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    Is anyone out there one?

    What are the realities of going to Vegas for a bit to work and bringing a kid along? esp. a very very little one?

    I really wanted to go to Vegas before i got pregnant and I've got to say I still want to go, but of course I'd have to bring my little one so is it out of the question?

    I don't want to live there, i just want to go and work for 3-6 months until his dad comes home from Iraq...

    Are there any good late night child care services? Is it safe?
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    try sittercity.com its expensive but you can find child care anywhere in the us!

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    We'll go to Vegas together with our little ones, find kick-ass sitters, and BANK! Hahaha Just give me a year or two to actually figure out what the HELL I'm doing! (lol, I'm so kidding on this one!)
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    I think it depends on your personal comfort level with it. Do you know someone there - friends or family? Is there a major reason you want to go now?

    I personally wouldn't because I would be wary of going to a relatively unfamiliar place - especially with an infant. God forbid something went worng and I was stuck there or if I was laid up in a hospital, etc, etc.

    I would wait and go for a week alone.

    But if you really want to go you can always find a sitter or a nanny. They can be expensive though. Just make sure it is worth going in the first place. Make sure your family know where you are at all times. I am not saying Vegas is comparable to a demilitarized zone but crime is pretty heavy there. Make sure you have thought everything through before you make the decision to travel with a young one.

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    I don't have any children, but paying for a nanny or babysitter is a lot of overhead in addition to everything else for someone totally new to Vegas and it's hustling style.

    I do work with a lot of working Moms but they LIVE in Vegas and are part of the community so their children have stable loving homes that's not transient.

    Las Vegas is not children friendly at all and I would never bring my child there while I worked. For that matter I would never bring my child on the road with me while I worked at any age but especially not a newborn. Children need to be nurtured in a stable loving environment, not amongst strangers in an adult oriented city, while you fulfill your dancing dream

    I understand that you always wanted to go and then you got pregnant but being a good Mom means prioritizing your goals so that your child has the best life possible. You haven't even given birth yet? Your life is about to dramatically change and you should be focusing on that rather than planning dancing trips. Which is why I choose to not have children because I'm too selfish to give all that up.

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    ^ I couldn't have said it better.

    After reading all of your posts, though...I am really wondering if you are even ready for the demands and responsibilities of being a mom...

    Here's to hoping things will change after baby is born.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VenusGoddess View Post
    ^ I couldn't have said it better.

    After reading all of your posts, though...I am really wondering if you are even ready for the demands and responsibilities of being a mom...

    Here's to hoping things will change after baby is born.
    That's really harsh. She's young and going through a lot of emotions with her pregnancy. IMO, that's completely normal. A lot of women feel miserable when they are pregnant, and it is hard for them to imagine what their life will be like with a baby. They want the child, but at the same time they want to retain something of the life they had before. It isn't until after they have the baby that they understand all the ways having a child changes your life.

    I know this because I was the same way as a young mom. I was unhappy with the father, but afraid to leave him and be alone. And I was scared that I wouldn't ever get to fulfill the dreams I had before getting pregnant (some I did, others I didn't). That's what this thread seems like to me, more than an actual plan to run off to Las Vegas as soon as the cord is cut. She's thinking out loud and letting ideas run through her head. Having just read her thread about this being her last week of pregnancy, I get the sense that her mind is all over the place and she's just trying to do what she can to get through this. I understand those feelings.

    PrincessParis, it will be ok. Your life will get back to something you recognize once you have your baby. It will take time, but you can still be young and sexy and have fun, just in a different way. And if you are like most moms, you'll fall in love with that baby and that will become the most important thing to you. It's amazing how we can adapt to such a lifechanging event. No, it won't always be a picnic, but it will be a blessing. Hang in there! You can do it.

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    I think Princessparis is already a mom. I think I remember reading that they have another child, too. The way I read the OP was that she just wanted to go and work just to do it in Vegas, not because she thinks she will bank.

