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    Default I trusted a "customer". Ouch.

    I swayed away from my rule of generally not getting to know customers outside of the club. I was in a different city working for an extended time, and developed a quick and deep friendship with a customer. Since I really didn't have any friends in the city, I happily agreed to meet him outside the club. I did have my guard up, and didn't include dancing/money exchange/sleeping with him as part of our experience. I decided that would come in the future if it were meant to be. Since he'd met me at the club, I was even more adament about developing friendship FIRST.

    He had some baggage to take care of before I was comfortable moving forward with anything. As for me, I had some myself, as well as a relationship that I'm currently in, but not completely devoted to (obviously). No secret there, but just generally keep the information to myself. But, after meeting pretty often and talking on the phone, etc., I ended up moving back to my own city.

    This guy ended up completely disrespecting my boundaries. Every time I would reach out, it felt like my arm was being yanked off. I truly began to care about this guy, but he ended up suffocating me any time I tried to actually work on our relationship. He started driving to my city, staying the wknd in my city, yet sometimes not even seeing me...no consideration that I may have an opinion about seeing him during the weekend. Instead he'd just barge into my world.

    The red flag, though, was when he ended up reading that I'm a nurse (I'm assuming that was the giveaway), and putting things together on internet sites. Stripperweb being one of them, along with TUSCL (I posted a few times there in the discussion section). He learned things about me (even though I thought I covered my identity well, but see I left clubs where I worked and nursing info) and I feel very violated. He'd found the location where I grew up (150 miles away from my current living), and sent flowers at Christmas to my home. At the time, I tried to overlook that. Anyone could do a background check and find that kind of info, and he was really trying to be nice and reach out, as I gave him credit. He wanted to be a part during Christmas, but hey, he ended up visiting a tourist site about 20 miles from my hometown that very Christmas weekend too...though he was probably 350 miles+ from his home.

    I wonder what else he's done to violate me that I don't know about. I mean, I know about these things. I feel pretty dumb, and actually sad about the whole situation.

    I usually think of myself as very careful and thoughful about people. I saw the good in this extremely "nice" guy, and chose to make him a friend (and I give my friends the benefit of the doubt by trusting them). I closed all ties to the club with him, and put that behind us. That was a mistake.

    I just wanted to share this with others as a reminder that you can do all the right things regarding establishing a "true" relationship with a customer (OTC), and it still might turn into a nightmare. I firmly believe that it's best to keep business where it belongs, and if you are open to meeting OTC, save yourself the pain, and keep that business too if you are so inclined to do that kind of thing. Just my perspective.

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    Default Re: I trusted a "customer". Ouch.

    Sounds like a tough lesson. Hope it gets better for you.
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    Yeouch! Sorry to hear about that horrible experience.
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    Been there...A wise young male customer pointed out to me that SCs attract a lot of of sub-par "Dom" wannabe dudes. & Men with a lack of intuition about boundaries.

    (There are lots of women like that too, I'm just addressing this case.)

    Lesson learned.

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    keep your eyes peeled in case it escalates.

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    Yes watch your back. He could be a total lunatic. He sounds as though he all ready has some mentally unstable qualities by delving into your personal life
    far too closely. He sounds like a wolf in sheeps clothing.
    Whenever a customer asks you out, all ways say " I leave the business at the door". That was my policy for my three year stint in the exotic dancing field.

    I slipped once for a very handsome Austrian. He was not a dangerous creep, but in the end I realized he was a total asshole with no respect for women (duh) Not worth the time. I got burnt by that and never tried it again.

    He could really be harmless, just nosy , intrusive, and obsessive. All though don't dismiss the possibility that he could be harmful.

    Take care.

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    Some people just gave to learn the hard way. Take what you now know and move forward. Use it if and when you are tempted to trust a customer again. And yes keep your eyes and ears open in case he gets crazy on you.

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    Default Re: I trusted a "customer". Ouch.

    ^ not ALL customers are bad, although I wouldn't trust 90% of them. Still, they're not ALL horrible human beings unworthy of trust.

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    Default Re: I trusted a "customer". Ouch.

    Thank you all for your thoughtful replies. Every interaction is unique, and I'm sure that some amazing relationships have started in SCs, but I just wanted to partially vent as well as hear different perspectives about my situation. Things sometimes look differently when written/when others point out their views. So, thanks to you all. You're great.

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    Becareful hon, if you live alone.

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