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    I just read the how much do you make a night thread or whatever and I think I'm selling myself short. Instead of going to a top club and trying to hustle, I've just been working at the shitty dive and making the kind of money that would obviously make some of you cry.

    I've hustled before and never been turned away from a club. When I started and even a year later I was a top earner and had lots of regulars.

    I dunno WTF has happened to me and why I don't even care anymore. I feel like I've lost my hunger. I'm going to audition at the best clubs in town tomorrow. I don't know why I settle for dives because it's comfortable and I don't have to try.

    I just feel absolutely pathetic. I feel like I can't make money anymore, but it's like a self-fulfilling prophecy because I'm not even TRYING to hustle.

    Eh, what to do?

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    Default Re: Selling myself short

    try another club?

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    yeah, you're right. I mean, I'm just wondering what the underlying issue is here. Has anyone else ever been this way?

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    It's definitely good to try and work at the best potential clubs out there for yourself, but don't base your worth on what would make some SWers "cry". If you're making good money for your city* and you know you couldn't make more money at a job that you feel you *should* be skilled at for your place in life (i.e. you have the basic skills to make more at a temp agency 5 days a week), then that is what is good. Define 'good' for yourself.

    *For instance, I think it's established pretty well that in 75% of the clubs in PDX, $300 is a good shift. In some clubs $100 is decent! Yes, we have so many clubs that the Pareto Principle applies to them too.

    Aren't you also working multiple days in a row? Like, forever until you get bills paid? That would make anyone tired and frustrated! It's okay to feel burnt out but if you understand what it's tied to then it can be theraputic.

    So yeah. Try another club as i.breathe.in suggested, but also don't think every club is a 1k club. Or even a $500 club. If it's tied in to wanting to give up on your attempt to work multiple days in a row until you complete another goal, then try to clarify your priorities so that you finish one thing before the next.

    Hope that helps with recognizing underlying issues.

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    i mean, if you're getting your bills paid, getting the things you want, have a closing plan and have enough to put into savings... then who cares what others say about the money you make, really. heh.

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    Hey, it's what makes you happy. That's important. I actually don't like going on stage all night long and would rather make money off of a handful of guys on a couch somewhere, so I can't work in a small club. BUT alternatively, I don't want to live in Las Vegas and work until 6 in the morning, so I still dance in Portland. I just find a place where I'm happy making what I do but I don't make too many sacrifices.

    Are you happy with your money? Are you able to save? Can you afford a nice place to live? I don't know, money makes me pretty happy - if I was you, I'd def. move on. I mean, I say this because I started in a small club and while I actually made pretty good money there, once getting a taste of "good money" I wouldn't ever go back.



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    *For instance, I think it's established pretty well that in 75% of the clubs in PDX, $300 is a good shift. In some clubs $100 is decent! Yes, we have so many clubs that the Pareto Principle applies to them too.
    Every single dancer who has talked about making that kind of money has been a dancer that works at one of the "dives" here. Right? I don't hear any girls from D2 or Stars talking about making $100 a night. Sorry...just nitpicking.
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    Default Re: Selling myself short

    seriously to some of these girls nothing will be good enough becuase they are stuck up biaatches. stick to your own goals and whats earnable in your area. i think as long as you make double or triple whatever your bills are in a month your doing fine.

    and dont ever compromise your boudries for money, its never worth it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by i.breathe.in View Post
    i think as long as you make double or triple whatever your bills are in a month your doing fine.
    Yep. Totally agree with that part.
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    Oh, I've been there. I just get so TIRED sometimes... not burn-out... just TIRED. The only thing that really fixes that is jumping in to the deep end... Go try another club if you're unhappy with what's going on right now.
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    Default Re: Selling myself short

    Please let's not drag this thread into the "what is good money?" muck. It seems like the problem isn't the money in the dive for the OP, but the fact that she knows she could do better and feels like she's selling herself short.

    IMHO it'd be good to figure out WHY you're short-changing yourself. Low self-confidence? Do you feel uneasy thinking about competition, even though the logical part of you knows you're up to the challenge of a busier club? Fear of failure? Figure out the underlying reason that you're sticking yourself in your comfort zone, and then it will be easier to do something to change it.

    Been there, done that myself. I was working at a top club, but I started putting myself on slow, no-money, pervert infested day shifts. I felt like you did, frustrated...and then I realized I was taking myself out of the real competition because I was insecure about my weight. So now I'm taking a month off to lose weight, and then I'll go back and work nights again where the money is. Instead of continuing to work days and get even more broke and frustrated.
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