    I think you would have to budget in a lot of extra time finding child care. You could contact people from CL, but then you would have to meet everyone when you go there. You would need to rent a car, or drive there.

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    Yeah, I was just thinking and wondering about it... I've been just sitting here so bored cause it's so hard to do hardly anything except for just sit around! I know my life is going to change dramatically and I think this post was just kind of a way to gauge if others thought would be possible if i reeeeeeeeeeeally wanted to do it.

    Any how, IMO it was kind of harsh to say that venus goddess, but that's your opinion and I respect that. I wasn't really ready to have kids, but I also wasn't ready to throw this one away either. I did have so many dreams and things I wanted to do before becoming a mom and I was hoping that I wouldn't have to give those things up. I actually had a ticket to Vegas bought before I found out I was pregnant!

    But hey, Hawaii is where the family is and hell that's not so bad eh? I just wanted to go to Vegas for the learning experience so when I moved back to Hawaii I would have some wicked skills. But anyways...

    Thanks for the kick in the ass guys. I do think I'll eventually just move there when things are a little more stable and he's grown up a little bit.

    *edit* BTW she was right... not a mom yet... but I did practically raise my two little sisters and am the oldest of 4.... I don't know exactly what it's like to be a mom but I sure know it's hard! wish me luck )

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    Quote Originally Posted by dangerousdiva View Post
    Las Vegas is not children friendly at all and I would never bring my child there while I worked. ... Children need to be nurtured in a stable loving environment, not amongst strangers in an adult oriented city, while you fulfill your dancing dream
    Yup. I want to move to Las Vegas really bad. I'm already super comfortable working there and could boost my income up at least 50%, but I can't. My baby is already 2 years old, but i still don't feel comfortable bringing her there. It just wouldn't offer her the same sort of childhood that she has here in the Northwest.

    So, wait until she's weaned, when you won't have to pump every 2 hours, and she won't be up all night crying because she doesn't have you and then for 4 nights or something and try it out .

    Oh, and BTW, I totally know where you're at right now! When I was preggy I COULD NOT WAIT until I could start dancing again! I sat around listening to my Dancers Wealth course and read SW all day! But, believe me, it is a slow process, getting back out there after a baby. You're body will be fine, but that relationship is so delicate between you and your baby, especially the breastfeeding. It will be your full time job, for better or worse. But then it'll be over and you'll be dancing again. But you definitely need patience.
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    If a dancer is going to travel, it's better she do it while the child is still a baby. Newborn definitely seems to be pushing it though. The child won't know anything about where it is, all they are interested in is eating sleeping and being played with while they are awake. Much easier than dealing with a 4 or 5 year old.

    Only thing I don't like is leaving the child with strangers. It is one thing is you knew someone personally who could recommend a sitter- that is a bit different. Babies could be left to cry for hours and you would not know anything when you pick them up- they can't talk like older children. Whatever you decide, just please be careful.
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    I think the OP was asking for advice and info for a specific situation....not judgement on her mothering skills. While traveling to Vegas with a newborn isn't something I would do personally, I don't think we have the right to judge someone because they are thinking of doing things that we wouldn't do.

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    care.com is a good site too for finding sitters. The only daycares if used over night are at the big hotels since my bf works at one.

    It's hard....working until 3 or 4 in the morning then getting up for school at 7 and having a 2 year old at home. Hard, but doable (thank you red bull and those energy shots)! Are you going to rent a place while you stay here?

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    Quote Originally Posted by dangerousdiva View Post

    I understand that you always wanted to go and then you got pregnant but being a good Mom means prioritizing your goals so that your child has the best life possible. You haven't even given birth yet? Your life is about to dramatically change and you should be focusing on that rather than planning dancing trips. Which is why I choose to not have children because I'm too selfish to give all that up.
    Wow. I think PrincessParis is completely normal. Having two daughters myself, I am able to say that I understand and I have been there. Those last long weeks of pregnancy - your mind definitely wanders. You spend 40 weeks thinking about that baby and the new life that is about to unfold.

