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Everything in humanity makes me change my opinion of men forever. From supermarkets to lapdances, each human has touched my memory in a different way and shaped my view of society. Not because I'm a stripper, but because I'm a human.
Look like a woman
Think like a man
Act like a lady
Work like a dog
- My Great Grandmother Bessie's Recipe for Success
For me, I've begun to appreciate a good man more after seeing men behave like jerkoffs at the club. But obviously not all guys are jerkoffs and just because you run into a lot, you can't be bitter towards all men. This applies to non-strippers too. We've all run into our share of assholes.
I separate them into categories. Ones I have personal relationships with, and ones I have a business relationship with. The business relationship guys aren't really "people" but just talking dollar signs. It's not sexy, but it's how I compartmentalize.
You are not going to treat SC customers the same way you would your boyfriend, so if he doesn't treat you like a princess back, no harm. You didn't really give a shit what he thought of you anyway, especially since the side of you that he's seen isn't the real you.
Anyway, after 6 years of dancing, I don't hate men. Just some. That's normal, I think.
wtf is a dead soul anyway? Just stay away from the drugs and stuff and live a normal life during the 80-90% of your week that you're not at a strip club. If anyone has a dead soul, it's someone who slaves every day at a job they hate.


To be taken with a grain of salt! I've only been dancing for a month but I suppose this is a helpful opinion from a newbie so you can judge by the veterans if there is perhaps a difference in how you feel about these things based on how long you dance.
When I was younger I was affraid of my bf/husband (of the future) going to SC's. The older I got and the more I went as a customer the more I began to understand it's all about who the man is. Now that I dance at one, I know it's not about what's out there, it's all about the man that you choose, that will ultimately affect love, sex and soul IMO.
I don't know about your soul becoming dead.




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That stuff only happens if you let it, or you already sort of thought that way and stripping just contributed to it.
Any exposure to jerks can change your opinion of men, not just stripping. What happens to you from stripping, is IMHO, up to the girl and why she gets into it/what she hopes to get out of it.



Anything that can help you see another side to something is enlightening.
IMHO most non-strippers only get to see a certain side of men. Or sometimes a girl will see the bad side of just one guy... and get traumatized by it in a way... when really there are a lot of guys out there like that.
But a stripper gets to see all kinds of things. I think it helps us understand humanity that much better and not be naive about people (esp. men).
Remember, naive is a nice way of saying ignorant. And everyone has to be ignorant about somethings because we can't be conscious about EVERYTHING. Strippers are just more aware of the male gender's psychological preferences and idiosyncrasies. That's just what we happen to be more enlightened about than the average female population!
Scientists know more about chemicals and crap, lawyers know more a bout the law... strippers know more about men... that's all. Whether it makes you jaded or not is up to you.




After I started dancing I did change my veiw of men. For the better! I left a total jerk, stopped going on pity dates and giving loosers secound chances. When a customer pays hundreds of dollars to rub your feet or just talk to you it's hard to deal with any negative treatment from a man in real life.




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I didn't mean that they have better relationships... what i meant is that we get lots of insight into male behaviors that most non-stripping women get to see. I stipulated that we know more but I did not define what "more" meant.
*edit* I'd agree that it can be a lot harder to be in a relationship with a guy. I mean if you've been dancing for more than a few months you will have danced for a guy that has a girlfriend who doesn't want him to go to strip clubs... and he doesn't tell her that he does. You will dance for married men who keep it from their wives if you dance for long enough... it can really damage your ability to trust relationships..... if you let it. But once again that's part of not being naive and coming to understand human nature a little better... which will happen at a SC cause men show sides of themselves there that they wouldn't normally show in their public lives.
It really depends on you how you take the exposure to these truths and integrate them into your psychology. You can either react to it or you can just try to be understanding about it and be proactive. It's up to you.
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i used to hate men who bought sexual services, but now i feel more compassion for them and feel sorry for them.
my soul isnt dead because i dont overdo it. i think its easier to strip when you dont have to act like a sex addict at all times or super flirty with guys you arent attracted to. some girls do it and it works for them, but i couldnt do it, and i think its why i dont burn out as easily. seriously, it takes a lot of effort to be flirty.
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I have LEARNED a lot from them! Both in my professional and personal lives. It is harder for me to trust men now... Not sure if that is from custies (let me just go outside and call my wife, use this card- my wife doesn't see the statement, etc.) or from my last boyfriend- BLAH!
I think a nasty breakup or divorce could have the same effect. If a woman has a bad run dating jerks, this would likely be more damaging to a woman's view of men vs. guys being jerks in the SC.
Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!




Who were these "certain people"??? Methinks they were not dancers...
All the above are myths. Emily explained things well.
Personally, since dancing I've fallen in love with a wonderful man, I absolutely LOVE the sex we have, my soul is very much alive and thriving, etc.etc. And if it hadn't been for dancing, I would not be going where I am going in my life.
It's a job. You go in, you work, you come home. Don't take anything personally, and don't let being a stripper go to your head. Stay away from drugs and booze and take good care of yourself. Treat yourself with respect, don't take anyone's shit, and you'll be fine.
I believe you can come out of dancing a smarter, stronger person. But you have to be strong and smart in the first place.





i do think that dancing can affect you negatively. i'm not gonna lie.. my sex drive is GONE. and i had a VERY active sex life before that. there is no other reason for it besides having to be sexual for a living.
it isnt all rainbows and roses.




