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    Ok,

    I have a bf whom I love dearly, we've been together for almost 3 yrs and he is an amazing father to my 4yr old). My son has been battling a horrible (what doctors call incurable) cancer since 05. He has to be treated at a hospital in NYC but Miami is home. Of course this puts us at odds finacially, so we decided I'd dance. I did my research and started with my bestfriend of like 17 yrs and so far it has worked out well. I mean what other job would allow for the flexibility my life requires! I am really not ashamed of my job, thanx to stripping I have been able to travel back and forth with my son whenever we get the time off, sometimes just for the weekend.
    So anyway we've (son and I) been in NYC for the last week and a half and I get a phonecall from my bf (and he's really upset) that his cousin may have found out that my bestfriend and I have been dancing. I understand that this is hard for him but I mean I am at the point where I'm like screw them and what they'll think, I am doing this for a great reason but my family doesn't know either so that would be wrong........sigh



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    My boyfriend is from Eastern Europe and his family (particularly his mother) is devout Muslim. We don't have kids yet, but his mother has made it clear how she feels about our lifestyle (us living together, pre-marital) in the last two years that we've be co-hab. My bf asked me a few times if I ever wanted to move up North (Like NH) to be near his family and I have no problem. I told him there's strip clubs everwhere and I could always get a job right off the bat. But he says if we head up there, I could NOT be in the club, because of his mother. So far, she doesn't know I've ever worked in the club, but I don't know how we'd handle it if she found out.
    I personally think that if you're doing everything you can to protect your son, that's the most important thing. But his family may disagree. That's a tough situation, but you're only looking out for your offspring. Maybe you could take time to talk with children's hospitals in the company of your 'in-laws' and show them there are no other options.
    At the end of the day, your family is what is MOST important imho. What happens to you, your bf, and your children should be #1 on your priorities, and what others think should not factor in.

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    Fuck your boyfriends family - the ability stripping gives you to look after your son over rides everything, no ifs no buts! Even if you hated stripping I think it would. Regardless you dont have to answer to them, its none of their business at the end of the day.
    All the best to you and I hope they dont give you anymore greif!

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    ^^ amen to that! Your son is your blood and that's the most important thing in the world. I wouldn't let anyone get in the way of what you need to do that you think is best for him.

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    Default Re: Boyfriend+his family+stripping=trouble

    Quote Originally Posted by MsQwerty View Post
    Fuck your boyfriends family - the ability stripping gives you to look after your son over rides everything, no ifs no buts! Even if you hated stripping I think it would. Regardless you dont have to answer to them, its none of their business at the end of the day.
    All the best to you and I hope they dont give you anymore greif!
    Seriously! Your BF's parents would rather have your son die because you couldn't afford to go to NYC to get him treatment, than to have you dance? If so, fuck them. Hopefully though, they're not actually that cold and unreasonable, and your BF was just worrying too much.

    Best wishes for you and your son. You are obviously an incredibly strong woman and a wonderful mother.
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    Ok first off, i am very sorry to hear what you are going thru.
    If i was going thru that and my boyfriend bothered me with something as petty as his cousin finding out i was a dancer, i think i might seriously kill him!
    U got enough on your mind. Dont even worry about anything other than you and your family.
    Best of luck to you.
    ~jenna~

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    Quote Originally Posted by MsQwerty View Post
    Fuck your boyfriends family - the ability stripping gives you to look after your son over rides everything, no ifs no buts! Even if you hated stripping I think it would. Regardless you dont have to answer to them, its none of their business at the end of the day.
    All the best to you and I hope they dont give you anymore greif!

    I agree with her. Ignore their reactions and give them time. If you flip out, or try to justify it with words, they won't respect you. If you keep handling yourself the way you're now, like a grown woman, they will come around, and they will respect you for all you do.

    I'm so sorry about your child. I hope he recovers soons.

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    Thanks everyone for the support! I guess the conflict is that my bf was against this for years but finally gave in because, well we need the money and he can't get a second job, he already does like 14 hour days. He really is a sweetie and his mom does love my son like a grandson, like your "in-laws" prettycurlieQ she is kinda devout. People just think less of dancers. If it came down to it tho they would just have to understand that I'm doing this for a good reason and its a legal job. Or maybe they'd rather I sold drugs LOL
    My son is a ball of energy and you'd never guess something was going on in his body. Most people say he is the most active kid they've EVER met!
    Last edited by TinaLatina1989; 05-27-2011 at 10:28 PM.



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