A custie of mine just sent me a message about a new job he is applying for at a local university. It would be with my father. He has no idea my dad works there =oO I'm not talking just the same university.......... like same job!





A custie of mine just sent me a message about a new job he is applying for at a local university. It would be with my father. He has no idea my dad works there =oO I'm not talking just the same university.......... like same job!





That's ok. I strongly doubt the idea of your custie visiting stripclubs will come up. He will have no way of knowing the guy he works with is your day..Unless, your customer knows your last name...
Some Douchebag: "[Pimp C] 12:43 am: its true we got to stick together the black people on SW CK you is teh condoleeza of SW"



Are you out of the stripper closet newmoon?
Even if the talk of strip clubs comes up he probably wont identify u specifically enough for your dad to realize its u




He doesn't know your real name, does he? Especially your last name?
~'A Seven Nation Army Couldn't Hold Me Back'~


I think customers are more understanding about privacy issues than we might give them credit for. If this guy is any bit of a regular, he's going to keep your secret. It might even increase your business connection if you guys have this very taboo secret. I'd just approach him first, so he doesn't see pics of you on your dad's desk or something and react without thinking. I always believe in being proactive about these kinds of things. Good luck.



^^^ yeah, it could make it even more tabooand taboo = turn on... and turn on = $$$!!! Guys LOVE having naughty little secrets
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Heck no! I would never do such a thing. Who knows how deep ie. infactuated w/ NewMoon this guy could become. For all we know, he could use the fact that he knows NewMoons dad to brib her to meet him OTC or who knows what else. I'm just an overly cautious person. I like to think of the worst possible scenario.
Some Douchebag: "[Pimp C] 12:43 am: its true we got to stick together the black people on SW CK you is teh condoleeza of SW"




I wouldn't tell the customer what's up, because what if things go south with him one day? You know regulars have a shelf life, and when the time is up (usually when they start pushing hard for OTC), things could end badly. The last thing you want is for this customer to hold your secret over your head if things do to bad down the road.
If your dad does have a pic of you at work and your customer ever mentions it, "huh, she really looks just like me? That's weird."
~'A Seven Nation Army Couldn't Hold Me Back'~
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Yeah even if her dad does have a pic of her on his desk, no way is the custie going to have the balls to say to her father "I got a lapdance from your daughter."
No way!
let's just hope your dad doesn't frequent clubs. So he doesn't invite him after work to chill. keep an eye out, so incase he does come in. all i can say is pray... and like above "deny deny deny"
(i'm the type of person who has bad luck)





He knows my full real name but he's been my regular for like 9 months and I do trust him. He has been going to my club for more than 10 years and the other dancers and managers gave me good "references".
I am out of the stripper closet but I don't want my dad to meet a custie of mine.




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I met a guy who worked with my father in law, like somehow it came up in conversation , but I didnt tell him that it was my father in law. Then like a month later this guy invites my fil and family on a fishing trip and I told my in-laws why we couldn't go, they thought it was hilarious. They were asking all these questions like "did he try to touch you?" it was funny.





Some Douchebag: "[Pimp C] 12:43 am: its true we got to stick together the black people on SW CK you is teh condoleeza of SW"





I figured I would get heck for that but I have no problem with it on a very rare occassion. It's been 8 months and I'm happy with my choice.





Some Douchebag: "[Pimp C] 12:43 am: its true we got to stick together the black people on SW CK you is teh condoleeza of SW"
CK is so very right, I wont lecture or scold you either, but please please remember that ANY guy has potential to be psycho.
Back to the issue here though, it seems as though, if the club has seen him around for such a long time, then he is comfortable there, which means he most likely wouldn't do anything to ruin his little "sanctuary" so to speak.
I still wouldn't confront him about it, I would just let it run it's course, and if one day he does connect all the dots, act as if you truly don't care, that it's no big deal...but maybe that you're daddy's little girl, and talking to his boss about his daughter is a sure fire way to get your ass canned.![]()
Then cross your fingers, say a little prayer and hope that this guy is not a nutjob way deep down. Ya know, some of the most famous serial killers were "the nicest guy in our neighborhood!".





