I started my divorce today, I did not expect it to upset me but I cried like a baby! We were together for 10 years, it feels more like a death than anything else. Just venting I guess, thanks for reading.





I started my divorce today, I did not expect it to upset me but I cried like a baby! We were together for 10 years, it feels more like a death than anything else. Just venting I guess, thanks for reading.
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."
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hang in there, man. i know what you're going thru. i went thru two! >.<
1st one was only a vegas-length marriage but the 2nd was 10-years like yours. ...and very painful too.![]()
there will be up and down times, hang in there and try not to get into a pissing match. try to keep your temper and maintain speaking terms.
if you guys end up talking thru the lawyers only, it'll get worst and the lawyers will just get fat and happy. good luck!





I'm sorry to hear that big daddy. It will get better with time. *hugs*
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I am so sorry
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Thanks everyone!!
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."



awww im sorry to hear that
if it doesnt hurt too much to talk about it, why did u guys break up?





i'm also sorry to see you sad!
Been there, done that. Now I am distant friends with my ex, and the second marriage has lasted 35 years. It's hard to make a break with so much of your life, but you have to put your mental health first. Good luck and God bless.





oh i am so sorry babe all i got his hugs for you hope that helps
Ha! Sounds familiar, somehow. FWIW, she will not be happy after the divorce, either, because she is looking for something that she has to bring herself. But you mnay be, if you are careful to not marry on the rebound and to not go looking for another woman exactly like the first one.
After my divorce, I "fell in love" with the first girl who would date me and sleep with me. Looking back on it, I wanted to prove to myself that I was lovable. I was lucky that the girl decided to dump me and leave the state, or I might have married her just to prove a point.




I'm sorry BD![]()



im so sorry hun![]()
my bf is signing his divorce papers tomorrow. his wife did and said practically the same thing as yours. we met about 6 months after they separated and have been together for 18 months. it may sound corny but its so true that when one door closes another door opens.
rest up and let yourself grieve. afterall there was a death of your old life but your new life has just begun - thats the good news xx





Update...
I get everything. House, trucks, fourwheelers........everything. And she's paying me $150 per month for 24 mos to pay off the new fourwheeler she just had to have. Some say I made out like a bandit...I don't know I lost the love of my life and I'm in DEBT!!!
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."
Well at least that's some good news that you don't have to give up too much of your stuff.
Otherwise, I'm really sorry.Hang in there.
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Yeah, it's tough. It was hard for me too. 10 years with someone is a long time. It's hard to just to sign that away.




*Hugs*
Take the time to mourn the death of the relationship. She did a shitty thing to you, and I am glad you were adaquately compensated. As for the debt, maybe you can sell some of the stuff to help get you out of the hole? I feel your pain, I too was once divorced, but I got syuck withh HIS debt. It sucks, but time heals.
This is what I did to cheer myself up when I got divorced.
There were a number of things I enjoyed doing that I hadn't done for a long time because my wife didn't enjoy them as well.
So I just started doing all those things again. Because I had not done them with my wife, I was not reminded of her. And doing them gave me pleasure.
And, every time I started feeling sorry for myself or just plain sad, I made myself go out and pretend to have a good time. After an hour of pretending, I WAS having a good time!
At least you get everything and she has to pay for the 4 wheeler......maybe that will give you time to save some money. Don't jump into another relationship.





I have not had a relationship yet and it's been 10 months. I'm getting pretty lonely tho! And I have been doing everything I use to do before she came into my life!
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy."
^can you sell everything to get out of debt, start over fresh, go on a big ass long trip overseas...say to Southeast Asia, and then come home and start your new life?




don't worry about the companionship.
imo, you're going to have to learn to live with yourself first and be happy.
it's been almost two years for me and quite frankly, i'm in NO rush to get back into a relationship. heck, i'll get a puppy before another relationship.![]()
my thoughts are don't think of your partner as the 'thing' that completes you. you're complete onto yourself. you'll be a better partner/spouse/etc. for it imo.
or you might be obscenely happy being single! my (married & in relationship) friends recently remarked (after not seeing me for almost a year) that "divorced life" is very agreeable to me. i'm happier, healthier, and much more relaxed ("wipe that stupid grin off your face, ray").![]()
but take care of yourself first, BD. and whoever comes along next will have a well-rounded and already happy mate who can make them even happier.
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