True! I don't know if it was stripping, or just growing up, or both. But I used to put up with all KINDS of ridiculous crap from loser men. Today, I'm much better at recognizing liars, manipulators, players, users, typical "I just want to get in your pants but I'm pretending to be genuine" ploys, etc. And I'm much better at running away ASAP when I see even a small sign of any of that.
I put up with nonsense from men in the club only because I'm getting paid very well for it. Why would I put up with it for free in real life?
Stripping has given me zero patience for asshole men IRL, and I'm grateful for that. And yeah, exposure to 45295234 assholes, in the club and in real life, makes me more grateful for the few truly good men.
~'A Seven Nation Army Couldn't Hold Me Back'~




i've been messed up about guys for a long while and stripping hasn't changed that, for better or worse (i still have the same mentality). i guess i only know because i've had issues before i started stripping. imo either you have men issues or not, and if stripping genuinely changes your view of men, than i personally don't think i could do it. i look (as much as possible) at it as a job, and try not to let things affect me too much in personal life. besides, the guys i mostly encounter (thus far) are guys i wouldn't give the time of day too otc, so the 'relationship' i have with them is never real and thus never plays into my personal life. i don't know, that's honestly how i look at it all and i'm already messed up so stripping hasn't made any more messed up? if that long-ass answer answered what you were looking for...ha



^totally agree on that.
Ditto. It's coming back around now...and it's no coincidence that it's happening along with my decision to dance less and be less of a "Stripper" and more of a girl who strips.
I don't hate men, in fact I find them amusing and entertaining. Kind of like those little monkeys at the zoo that get all excited when you have a shiny object. I have met a man or two who has done something to make me hate him specifically, but I don't hold it against the entire group.
I am in love....so very, head over heels, madly in love. If you decide to not want to fall in love because of something you saw or experienced at the club...well, it's not the clubs doing, it's your decision.
My soul is very much intact thank you. I have yet to hand it over to Satan in return for a great set of knockers that will pay my cable bill.
I dunno, it is what you make of it. I wont lie and say I've never felt down about stripping, or I've never had moments of doubt and pain. But like all things, it's your choice to get up and over it and make into something else.





^i totally agree with all this. especially the part about being a stripper vs a girl who strips. its hard not to take it home with you.. but you have to at least try to make the distinction. my old manager, who i consider a friend as well (which brings me to another point - you have to be very careful about making "friends" in this industry. that can open up a whole nother can of worms.), one time yelled at me for calling myself a stripper instead of a dancer bc he said that very thing - why was i considering myself a stripper? this was just a stepping stone for me. it sounds bad to say.. and i dont think badly of dancing. i wouldnt do it if i thought badly of it. and i do like it. but it has its ups and downs.
i'm just very different now than i was pre-stripping. i'm sure part of that is the fact that i started right before i turned 21 and now i'm about to turn 23.. people change anyway. but i also used to enjoy going out, i never had this kind of crazy anxiety, i was a very social person, and like i already said, i loved sex. now.. ew please dont touch me. i like to cuddle, but i do NOT want sex. i much prefer staying home alone or if i'm being social being at someones house than going out since my job is to BE social. and my anxiety.. i dont want to say it's related. it might or might not be. but it's something that i have now that i didn't have pre-dancing.
i think dancing changes a person. whether it be good, bad, or both, i think it is rare to come out of this industry the same person you were when you started. it just opens your eyes to a lot of things, i think.
i had a customer ask me one time if i hated my customers. absolutely not. theyre in that environment to act the way they act.. it doesnt make them "bad" people any more than it makes strippers "bad." so in no way do i hate men any more than i'd want a man to hate me based on some silly generalization.
it has changed my opinion, but not so much for the worse, im just more aware of how guys think, act and are away from their gfs and around their buddies or alone. i think that could make me a better wife then most women outside the buisness one day. we have some good insight most never get.



We are all so different, and the types of clubs we work in really vary. What might negatively affect one dancer might not at all affect another.
To answer your questions:
A) No problem falling in love. Have been in a great relationship for years now
B) On the whole, still love sex. But I do have gross out/turned off issues when I dance too often or too high contact
C) My soul is doing great, better than ever.
For me, the key has always been moderation. When I dance too much it's not that I hate men, but all of humanity. But that's just me, not all strippers. I would suggest that you're always checking in with yourself and assessing whether you're okay with who you are and where you're at. And if not, figure out how you can change it, don't just stick your head in the sand because the money's good. There are really great guys out there and you can't allow this job to make you lose sight of that. Stripping changes you, but so does living life. The key is to always work to navigate the best for yourself.
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