I may be knew to dancing but I am definitely not new at protecting myself and I still defend my choice. His other "fave" girl has been dancing for 5+ years and he knows her real name as well and hasn't bothered her in those many years.
And I certainly don't condone this on a regular basis. It's something I've done ONCE in my dancing career.
Also, I don't like being told that the reason I think it's fine I did something is because "I haven't been dancing a year" yet as if I will somehow mature to be in agreement with you. There is a lot I don't know but there is a lot I know as well and I'm happy with my one-time choice to add a regular on facebook.





Look, like i said, I am not trying to scold you. You know what, as much as you may not want to believe it..you will "mature" in agreement with me and the other veteran dancers on this that you should never be giving out your real name to a customer. It's just dangerous! Yea, he may have another regular girl that he's been seeing for 5+years. But, you have no idea how he feels about YOU!
I also dont' understand..if you're happy with your choice for him to know your first and last name, then why is it having so nervous about him working with your father?
Like I said, I'm not trying to scold you. But I really doubt many, if anyone here is going to be in agreement with you giving out personal information like this. The world is a dangerous place that's filled with all kinds of people.
Some Douchebag: "[Pimp C] 12:43 am: its true we got to stick together the black people on SW CK you is teh condoleeza of SW"





I wouldn't say I am nervous about him working with my father, it's more that I don't like the idea of my two worlds colliding.
I don't expect people to be in agreement with me because they don't know my circumstances or the situation and as a general principle, I most definitely agee it is not good to give out personal information and I don't see it happening again in the near future.
When I was a teenager, people would tell me "oh, you think that because you are 14. Wait till you grow up and go to university." I never appreciated it and as a result, I am much more respectful towards young people, mostly my piano students. I never belittle their opinions by bringing their age into it.
Likewise, I don't mind people disagreeing with my opinions but I hate them being belittled by virtue of the fact that I have been dancing 9 months. If you disagree with me TELL ME WHY. If you have a strong argument, there is no reason to bring my experience into it. This is one thing I will remember when I am a more experienced dancer. I will be more respectful to the newer girls and their opinions.
Okay, here's why; the kind of guy that has been coming regularly to the same strip club for that many years, raises an eyebrow in my opinion as it is. Sure he's a nice guy...but...there's a quirk there. Secondly, he may have met girl after girl after girl, but it only takes one girl to strike an interest in him and causes him to do something he wouldn't normally do.
As well as you think you know him, you don't know him...you don't know if he's the kind of guy to go hoime and draw detailed pictures of all the girls he's in love with at the club, hang them over his bed and profess his undying devotion by way of the solitary handshake night after night. You don't know if he's got a collection of all your hair that you leave behind after a dance to save for later use. You. Don't. Know. Him.
All you do know is that some guy has been coming to the same damn strip club for 10 years or so, knows all the dancers, is there all the time and now works with your father.
Better safe than sorry I say. But, you're a big girl, you can do what you want. When we express concern here and say that down the road you will understand, it may just be because that's exactly what will happen.
My regular for 3 years, nicest guy I knew, great friends, laughed all the time, never hit on me, paid me well, talked about his "personal life" etc...great guy. One night he slips something in my drink. That really nice guy I knew turned into a monster in the blink of an eye.
But it wont happen to you. It couldn't. You know this guy too well.





The quirk side is that he is disabled and that, sadly, kills his dating life. He doesn't even want lapdancing. He is a pay to talk and cuddle guy.
I'm not saying something bad couldn't happen. It's possible. But life is full of risks and this was one risk I was willing to take.
Nonetheless, I respect your opinion and I'm sorry that happened to you.





Well, he's just applying right? He hasn't got the job yet, as I understand it. Maybe cross your fingers he doesn't get it?
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