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    Default I'm trying to prevent major drama, please help!

    So, I'm moving in with a guy I met in a class last fall. I've always gotten along better with guys than women, so the guy I'm seeing didn't see anything wierd with it. I didn't see anything weird with it.

    well, The guy I'm supposed to move in with, we'll call him "S", and I have already signed our lease and put both of our names on it. Move in date is Aug 15. He informed me today that he ha snot told his girlfriend yet. I've never met her, and she knows nothing about me. I said I could avoid meeting her, and he could tell her whatever he wanted, but he thinks it's important that I meet her.

    I know she's going to freak out, otherwise he'd have already told her and he wouldn't have been so sneaky about it. We've both already signed the lease and I really don't want a whole year of drama with her.

    How can I minimize her freakout or prevent it alltogether?
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    Default Re: I'm trying to prevent major drama, please help!

    I'd just try to be super cool with her and maybe bring your bf when you meet her. Does the guy your seeing get along good with the guy that your moving in with? If so then you can try and catch some girl time with her while the boys chat... if you can build a rapport with her it'll make things a lot easier.

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    The guy I'm seeing is just for fun, nothing serious, even though he wants to be serious ( I don't at all), but the two guys do know each other. I guess I could leave one with the other. Although S thinks the guy I'm seeing is stuck up.
    " Remember during each test there is some girl in Australia jealous of you who wants to do what you're doing."- Lilithmorrigan

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    Shopping and Fucking? Life is short, but youth is shorter. Ride the wheels off, I say." - FeministStripper

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    What happened to the dude with the hairy arms? =)

    hehe

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    Well i think it's just important for her to see that your not interested in her man and that her man isn't interested in you! Any guy you can bring around that would help support that with her would be good i think... Maybe even meeting her at a party or something would help make it less awkward..?

    And another thing I know this may sound weird... but I wouldn't get too dressed up when I first meet her either... you know like keep it low key as much as possible. It's hard sometimes to remember that we are dancers and we can be intimidating to a lot of girls that aren't. And even still... the less she sees you as competition the better.... which means I would skip the eyeliner and make myself as mousy as possible I know that probably seems weird.

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    I like the typo you made - I began to read it as if you were referring to her as "He Ha Snot"

    I would just act totally normally like the situation is just the most normal thing in the world - its not exactly abnormal.
    If she has a problem its her problem - leave her to it. If youre not interested in her boyfriend youre not interested, end of story. They need to work out their own problems without dragging innocents into it (-:

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    ^^^ I was actually thinking that myself. I was thinking no make-up and sweat pants, but all the sweat pants I have are form fitting an dI have an awsome ass if I do say so myself.


    Madcap Lol, you are too funny. I've missed talking to you.
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    MsQwerty, my last post was ment for the poster above, you posted before I sent mine. Anyway, yeah that's a good point. "He ha snot" sorry, I type with two fingers, that happens sometimes
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    It may not even be an issue. She may just dump him and not deal with it. It's what I would do.

    ETA - Before someone jumps me for being unreasonable, I would dump the guy for not telling me asap, not for having a female roomate. Also, I really don't give a shit if anyone thinks I'm unreasonable.

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    Quote Originally Posted by princessparis View Post
    And another thing I know this may sound weird... but I wouldn't get too dressed up when I first meet her either... you know like keep it low key as much as possible. It's hard sometimes to remember that we are dancers and we can be intimidating to a lot of girls that aren't. And even still... the less she sees you as competition the better.... which means I would skip the eyeliner and make myself as mousy as possible I know that probably seems weird.

    You took the words right out of my mouth If you're just wearing some shorts and a t-shirt, hair in a ponytail and no makeup then she won't feel (as) threatened. Good luck, I hate catty girls.. but who knows? Maybe she'll be cool and not care.

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    That guy is being such a pussy about the whole thing, and there's totally gonna be drama. Hopefully she's cool after all.

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    My bf lived with TWO girls at one time. When I met them they were in their rooms looking all ratty (messy hair, no make up, pj's) and watching t.v. and generally seeming uninterested. When I met them they were like "hey" and answered whatever stuff my bf was talking about. Just seem into your own stuff.

    Trying to become friends right off the bat could seem kind of weird for the girlfriend if she's possessive. If you want to talk to her do it while you're making food or go to their room to share something funny you found or something.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jasmine View Post
    It may not even be an issue. She may just dump him and not deal with it. It's what I would do.

    ETA - Before someone jumps me for being unreasonable, I would dump the guy for not telling me asap, not for having a female roomate. Also, I really don't give a shit if anyone thinks I'm unreasonable.
    Yeah I would guess that they already have issues if he's moving in with another chick and afraid to tell her.

    I'd bring your bf as others said JUST to show you have a man and dont want hers. Also tell her that she's welcome in your home whenever(as long as she isnt a bitch and doesnt move in there!). That you are usually working or with your bf or friends so you arent there all the time anyway.

    Maybe try to bond with her a bit by asking if her bf has any bad living habits you should know about...like being messy or leaving the toilet seat up! Even if you already know...dishing about him may make her more comfortable!

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    I'd follow all the above advice:
    Don't get dolled up
    Put your hair in a ponytail..try to look a bit sloppy but put together. YOu don't need those sex kitten hairs of yours floating about all sexy. LOL
    And take a guy with you. Even if he's just your man whore...I'd bring him. She'd feel a lot less intimidated.
    Meh...maybe he waited cause he knew she'd be cool with ? Just trying to think positive here. Maybe you could end up with a cool friend. Gotta think positive about these things, even though it's terribly hard!
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    ^Yep. All of that.

    And my gut tells me he didn't bring it up to her because he KNEW she'd freak out. I mean, at what point when a guy is dating a girl does he just "forget" to tell her "Oh, hey babe, I'm moving in with this cool chick. Don't worry, we're just friends, she's this really cool hot stripper, but it's chill." ACK!

    Just be yourself and tone down your hotness. And def. bing a guy along...even if it's your boy toy...




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    I haven't read the whole thread to see if this advice was given but:

    1) Meet her with your boyfriend.
    2) Don't wear makeup, jewellery, revealing clothes, ect. Look like a plain jane.

    Then you will seem way less threatening.

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    There's really nothing magical you're going to be able to do. If she's the type of girl to cause drama about it, she's going to do it. Hopefully the drama will just involve her pussy bf and not you. It would help if you two were able to click, but even then... Gosh, and when she finds out about the stripping... Not many girls outside of the industry would be cool with that. Make it clear with your future roomie that if she causes drama to keep it away from you.
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