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    Default Nervous about lapdancing for my hubby!

    Ok, I've never danced for him and he mentioned it several months back. So I got a new outfit and am planning to give him a lapdance on our vacay next week. Problem is, I'm really nervous!

    Years ago I tried to dance for him a couple of times but he started laughing both times and I got embarrassed and stopped. He insists that he was just nervous and kept thinking "This is my wife, wow!" and that caused him to chuckle. I believe him, but still, I'm pretty anxious about it.

    I have never been this nervous about anything in my life. I've never thought a custy might laugh at me, so I'm not sure why I'm so scared.

    Any advice? Hell, anything is welcome. I don't even know what music to use. I've second guessed myself so much trying to plan this perfect evening, I think I've built up impossible expectations. Which I think may be part of the problem. I'm a little worried that HE may have incredible expectations that are impossible to live up to.

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    Default Re: Nervous about lapdancing for my hubby!

    You are his wife, and you are gorgeous.. You could bust your face during the dance and he'd still love it

    I did it once for my husband, and we both just had several drinks beforehand and I was busting out moves I didn't even know I could do. It was weird at first, but my husband was just in awe because he loves me and think I'm "the most beautiful woman he's ever seen" and I was naked so it worked for him! You'll be just fine

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    Default Re: Nervous about lapdancing for my hubby!

    I have to say that this is the worst situation to be asked to do IMO. My bf asked me to and then it turned into "so is this what u do to customers?" while I was sucking his dick. hmmmmm yeh sure??

    so my advise is be very careful about how hot your dance gets.

    Other than that I dont think u will be embarrassed. I got straight into dancer mode as soon as I began dancing. I have to admit it was a total turn off sexually for me unfortunately.
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    Default Re: Nervous about lapdancing for my hubby!

    I do it quite a bit. Usually it starts out as me playing around on the pole and then he comes home and one thing just leads to another. I don't really have much advice though. But have a great time!
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    I get nervous when I dance for a siggy other too. They always eff up the mood by saying, "damn THIS is how close you dance" No you dork, it's for you!







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    Default Re: Nervous about lapdancing for my hubby!

    I don't think he would think I'm doing the same stuff in a dance for a stranger. He knows me better than that.

    I'm more nervous I'm gonna look like a clutzy dork. I get super clumsy when I'm nervous.

    Maybe I'll have a drink first, kinda take the edge off, ya know?

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    I highly recommend a couple of drinks for both of you in this situation.

    I dance for K all the time and he loves it. I don't dress up or make a thing out of it though... he'll be watching a movie or something and I'll just come over and do a little ass-shake in front of him, give him a little grind, and the next thing I know I'm giving him a lap dance. When he's put music on and sat back to watch me pole dance, though, then I get nervous as hell. A couple of drinks really lowers those inhibitions!

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    Default Re: Nervous about lapdancing for my hubby!

    If you are a little worried he thinks you put the same moves on customers (which I know you said he doesn't, but if it would ease you) then say you finally get to do the 'special husband treatment' with all the extra 'tricks' if you catch my meaning!

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    Default Re: Nervous about lapdancing for my hubby!

    Quote Originally Posted by jasmine View Post
    I don't think he would think I'm doing the same stuff in a dance for a stranger. He knows me better than that.

    I'm more nervous I'm gonna look like a clutzy dork. I get super clumsy when I'm nervous.

    Maybe I'll have a drink first, kinda take the edge off, ya know?
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    I hear ya! Well look at it like this..you're only going to be dancing for like 20-30 seconds before he can't take anymore and rips your clothes off

    Have fun Jas!







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    Default Re: Nervous about lapdancing for my hubby!

    Maybe if you start out being funny (you know like if you were mucking around with the girls). Then if he laughs again... well he's supposed to! It's funny!!

    Then once you feel comfy you can kick it up a notch, and the difference between the two might help with the idea that what HE is getting now is something extra special.

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