I believe there's something legal you can do about that miserable bitch.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dangerousdiva View Post
    ^ I think she meant $400/week is her base pay, not her total weekly earnings.
    Ahh..ok..base pay for stripping never even occured to me!

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