Well? It sucks.




Find a new boyfriend.
Really though, if he's not paying the bills. Did he know you danced when you started dating?
Get rid of him. This BS might impact your money.




Talk about why he hates it first. If his reasons are bs, get a new boyfriend. If his reasons are legit, sit down and discuss them further and try to work something out. If nothing works, decide which you like more, your bf or dancing.




HA! What do I do? Break up with him and get my ass back to work! All that time I spend listening to him bitch and moan could be time spent making money to go towards MY future. Unless he puts a ring on your finger and starts writing all the checks, he has no room to complain. Just my $0.02
The last boyfriend I ever had was like this, so I dumped him.
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"SS=stripper shit, in the same spectrum as CS=customer shit, which is within the spectrum of SaS=sales shit, which is all contained in the universe of BS=bullshit." -- Jay Zeno (mod)
"Show me a hot chick and I'll show you someone who's tired of fucking her."





Liz you've been dancing long enough to answer this... yeah?
You need to make a choice. Unsupportive BF, or good job? Seems easy. A better one will come along and then you can have your cake and eat it too.




Shit, my ex use to say things like "Showing your body to other guys other than myself, it's degrading your body and everyone's going to see what I'm only suppose to be seeing, blah blah blah blah......"
SCREW HIM.
If he's holding you back when you guys aren't even MARRIED yet than forget him.
YOU do what YOU want.
Chances are he's going to hate it. It's just one of those jobs that's not going to be liked. If he does, it's almost creepy.
But it can work both ways and women have coped for years. It's like, guys who work a lot of hours, or travel a lot for work, or maybe are in the military. I'm sure their SOs don't like it, but they deal.
So hopefully he can.
It's a fine line. You don't want them to like it, but you don't want them to give you shit about it either. I've had long periods of being single because I always choose the job over them. There is no guy that's more important that my financial independence and freedom.





My thoughts exactly. My boyfriend dislikes it, as did the guy I dated before. But they get that I do it for the money, flexibility, etc. They understand WHY I do it, and just let me make my own decisions. That's got to be the ideal, I think. No one wants to date a stripper fetishist.
I got dumped because of stripping for the first time a couple of weeks ago (ironically, while I was on hiatus from it anyway). At the very least, he figured out pretty quickly that he wasn't going to be able to handle it, instead of waiting until we were together a while, giving it time to stew, and then calling me nasty names.
It was pointed out to me that a guy who has a problem with other guys looking at his girl shouldn't even be trying to date ANY hot chicks, strippers or not.
I can't imagine tolerating a partner with an attitude about stripping. My husband literally doesn't think of my job any differently than if I worked at a bakery or at a bank or drove a bus. Well, if I drove a bus he'd be be super, super scared. And rightfully so.





Aha! Is this why I haven't heard hide nor hair from you?
You know what I have to say about this.
PS you pawn my sprayer or what?




I've dealt with this for years. I met my on again off again boyfriend through a dancer friend. So obviously he knew. He acted cool with it for a year and then blew up, had a breakdown, moved out. Then we started seeing each other he deals with it for a while then again he blows up freaks out again. Now he says I can't dance anymore if I want to be with him. Ha! He will deal with it again if I decide to go back. I haven't been working for a little over a month but it is time to go back. He says he just doesn't want to hear about it. I'm not going to stop until I find something better which hasn't happened yet. But if it's him or the job, unless he had something to compensate for the financial loss I would experience then it's probably him. He is the love of my life but I don't like being poor. He says he loves me and would struggle with me if we had to but I don't like to struggle. Even when I am dancing and living with him we still struggle somewhat because he has two kids and we always try to do the best for them with camps, tutoring, good schools,outings and such.So honestly I don't know how we would survive with me working retail or waitressing. IDK though I hope he really doesn't make me choose. I keep putting him off saying I will quit then not doing it. I hate when he makes me lie to him.
Aut Pax Aut Bellum
Either Peace Or War





I break up with him.
Seriously a man that doesn't want me to eat and have a good fufilled life can fuck himself, 'cause I ain't doin it.
Look like a woman
Think like a man
Act like a lady
Work like a dog
- My Great Grandmother Bessie's Recipe for Success




I just started dancing - but before deciding to do so, my husband and I spent several hours sitting down together and talking about the pros/cons of me dancing. It really helped (both of us). My first 2 shifts, when I get home, we sit down and talk more. I tell him about my day and everything that happened. We are super open and he trusts me. It's win-win, so far.
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ummm.. do it anyways.





There are many stereotypes about the industry that I work in. Sometimes they can be true but human beings are very diverse creatures and cannot be pigeon-holed into one category.
Some of the most effortlessly beautiful, kind, intelligent, successful, motivated, driven and ridiculously hilarious women that I have ever met have been dancers. I've met the best friends that I've ever had in this industry.





I don't think he can complain even IF he writes all the checks and gives me some silly ring.
Look like a woman
Think like a man
Act like a lady
Work like a dog
- My Great Grandmother Bessie's Recipe for Success





^True lol..but it can give him a little bit of leverage.
Some Douchebag: "[Pimp C] 12:43 am: its true we got to stick together the black people on SW CK you is teh condoleeza of SW"
I could never be with a man that jealous or possessive.
good luck with whatever you choose.
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