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    I turned down a dance for the first time last night.

    I had talked to this guy for awhile, offered a dance, he said no, and I told him to have a good night. Throughout the night he kept walking by me and saying "Hey, gorgeous" and stuff like that. Then he walked by me waving a $20 bill. I was finishing hustling another guy but when I was done I went over and said "It looks like you're ready for your dance!" And he said no! Well, why were you waving a $20 at me then? Just to show me you have it? Whatever. He started following me around again and then told me he wanted a dance and sat down in one of the lapdance chairs and started waving it at me again yelling that he wanted a dance from me now. I just walked by him to the dressing room and said "I've wasted enough time on you, douchebag!" When I came back out he had left.

    So, what are your reasons to turn down dances? I am pretty sure I never have before...though I could understand if the guy was smelly or something. This time I was just so annoyed at this guy I couldn't imagine trying to turn on the sexy to dance for his dumb ass.

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    Default Re: Turning down dances

    I turn guys down a lot. If they are smelly, drunk, creepy, wearing sweat pants, grabbed at other girls, too damn old, are being jerks or I just get a bad vibe.

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    I've turned down dances because the guy was being an ass like the OP described. Sorry, but I dont need your $20 enough to be degraded for it. Piss off.

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    I'm sorry you had to deal with this! This kind of guy is definently one of my major pet peeves as a stripper. I think given the circumstances, you handled yourself as best you could. Its better to just turn down the money than get paid and escalate to anger and ruin your mindset for the entire night, in my opinion.
    I've done it a couple of times, myself. My reasons have mostly been around the guy's behavior. If a guy is saying really lewd things to me that may imply that he has no intentions of sticking to my boundaries/ rules once w get into the VIP room. I just pay really close attention to my gut feelings when I'm "screening" guys for a dance. Where I have worked, we can make money for a drink commission and private dances are reletively costly. A few times, I've made guys buy me a drink that nearly equals the cost of a dance ($40) so I will talk to him about the dance options. This way, I'm still getting paid to interact with him at all. I'll run through the options and really sort of grill the guy for only about another five minutes. I've told a few guys that "I've never had a man dissatisfied with the time he's spent with me. I just don't want to risk you being disappointed." I smile very politely and then walk away from him. Either way, I've made money from shutting him down. Once or twice, the guy will get desperate and still pursue me. By this time, I know I've had the upper hand so I refuse to take the dance unless he'll buy the most expensive amount of time on the list, usually a 1/2 hour minimum. I say we need that much time to get comfortable with each other. While we're paying, I'll personally tell security/bouncer staff to really watch my room and my time and let them in on my sketchy feeling. I've never been let down when I communicate to them.
    If I can, I up-sell and try to get whatever cash I can get without actually trapping myself in a room with him. Normally, the guy is just being an asshole and I remind him that I have the right to refuse service to anyone.
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    If I sit down on the guys lap and start hustling and he instantly grabs my ass or tries to touch my vag or tits or is excessively handsy I will get up and walk away. If Im dancing for a custys and they keep grabbing/pinching/rubbing me anywhere after I told them 3x not to I will stop dancing and politely ask for my money. I fucking hate being touched. I dont mind too much if its a light caressing type of touch and the guys is nice and buying a lot of dances, but otherwise it makes me really uncomfortable. And I will not dance for someone if they are making me feel uncomfortable.

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    i only turn down dances when a guy seems broke and he is not spending more than $20 and if i see it won't lead to VIP. Espiacially when it's busy. and if i have all ready done lap dance with some regualr pervert then hell no. i won't go for that!!!!!!

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    In the situation you described I would have done the same thing as you.

    I don't know if I've turned down one personally. I know I've turned down plenty of "can I get a free dance" obviously.

    When I'm at work I don't take anything seriously so if a guys being a dick I just take it at face value. I don't let it stop my money. I've never had a guy....WAIT! Yes I have!

    I was on stage doing a stage dance for a guy who came up and when it was time to tip he said "wait until you give me a lap dance". I said "no, how it works is you give me a dollar now" and he said something cheap back. He was obviously a time waister. There was a new girl fresh off the street wearing a tank and normal heels who sat with him FOR HOURS. She didn't get one dance (they were sitting right next to the couches where I was working.

    I wanted to say something to her but I didn't wanna be a "bitch" either, if she misconstrue it as me trying to give her bad advice.

    It really is better you just walked away. Some people just aren't worth the 20. It's good business on your end to realize that and just walk away.

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    Yeh i turn down dances all the time if I get a creepy vibe off the custie (the one time i ignored my intuition on this it turned out bad). If they are too drunk and I think they will throw up or if they are assholes.

    Turn them down all the time if they only have $20 coz most custies pay $50 for dances so I'd rather just spend an extra few mins finding someone willing to pay.
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    if they are degrading in ANY way, i will not do it.

    I have danced for the smelliest, grossest guys.. and could look past it, but if they treat me badly and I won't even look at them... my dignity is worth a lot more than their measly jackson.

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    I actually turned down a dance from a guy that my family and I know from a restaurant the other day. I told him it would suck because I know him from somewhere else, so it would be awkward. I swear, I'm too honest sometimes :-/

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    I ignore, walk away from, and/or turn down guys all the time. I will not be disrespected, nor will I let them be rude about other girls in the club, even if they target a woman with whom I'm not friendly. Those fuckers are not worthy of my time and need to know that they can't treat sex workers like second- or third-class citizens. Rude, misogynistic, racist, size-ist douchebags do not belong in a gentleman's club and are not worthy of my time and energy.

    To that effect, I've also made a man beg for a dance after he was rude to two of my good friends. The security guards found it particularly amusing as he'd been annoying them all night as well. I took every penny that jerk had.

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