    I think that fantasizing/dreaming about wild things you want to do, once you have your body and your life back is normal. I also think that in due time, she will prioritize just fine. I think the dream of dancing in Vegas is probably just that - a dream. She may or may not decide to do it once that little bundle of joy arrives.

    Just from one Mother to another....I do understand those emotions/fantasies!
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    I was responding to the original post where she mentioned nothing about this being a fantasy or dream but a practical endeavor.

    I wouldn't travel with a cat so why the hell would I do it with a newborn?

    Sorry, the way I was raised and the other mothers I know, do not fantasize about leaving their newborns with strangers while they dance in Las Vegas.

    Sounds kind of selfish to me, not to mention unpractical considering late night childcare will be expensive. That's a lot of overhead in addiction to sheriffs card, biz license, hotel, transportation and food for a Vegas newby whose just given birth. By the way, your body will need to be in tip top shape to get hired at the best places in order to afford your overhead.

    These are the realities to consider if you want to fulfill your dream. I think it's irresponsible to take that kind of risk with a newborn, especially if you're doing it for a lark and not out of necessity.

    It's totally different if you live and work in Vegas already.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dangerousdiva View Post
    I was responding to the original post where she mentioned nothing about this being a fantasy or dream but a practical endeavor.

    Sorry, the way I was raised and the other mothers I know, do not fantasize about leaving their newborns with strangers while they dance in Las Vegas.
    It's impossible to know what other mothers or mothers-to-be fantasize about.

    The OP was indeed posting about this idea as if she planned to do it, but my point was that after the birth of her baby, she will most likely reflect back on this idea and realize it was a fantasy during those last long weeks of pregnancy.

    Again, that's just my $0.02 as someone who has been pregnant several times and knows firsthand about the wild roller coaster of emotions.

    I think once her baby arrives she will probably feel much more level-headed and will make the best decisions for her and her child.
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    Quote Originally Posted by holiday View Post
    Yup. I want to move to Las Vegas really bad. I'm already super comfortable working there and could boost my income up at least 50%, but I can't. My baby is already 2 years old, but i still don't feel comfortable bringing her there. It just wouldn't offer her the same sort of childhood that she has here in the Northwest.

    So, wait until she's weaned, when you won't have to pump every 2 hours, and she won't be up all night crying because she doesn't have you and then for 4 nights or something and try it out .

    Oh, and BTW, I totally know where you're at right now! When I was preggy I COULD NOT WAIT until I could start dancing again! I sat around listening to my Dancers Wealth course and read SW all day! But, believe me, it is a slow process, getting back out there after a baby. You're body will be fine, but that relationship is so delicate between you and your baby, especially the breastfeeding. It will be your full time job, for better or worse. But then it'll be over and you'll be dancing again. But you definitely need patience.
    Me too, and then I went back too soon, gave up nursing for it which I regret immensely and realized all I wanted to do is stay home with my daughter.
    I agree Vegas is no place for a little baby. Good luck.

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    I guess I'm just an optimist, but I do think PrincessParis will most likely do "the right thing" for her and her baby.

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    Going to Vegas is not just a fantasy for me, but I realize now that it is something I need to wait to do until he's old enough that I can leave him for a week or two with his dad... which will not be until he's at least a year old.

    One thing that occurred to me was that I don't want to be around smoking for long periods of time and then go home and breastfeed. That's just something I'm not willing to mess around with. So I'm going to wait until he's weened, however long that may be.

    This is work for me... i see going to Vegas as a major learning experience that will make me a better dancer. It's like going to a convention for professional whatevers. I want to go and learn from the best... I'm really not the partying type by all means... I hadn't even thought about messing around down there once. Some day I will definitely go, I'll just have to wait for the right time.

