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    I can't be the only one who will do anything in the world to avoid making a phone call...can I? I don't know why calling someone on the phone gives me such anxiety! But it does. I will put off making a call until I absolutely HAVE to--or until, well...I've missed opportunities before simply because I can't bring myself to make the call. If I'm talking to a close friend or family member, I'm fine. But anyone else...panic time. I always end up sounding like a complete moron on the phone. I blank out and forget what I was going to say, or I end up sounding like an awkward 10-year-old, stammering and tripping over my words...it sucks. I always feel like the person on the other end is thinking "what an idiot". And I always feel like I'm imposing on people or inconveniencing them by calling.

    Writing out a "script" of what I'm going to say before I call helps somewhat, but not much.

    I feel so pathetic for this. I mean it doesn't seem like a difficult thing, you know, just pick up the phone and talk! But I've had knots in my stomach all day because I have to call my old club tonight to ask if I can come back. I'd go in person, but it's in another state, so phone is the only reasonable option. But I can't do it. I told myself I'll call them at 6 pm, when the managers will most likely be in. Argh. Someone convince me to just fucking DO IT.

    Anyone else have phone phobia? What do you do to get over it when you need to make a call?
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    I am so not a phone person either. Never have been really but since the internet it's even worse. I'm not nervous or afraid or anything it's just not my thing.

    I can relate to feeling like you sound dumb over the line too because I have a very feminine voice and I sound not unlike a teen girl which isn't very conducive to doing business.

    When I just have to use the phone with people other than family or friends I try to speak slowly and annunciate my words very clearly with a deeper voice. I try to channel Lauren Hutton , Kathleen Turner someone like that, lol!
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    I'm the same way. Hell, if I am ordering pizza, I write out a script in a notepad document to read while ordering!

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    I have a phone phobia. Scripts don't even help me. I get other people to make phone calls for me. I'm way pathetic.

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    Yep. I order take out on line if I can..I HATE talking on the phone unless it is close friends. Even then i'm just not a chatty phone person.

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    I really dont like the phone at all.
    Unless im taking a long drive, than i get so bored staring at the road.

    I hate calling places to ask if they are hiring. I used to hate calling out sick from my old job. I used to call at times when i knew no one was in so i could leave voicemails.

    When i start dating someone new i get serious phone anxiety. While i wont write out a "script" persay, i definitely jot down topics to discuss with the person.

    And forget about ending a phone call..ugh, i really dont know how. One a few occasions ive just hung up on people and later said that my cell phone died.
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    I dropped my phone and the screen broke 3 weeks ago. Just today I took it to the store but the store was closed. I could care less. /brag

    Well, I actually do miss ppl, but the phone is larger-than-life to me for some reason, I just can't go there.

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    I hate the phone! I have such a hard time scheduling appointments and silly things like that. I always feel like such an idiot.

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    i have the exact same thing. it seems silly and i try and reason my way out of it, but unless its a good friend or family member its really hard for me too. i just stammer and stutter some times lol.

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    I never use the phone unless I absolutey have to. I email much more than I use the phone. Luckily, I have very chatty friends, so if they aren't an email person and the only way to contact them is phone, all I have to do is listen.

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    HATE it, cannot and will not talk on it--only to close fam members an like 1 or 2 friends.

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    I hate talking on the phone- part of having SAD. I always forget what I need to say, and worry about sounding foolish. It's the worst of both worlds- you can't effectively communicate the subtleties you can in person, plus you don't have the benefit of editing and emoticons.

    Last time I answered the phone without letting the machine get it first was when my bank called trying to sell insurance. I only picked up because I thought there may have been an issue with my account, but I didn't get the first syllable of "hello" out before I started getting the super hard-sell. I should have just hung up, but I lost my temper and yelled at the guy. I felt really bad about it later.

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    voice. I try to channel Lauren Hutton , Kathleen Turner someone like that, lol!
    I'd like to learn accents to use on those occasions when I absolutely have to have a conversation, like with tech support; "why, no, I'm not Australian. Why do you ask?"

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    Text me please! I hate it too!
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    I hate the phone as well. I've written scripts before. I prefer to text but sometimes if I'm on a mission or really just need to tell someone something I'll call them but not for conversation.

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    I used to hate the phone with a passion. I would always bribe a roommate to order pizza for me so I could avoid calling myself.

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    I wonder what Chuck Palahniuk meant when he wrote:

    "People used what they called a telephone because they hated being close together and they were scared of being alone."


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    I hate the phone too. I dont even like talking to close friends - Im not nervous, I just get bored and distracted. I find myself browsing online and not listening to them.

    But with making calls to strangers I am extremely nervous and will put it off until the last minute. I think i will make an idiot out of myself.
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    Haha I thought I was the only one who bribed other people to order a pizza. Hooray. I am not alone.

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    I think we had a thread about this a while back. Seems like there are a lot of phone phobic people on SW!

    I hate the phone so much. I have no idea why. I guess I communicate better through writing.

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    I like talking to a grand total of 4 people on the phone. Otherwise I'm just not up for it and avoid it if at all possible.

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    Unless it's my parents, MIL, or R, I have a hard time talking on the phone. I feel like an idiot and sound like I'm hyperventilating because I lose my breath from nervousness. I tried to work for an outbound call center and had to quit the first day because I had an anxiety attack at work. I avoid the phones at work like the plague, although my manager insists I learn to take orders on them.....I usually try to hide when people call on them.

    That's why I feel like such a heel when people on SW give me phone numbers. I almost never call people in the first place. It's not that I don't want to talk, I just don't know what to say!

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    well I guess I'm not alone! But I wonder what can be done about it? I've got to get over it eventually; what am I going to do when I go looking for "straight" jobs in a year or two? I'm going to have to make phone calls to strangers eventually. Besides that, it would just be nice to be able to pick up the damn phone without tying myself in knots over it!

    There's got to be a way to get over it...I'm just not sure how.
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    I only use the phone if I absolutely HAVE to. Luckily the few friends I do have are kinda the same way so we all just text each other and it works out great.

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    I don't mind it, though I do rarely answer my home phone unless I know the number. I think the popularity of texting has really heightened the "phone phobia" people have. I text all the time, but mainly from the booth at work, or to other dj's about a music question. It's much simpler in that circumstance to text, because I'm not trying to scream over the music. I LOVE ordering pizza and other things online, though.
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    I hate talking on the phone I will drive to a resraunt to get a to go order rather than call it in first.... My roomate is the same way so we fight over who has to call!
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