I have no desire whatsoever to buy a LD from you -regardless of how HOT you are and how much I want you...
I LOVE watching you dance on stage though... and I am happy to keep the dollars coming at you for that...
Is this wrong? Do you hate me?
I have no desire whatsoever to buy a LD from you -regardless of how HOT you are and how much I want you...
I LOVE watching you dance on stage though... and I am happy to keep the dollars coming at you for that...
Is this wrong? Do you hate me?





^what she said.
it also depends on a lot of other things, like your behavior when tipping, when dancers approach you, etc. too many factors and not enough info to really give you an idea thus far.
Okay... so what would you consider acceptable and pleasing?



lol do you hate us for trying to get a LD out of ya?
You should get a t-shirt that says in big bold letters: Stage Tipper Only
And yeah, keep those $$ coming!
No, I'm totally cool with you trying to go for the LD -I get that it's your job.
I sometimes even "give in" because of that!
So never stop asking ;-)
I'm very much like you in that when I go to a SC I prefer to spend my $$ on girls who are great entertainers.
When I'm sitting at a tip rail it's always at least $1 per song for each dancer who takes the stage. Then from there, I'll tip more at my own discretion from $5 to several $100's.
Of course the larger the stage tip, the more likely a dancer will think that you're sending her a signal that you wish to get a dance from her. If a dancer should come calling I always politely decline and let her know that I'm only there for the stage show but that I'll be sure to tip her when she's on stage.
I've had more than my fair share of curious looks from dancers who could not figure out why I would tip them so much on stage and NOT want a private dance. Several times I've even had dancers offer to give me free dances because they felt some kind of obligation after I tipped them so well on stage. Kind of funny.
In gereral I find that too many dancers are now focused on LD's as their primary source of income, and their stage performance is just an after thought. Oh well.
If you can't win. Make the fellow in front of you break the record.
Well, I come from an area where stage is still a much bigger deal. People actually do sit at the rack and tip here, so my input maybe different than someone else's. As for how you should behave, here it is:
1)If you're watching, tip at least a dollar per song. Never EVER try to tip less than that. It's already a more than fair price for having a beautiful woman dance seductively for you, don't insult me by acting as if I'm not worth the minimum.
2) If you're the only one tipping, and you're only tipping the minimum, don't be pissed if I don't get fully nude. I'm happy to dance naked but if there's 10 guys watching me and only one who gives me $3 for 3 songs, I'd be shooting myself in the foot to let them think they can all get a free show. We don't sell as many air dances here and stage is an important portion of my earnings. If you want to be assured of seeing nudity, that's what the private shows are for.
3) Don't tell me what to do on stage. This is my show, I will not take kindly to having orders barked at me.
4) Don't tell me to "work for the dollar" or hold onto it as if evaluating if I am worth it. Just put down the dollar at the beginning of the song, sit back, and enjoy the show.
5) don't try to touch or grab me.


I had a guy last night OBVIOUSLY enjoying my stage show, but only tipping minimum. When I asked for the dance, he said "oh, I NEVER buy lap dances". (and he proved it by not buying a dance from anyone all night, but continuing to tip $1 each time I came on stage) That's irritating. If he was dropping $5 or more per song, I wouldn't mind.





it works better if you first tell us how much you generally tip and how you go about it.
to give an example: if you're sitting stage side and tipping a dollar every song, chances are the girls don't exactly love you. if you're holding back the dollar till the girl "works for it" chances are, they hate you.
but that's only one example on the more obnoxious side. if you tell us your habits, it's easy to say how we'd feel about it.





thank god there are still guys who appreciate it. that is, if you mean actual dancing and not just "spread-the-legs".
i do a more burlesque/pin-up style of dancing, (we don't have a pole) and most of the time guys are just like "why aren't you spreading your legs" lol ....... but i do also get tips from guys who compliment my dancing/style... and when i do it tends to be decent.





yeah. it's really frustrating when you have a guy sitting there, obviously enjoying it, giving you a ton of compliments, and then he hands you a dollar bill after 3 songs of you busting your ass. then you go up to him afterwards and he's all "i don't get dances but omg you were great on stage"
*sigh*
it's like, thanx, but i could have waited your table at chilis for more.
It doesn't really bother me if a guy tells me that he doesn't buy LD, because now I know what I can and can't expect from him. It saves me time so I can go on to the next guy who will. But, if you don't buy LD, you can't be upset that I won't give you much of my time besides the stage & a, "Hi, good to see you again!" That's only because my time is money & I need to spend time finding those that do want LD. Other than that, I actually think is respectful of the customer to let me know up front that he just doesn't do LD. Big time saver.





There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.
Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.




What the other girls said. Also, if someone asks for a dance, just say "no thanks". Not "maybe later" or anything like that. I won't cut my wrists later that night because you rejected me, I promise. Just say "no thanks" so I can focus on other customers.
$1 per song is acceptable but if you enjoy a girl's show please for the love of god tip more.
^Some guys will tip during the first song, say, a dollar, and then not during the next, even though they're at the rail.
Though yes, some douches do try to tip in change. Mostly 20somethings.
ETA: A five is better. Think of how many ones we have to cram into our rubberband&garter/purse/locker and you'll understand why. Also there's having to take time to go cash out when I get too many to carry. Anything that saves me time is more time I could be naked on someones lap! I always appreciate the $$ though.
Take the number of customers in the room, divide by two. With the appropriate amount of alchohol/peer pressure that half will engage in at least one of those activities.





^definitely. i get at LEAST one "work for this dollar" guy a shift. what amazes me, is that when i completely ignore them, a lot of the times they start screaming at me. "HEY. HEY. COME HERE" as if the problem was that i didn't fucking SEE them.
but no. if you stand/sit there and hold a 1 dollar bill to your chest like it's the holy grail, while making some face you THINK is sly/playfull at me... i will not go over to you. i just won't.
and if i go up to you because you're holding money out, and then you pull it back toward you when i get there, i am instantly turning back around and going to the furthest side of the stage from you.
it's my job, not a game, and i find it offensive when someone treats it that way.
^These men are also known as the "That's it?" guys.
Do a show. Wait for dollar.
Idiot says "That's it?"
Yeah. It's a dollar. You're not gonna get a full song on stage for that.





^ my response to "that's it?" is (pointing at dollar) "that's it?"
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