    I know some of you think I'm a bad mom cause I was thinking about going down there, but my situation is one where I need to work and I have my choice of where to go and work until his dad comes back. That's the only reason I was considering Vegas. I thought that it may be worth the hassle to go there instead of going straight to Hawaii (I'm in CT with his parents right now and if you read my other post on the drama between me and my husband you waould know why i can't stay here) Either way I'm going to HAVE to have someone watch him while I go to work and either way I don't have anyone that I know to do that in either states. I'm a single working mom until my husband comes back wherever I end up!

    But anyways thanks again for all the advice guys. Sometimes when you want to do something it's hard to see things that should keep you from doing it. Once again, I was really just curious, that's all and i'm not upset at all that it's not as feesable as i would have liked! I'm happy that I have a better idea of how it all needs to work out!

    And if y'all want to judge me cause I plan on going on a trip to Vegas for a couple weeks to learn the hustle and WORK when my son is old enough to stay with his dad for a bit then that's y'alls own issue. I personally don't see anything wrong with it esp. cause I know he'll be in good hands.... lol and NOT in sin city! I can def. see how that's not a place to bring little ones. I've been there once before and it really is not the best environment for small children
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    I apologize if you felt judged, as I don't have children I have no idea what you're going through. I'm glad you are listening to the practical advice posted and made a better decision.

    Your post struck a chord with me because my movie was interrupted this weekend by the cops searching for a couple who left their two year old asleep in the car. The baby woke up crying and someone broke into the car to rescue it and called the cops. The car was 88 degrees at 11:30pm at night. I seriously could have spit at them as the cops led them out.

    Though your situation is very different, some parents are very inexperienced and want to live it up, while dumping their kid anywhere without realizing the repercussions.

    I wish you the best.

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    PP: Your new plan sounds less like a fantasy and more solid & thought-out than your original post. That is good to hear. I had faith in you either way girl!
    I hope you post pics of the little doll when he's born (or on your MySpace), I can't wait to see!
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    Quote Originally Posted by dangerousdiva View Post
    Your post struck a chord with me because my movie was interrupted this weekend by the cops searching for a couple who left their two year old asleep in the car. The baby woke up crying and someone broke into the car to rescue it and called the cops. The car was 88 degrees at 11:30pm at night. I seriously could have spit at them as the cops led them out.
    Fucking hell. That is horrifying. Did the police make that announcement in the theatre or something? And how fucking selfish is that? They really needed to go see a movie right then, huh.

    And, I hope I wasn't too judgmental on ya either PrincessParis, I also was thinking you meant going down there really soon, and I'm sort of a Nazi about breastfeeding and parenting and all that (I really, really do try to keep in in line though ) so I just wanted to share my thoughts.
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    Oh, no offense taken at all!

    I can see how easy it would be to hear a girl talk about going to Vegas when she's in my state as irresponsible. Usually when people talk about going to Vegas it means they want to party

    My circumstances are highly unusual and even I have a hard time understanding them sometimes! Like i literally have to go over them in my head to remember all the different aspects and conditions of where I'm at in my intricate existence!

    What you saw the other day Diva is absolutely horrifying! I watch Law and Order SVU all the time and that seems like something straight out of that TV show... just plain sick.

    And I think it's cool Holiday that you care so much about kids. I'm super all about my kid too like I won't even consider formula and I'm going to try my hardest for a natural birth... hell I'm not even going to let them take him from my room unless they absolutely have to! I'm going to be super protective of him and I know it's going to be hard to let someone else take care of him when I have to go back to work... but at least I'm dancing and making good money so I have more time to spend with him and provide him with GOOD care... and a nanny cam!!! Hell, the boys getting nothing but organics once he stops boob-juicing So I understand... sometimes I feel like I'm being an overly ambitious nazi myself. But I think that's a good thing you know? Good intentions.

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    I myself have never danced in Vegas, but a friend of mine danced there for a few months and brought her daughter along. She told me that in the clubs she danced in there were actually ads posted up for sitters who would watch your child overnight while you would work all of whom had references/background checks.

    She didn't tell me how much it cost, I assume it could get expensive though.

    Also, her daughter was about 4 or 5, not a newborn

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