
Originally Posted by
The Other Owner
I'm confused about a couple of things.
If he's "medically sterile," by whatever definition, the chance of pregnancy is miniscule. The word "sterile" is pretty harsh.
Did he find out about this in the middle of his last marriage, or know it going in? The reason I ask is to see if perhaps he has a "hope against hope" thing going on, wishing for a miracle baby. Or, alternatively, he's not as "sterile" as that word implies, and he hung in the marriage to see if he could overcome it with time.
It does seem a bit odd that the other marriage broke up over his sterility if both knew about it going in.
Also, it sounds like your friend would really like a child with this man. I guess I would be concerned about her own feelings if that continues to be impossible.
The viability of a miracle baby can be affected by both parents, of course, but if your friend were to become pregnant, she carries far more cards on survivability than he does (chromosomal damage and disease inheritance are his, while that plus all the factors concerning her body as host are hers.)
Anyway, to answer your question, I would wait. The emotions are far too strong and a false positive or an early miscarriage would be inordinately painful to him. Every pregnancy is different, but I would want some sense of viability from a physician before breaking the news to him.
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