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    Well? It sucks.
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    Default Re: whaddya do when your BF hates you stripping?

    Why does he hate it? There's a difference between a bf concerned for you safety and a bf that's jealous/doesn't trust you.
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    Default Re: whaddya do when your BF hates you stripping?

    Find a new boyfriend.

    Really though, if he's not paying the bills. Did he know you danced when you started dating?

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    Get rid of him. This BS might impact your money.

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    Default Re: whaddya do when your BF hates you stripping?

    Talk about why he hates it first. If his reasons are bs, get a new boyfriend. If his reasons are legit, sit down and discuss them further and try to work something out. If nothing works, decide which you like more, your bf or dancing.

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    HA! What do I do? Break up with him and get my ass back to work! All that time I spend listening to him bitch and moan could be time spent making money to go towards MY future. Unless he puts a ring on your finger and starts writing all the checks, he has no room to complain. Just my $0.02
    The last boyfriend I ever had was like this, so I dumped him.
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    Default Re: whaddya do when your BF hates you stripping?

    Liz you've been dancing long enough to answer this... yeah?

    You need to make a choice. Unsupportive BF, or good job? Seems easy. A better one will come along and then you can have your cake and eat it too.

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    Default Re: whaddya do when your BF hates you stripping?

    Shit, my ex use to say things like "Showing your body to other guys other than myself, it's degrading your body and everyone's going to see what I'm only suppose to be seeing, blah blah blah blah......"

    SCREW HIM.
    If he's holding you back when you guys aren't even MARRIED yet than forget him.

    YOU do what YOU want.

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    Chances are he's going to hate it. It's just one of those jobs that's not going to be liked. If he does, it's almost creepy.

    But it can work both ways and women have coped for years. It's like, guys who work a lot of hours, or travel a lot for work, or maybe are in the military. I'm sure their SOs don't like it, but they deal.

    So hopefully he can.

    It's a fine line. You don't want them to like it, but you don't want them to give you shit about it either. I've had long periods of being single because I always choose the job over them. There is no guy that's more important that my financial independence and freedom.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily View Post
    Chances are he's going to hate it. It's just one of those jobs that's not going to be liked. If he does, it's almost creepy.

    It's a fine line. You don't want them to like it, but you don't want them to give you shit about it either. I've had long periods of being single because I always choose the job over them. There is no guy that's more important that my financial independence and freedom.
    My thoughts exactly. My boyfriend dislikes it, as did the guy I dated before. But they get that I do it for the money, flexibility, etc. They understand WHY I do it, and just let me make my own decisions. That's got to be the ideal, I think. No one wants to date a stripper fetishist.

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    Default Re: whaddya do when your BF hates you stripping?

    I got dumped because of stripping for the first time a couple of weeks ago (ironically, while I was on hiatus from it anyway). At the very least, he figured out pretty quickly that he wasn't going to be able to handle it, instead of waiting until we were together a while, giving it time to stew, and then calling me nasty names.

    It was pointed out to me that a guy who has a problem with other guys looking at his girl shouldn't even be trying to date ANY hot chicks, strippers or not.

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    I can't imagine tolerating a partner with an attitude about stripping. My husband literally doesn't think of my job any differently than if I worked at a bakery or at a bank or drove a bus. Well, if I drove a bus he'd be be super, super scared. And rightfully so.

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    Aha! Is this why I haven't heard hide nor hair from you?

    You know what I have to say about this.

    PS you pawn my sprayer or what?

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    I've dealt with this for years. I met my on again off again boyfriend through a dancer friend. So obviously he knew. He acted cool with it for a year and then blew up, had a breakdown, moved out. Then we started seeing each other he deals with it for a while then again he blows up freaks out again. Now he says I can't dance anymore if I want to be with him. Ha! He will deal with it again if I decide to go back. I haven't been working for a little over a month but it is time to go back. He says he just doesn't want to hear about it. I'm not going to stop until I find something better which hasn't happened yet. But if it's him or the job, unless he had something to compensate for the financial loss I would experience then it's probably him. He is the love of my life but I don't like being poor. He says he loves me and would struggle with me if we had to but I don't like to struggle. Even when I am dancing and living with him we still struggle somewhat because he has two kids and we always try to do the best for them with camps, tutoring, good schools,outings and such.So honestly I don't know how we would survive with me working retail or waitressing. IDK though I hope he really doesn't make me choose. I keep putting him off saying I will quit then not doing it. I hate when he makes me lie to him.
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    Quote Originally Posted by madmaxine View Post
    Get rid of him. This BS might impact your money.
    ...and it will definitely impact your sanity.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily View Post
    There is no guy that's more important that my financial independence and freedom.
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    I break up with him.

    Seriously a man that doesn't want me to eat and have a good fufilled life can fuck himself, 'cause I ain't doin it.


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    I just started dancing - but before deciding to do so, my husband and I spent several hours sitting down together and talking about the pros/cons of me dancing. It really helped (both of us). My first 2 shifts, when I get home, we sit down and talk more. I tell him about my day and everything that happened. We are super open and he trusts me. It's win-win, so far.
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    ummm.. do it anyways.




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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily View Post
    Chances are he's going to hate it. It's just one of those jobs that's not going to be liked. If he does, it's almost creepy.

    But it can work both ways and women have coped for years. It's like, guys who work a lot of hours, or travel a lot for work, or maybe are in the military. I'm sure their SOs don't like it, but they deal.

    So hopefully he can.

    It's a fine line. You don't want them to like it, but you don't want them to give you shit about it either. I've had long periods of being single because I always choose the job over them. There is no guy that's more important that my financial independence and freedom.

    Totally agree here. I wouldnt wanna date a guy who was really into me stripping just like i wouldnt wanna date a guy who was into me sleeping with other guys etc.
    This is good advise.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Dottie Rebel View Post
    I can't imagine tolerating a partner with an attitude about stripping. My husband literally doesn't think of my job any differently than if I worked at a bakery or at a bank or drove a bus.
    Same here. K knows it's a job like any other job and it has no bearing whatsoever on our relationship. If I'm happy, he's happy. I can't imagine what it would be like to live with someone who thought less of me because of my job... flat out, I just wouldn't.

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    Quote Originally Posted by vivianbear View Post
    HA! What do I do? Break up with him and get my ass back to work! All that time I spend listening to him bitch and moan could be time spent making money to go towards MY future. Unless he puts a ring on your finger and starts writing all the checks, he has no room to complain. Just my $0.02
    The last boyfriend I ever had was like this, so I dumped him. I found a guy who supports what I do and is proud of me in every way. We've been married almost a year!
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    I don't think he can complain even IF he writes all the checks and gives me some silly ring.


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    ^True lol..but it can give him a little bit of leverage.







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    I could never be with a man that jealous or possessive.

    good luck with whatever you choose.

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